Lost Motivation / GF thread

Well it has been some time since I have posted on the forums. I started PE a year ago but quickly quit after 3 months when my girlfriend started asking me what thundersplace.org was (in retrospect I should have been more careful with my browser history). Once she started asking questions I lost all interest in PE. Well now I have decided for 2010 I need to get back into PE for myself. My question is though should I ask the girlfriend to “join” me in this endeavor (i.e tell me if she notices any difference and just for moral support). My main issue arises from what size I should make my goal. I have this huge complex with the size of her previous lovers. One such penis was referred to “so big I didn’t know when it would stop growing” but at the same time was “the size of the guys in the movie” (which I am gonna place at 7.5-8). As such we have a dildo which is 7 x 5.5 and I was wondering what you guys though about having her tell me how much different these guys were in girth and length to this dildo and set my goal at those respective stats. As always I greatly appreciate any help on this issue.

~nitro420

Don’t bother asking for her approval or participation. You should be doing it for you, not her.

If she had said she would like you to have a bigger dick then that would be different.

PE is like bodybuilding. You do it for your own self improvement.

And don’t bother asking her about comparisons to her former boyfriends.

Women don’t know shit about measurements, and they lie most of the time anyway.

Just do your thing, make it big, and make her moan.

Don’t let her know anything about PE until you are a veteran. Guys get excited about the thought of PE and want to tell their lovers and then when they lose interest its harder on you because you got your girl thinking you was going to have a big cock.

If you do ask her about the previous guys don’t come across as jealous.

Second tinytim.

If you were in a long term committed relationship, that would be different. It might not be a good decision to make yourself too large for your Significant Other in that case.

As it is, though, until you start approaching the “Ouch! It’s too damn big!” range, PE away until you are where you want to be.

Dead-on response and something I have to remind myself daily to keep sane.

Don’t tell her, and don’t ask about other boyfriends.

I wouldn’t even set a long term goal just yet. Start up again and see what happens. Sure I would like an 8x6, but I’m just looking for any, and all gains right now. I’ll figure out what a good size will be as a grow.

I also agree that girls have no clue on size. Unless she measured it herself, she really doesn’t know.

Nitro,
I agree with everyone above. Don’t tell her. This is for you. I have been married over 20 years and the wife doesn’t know I am doing this. I don’t plan on telling her until I get significant gains.

Also, you said you girlfriend found out some time ago. What was her reaction then?

Take care and happy gains,

Do not tell her at all. Its best for her NOT to know. That way when you see a change in your reaction during sex you know its from “true” gains, not her trying to help out your ego/insecurities. That was one of the deciding factors for me.

If they know you are trying to improve it they will say everything and anything to make you feel better.

Penox, good point.

I’ve said this in other threads, but my main reason is I don’t know how she’ll react and it’s not something I’ll stop if she asks me to. I also don’t want the pressure of her thinking my dick will be getting bigger, and it might not.

If I get gains, I get them.. but if not, it’s not the end of the world.

I’m with everyone else. I just can’t see doing it. Perhaps I’m wrong, but the first thing I would think a woman would think if you told them that you are PE’ing is that you are self-conscious about your penis size. I’ve heard a few women comment on guys being self-conscious about their penis’ and it has never been positive.