My frustration.

This will need moving but my posting priveliges restrict me to this forum

Fellow Thunders members, I seek your counsel.

I find myself in a situation with a woman who says she loves me dearly. We have been friends for a long time and see each other now and then when work schedules allow.
She is a little older than me at 31 and quite experienced whilst I am yet to take things past making out/fondling etc.

We are due to meet up soon around valentines day and it’s blatant she wants to take things further, everytime we meet the chemistry is there, we have kissed but kept it at just that. She seems unperturbed by my reluctance and I’m guessing she must have sussed out that I’m not packing, any normal guy would have sealed the deal by now .
I’m an average looking guy and keep myself in decent shape but my penis has always held me back from relationships, I feel like I owe it to women not to put them through a lousy/awkward experience and for me not to end up a total emotional wreck after it becomes common knowledge that I’m hung like a 10 year old…

I don’t think she would be so heartless as to announce my “problem” but I can’t see this going past a one time thing that would destroy a good friendship.
I’m not sure what the real use of this post is but I needed to put it down maybe hear some perspective. This is a good site and I’m sure there will be guys on here my size who have stepped up to the mark and actually found themselves in a loving relationship with a good caring partner. Right now I am clearly forming a mental barrier preventing me from enjoying one of lifes greatest pleasures (I’m talking about love not just fucking).

Thanks for reading guys (and girls)

Wow - I share a lot of your feelings, although I’m lucky enough to be in a long term relationship. Size matters - of course it does - but it’s not the be all and end all so I think you need to take the plunge and take things on to the next level. Carry on PE and maybe in 6 months you’ll have reached your goal (and maybe her perfect size?).

I’m smaller than you (just started PE today) at 5.75” and 4.0”. Encouraging to see the gains you’ve made - how long has it taken you?

Hello,

After careful reflections, I have come to the conclusion that in order for someone like you to be successful and really confident in a relationship without having to be worried about what people will say about your size are to:

1. Buy a blow up doll and stick the picture of the person you want to be with on it.
2. Kick yourself in the balls repeatedly for hours.
3. P.E for 5 more years till you reach 8 x 6 then have sex with her, if she’ll still want you.
4. Have sex with a strap on. (The fun part is that when you are done using it in her she can use it on you)
5. Get some counseling with Oprah or Dr. Phil.
6. Become a Scientologist, I am sure they have a remedy for 5.8 x 4.4 penises.
7.Stop whining about your size and tell her about your insecurities.

Sincerely bro, you already know the solution even before posting. Get a grip of yourself. Buy her flowers, tell her how much you love her and stop wasting bandwidth at TP.

Take care,
Padawan

P.S: I believe you need to get up and be with her. You are never going to find a solution for your problem by sitting behind a monitor.
P.P.S: There are no miracle exercises that will make you gain quickly, so that you’ll be ready for valentine’s day.

5.8”(almost 6”)X4.4” is a good size to make love with your lady. No need to worry about the size.

Thanks for the reply. I think I will go ahead and heed the advice, after all it seems daft not to really. I’ve judged women quite unfairly from the things I have heard them say about small penises. I know size matters in spite of what a handfull of women who say the contrary believe.

Confidence is as much a blessing as a big cock though.

I’ve been PE’ing for over a year now. Gains have stalled, not seen anything for months so maybe it’s time to re-evaluate.

All the best in your PE journey mate, the newbie routine will give results.

Smart thinking. All the very best with your girl.

Padawan: You’re right, I am whining but I guess when you find yourself at a low ebb in life and don’t want to pay a shrink to hear it the internet is a good free alternative to vent things you can’t tell even your closest friend.

I liked your first post by the way, It did make me chuckle.

Don’t let the big boss know you are using his website to vent about your daily frustration.

Glad it did! You see normally I would be kind, considerate and sympathetic to the person and then next thing I know we have a thread with more than 5 pages dealing about personal issues (I meant constant ranting about how life is hard for people with small penises and how they never going to get laid) on a P.E forum.

If you make some research around here you’ll find lots of people with similar issues as you and the only solution was to actually for them to wake up and realize that the size of your love is the most important thing in a relationship and not size of your penis.

Wake up call for you! Now phone her for me and say how much you love being with her.

Take care.

In hindsight, yes I perhaps should have searched the many existing threads on this issue. Kind of regret making this thread now but at best it was catharsis for me and at worst a few old timers had to read some more shit about a lonley guy with a small pecker.

I hope this does not blacklist me in any way. I’ll stick to reading for a while me thinks ;)

GirthQuest-

Your length at 5.8 NBP is not bad. BP must be well over 6 no?

I never bother with NBP, but I started way shorter than you, but I never let it stop me getting laid. I got good feedback too. Women love my butt, so that always helped.

In any case, the older type has seen it all.

You could go two ways.

1) Just tell her, look the reason I have not ripped your cloths of is because I am embarrassed bout my size. You will be able to tell a lot by her reaction. If I was a worried as you, I would probably do this these days.

2) Just get on with it, most women are a)not obsessed with sex, b)not even remotely size queens.

Are you still a virgin by the way?
And how old are you?

Don’t worry about being blacklisted, Thunder and the moderators are very understanding and cool people.

Anyways need to sop posting before I start making this thread go over 5 pages. ;)

You will not know how she reacts till it happens. Risk vs reward.
I say go for it.

How old are you?

You are slightly bigger then I am and I’ve gone through the same thing.

You don’t need to worry much about your size, I’m around the same size as you and most of my girlfriends didn’t mind; a few did mention that it was smaller than their past ex’s. One thing I found interesting with all of them was that the more sex I had with them, the less my size mattered; Their Vagina’s pretty much conformed to my Penis after a lot of sex.
Because I was always afraid of my size, I did a lot (I MEAN A LOT) of research on pleasing women, for a few of them I am the only guy (still the only guy) to get them to orgasm. Ironically enough the same girls who said I was smaller, were also the same girls who said i was the best sexual partner they’ve had.
The key is to build a strong relationship before sex, than even if they are disappointed with your size they will be more keen and more than willing to stay with you, at which point you sleep with them a lot and show them you can be an amazing partner using other techniques aside from your penis, as time goes on her Vagina will conform to your penis size and thus you don’t have to worry much about your size anymore either way.

You’ll notice many guys will say their SO have stated how they feel huge (once they start PE-ing)… yet chances are many of these SO have probably had much bigger before in their past, its simply because the SO vagina has conformed and become tighter to the their partners Penis size. (The vagina is an amazing thing).

You shouldn’t tell her that you think your small. There’s no other turn on like confidence and telling her you think your small is not being confident. Chances are she isn’t even going to tell you or she won’t even think (if you guys are in love) that your too small or she has had bigger, and don’t ask. If you are a virgin, she’ll understand if you tell her the reason why you haven’t had sex with her, if you say something like “I don’t want to have sex with you (pause), I want to make love with you and I want to build up trust” something along those lines.

5.8 erect length ain’t small by any means