Quitting porn forever today. Anyone want in on this as an accountability buddy?

What I said in the title. I am tired of it and its effect on my life. Sad to think I have been trying to quit with mixed success for over 4 years. Message me if you want in. If i relapse again I plan to break it down and learn from it so I don’t use the same reason again.

You can do it!

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Thanks guys!

I figure if I try enough times it will work eventually, as long as I learn from every failure. Even if I am at 1% to success right now and I gain 1% knowledge every relapse, after 100 relapses I will find it much easier to quit lol

The key is to 1. recognize the triggers. As soon as they occur you have to 2. fill your attention with something else. Which is also another way of saying that you have to 3. replace “it” with something else.

And, you also have to 4. continually remind yourself of how you feel afterwards. You never get what you think you’re going to get. It’s a trick, in a way. You end up a lesser person feeling horribly about yourself. You feel “had.” At least I do.

5. It really helped me to look into the nature of the industry and how the young women are treated, what their destinies are, and what it does to them physically, emotionally and spiritually - and, I always think: that could be my sister, my daughter, my friend, etc.

Im trying for more than 2 years (also trying to stop masturbating).

My advice is to you is try to be the least possible on the internet because there are triggers EVERYWHERE !

And from seeing an ass pic your brain can trick you into porn , beware brother and good luck.

Very true! My own rule is that I’m not generally hanging around aimlessly on the internet; I’m either on it for a deliberate reason - OR, I’m off the internet focusing on something else. As soon as I find myself aimlessly surfing - I get off and step away. THAT is so often how I get sucked in.

Good rules everyone. Yes I am the same way, even a small trigger can make me self justify that I can watch porn. Sometimes it is because I feel like resetting would be easier than fighting the urge and keeping going, but that is a dumb thought. It is always better to fight the urge and keep going because an hour later, the urge is reduced to zero. Just like sometimes after you are hungry you stop being hungry.

Does anyone else want in? I am interested in messaging just about every day, just a few sentences. I will just send you if I have struggled that day and how I overcame any urges. Messaging every day will help both of us and only take minutes.

I will update this thread periodically. Sometimes I remember more negative aspects of PMO that I didn’t before. Hopefully others will be able to identify with and benefit from this.

For example, I am sure there is a causative relationship between frequency of porn and a slight return of an old speech impediment I used to have over 5 years ago. About a year ago, when I was better about avoiding porn, I had frequent streaks and hit 90 days more than once. During this time, I believed I had totally outgrown this speech impediment. Then, I felt it slightly return this year, not full fledged but enough to make me less confident about speaking with friends and colleagues. This year I have also been relapsing frequently. After 3-4 days of being clean, I am back to my normal speech. This makes sense to me because dopamine is involved in speech as well as many other processes. So add speech fluency to the long list of negatives along with damage to confidence, mood, concentration… etc

I hope others can benefit from this.