Recently discovered ED and trying to pin down the cause

Hey all.
I’ve recently been discovering ED, and it’s something I’ve never really had an issue with. I’ve always gotten rock hard erections and even at that. A very short refractory period, like 5-10 min.

I want to preface this by mentioning possible reasons why:

A.) My ex and I broke up in October, she was an incredibly hot red haired woman (definitely never had a problem with ED in bed with her)
But after we broke up I still got erections. Although I did not sleep with anyone for about a 5 month period. In these 5 months I re-entered PE with Penimaster Pro and an LA Pump. Penimaster = hot wrap, 30min on, 15 break, 30 min on, hot wrap LA Pump =15 min, porn was on to maintain arousal. I don’t believe this was the cause though maybe it was, but I don’t think so. Which brings me to B when I really noticed the drop off.

B.) I quit marijuana about 3 weeks to a month ago. And I quit watching porn or the most part. This is when I feel like I noticed a big drop off in erection quality and frequency. Along with that, I also quit masturbating for the most part also. During this time I noticed that when I DID masturbate that although I can make myself cum as quickly as before, my erections weren’t a full 100%, 90 to 95% maybe total. At least that’s how it felt. I also came a lot less whereas before it was a lot.

C.) Monday night I met a woman for a casual encounter and while I did get hard, I knew it wasn’t 100%. We as men can have sex with a less than 100%, erection, it’s just not as good. But I made it happen by a hair. The following night (last night) I met a different woman. Usually I’m hard before the pants come off. This was the first time I ever pulled a flaccid penis out, and it was not quite how I’d have liked that to go. The difficulty was obvious and it mentally didn’t help that I was watching her blow a flaccid penis for the reason that it wasn’t impressive as it is when hard. The difficulty being obvious I lied down and had her give me a hand job until I could get it at least to the 80% mark. I got to the point where I felt it was enough to have sex. I got up and by the time the condom was unwrapped, I was mostly back to flaccid. 35 to 40% at best. At this point I told her that this wasn’t working and we stopped and just hung out and talked for the rest of the night.

I don’t know if it was residual feelings about my ex (I feel like I’m over her and I’m definitely not depressed or reeling anymore). I think it has something to do with quitting marijuana and porn. I smoked for years and years, and porn has been the go to when masturbating. BUT I’d like to get to the bottom of this and maybe hear what you guys think about it. I’ve watched porn by myself while in relationships and still had no problem. But the only thing that was there 100% of the time was marijuana. Which leads me to think it’s predominantly the marijuana absence and secondarily the porn absence perhaps.

Let me know what you guys think. I could use the guidance

Thanks for taking the time to read and looking forward to responses.

You do realize that pot and porn are bad for erections!

Thanks for the reply.

What I’ve noticed is the removal of pot and porn caused ED problems. When I was on both, I had no problems in the slightest even when I wasn’t necessarily high and with a woman and not by myself with porn.
BUT what I believe you’re trying to mean is that doing them both for so long and frequently created a dependency.
The questions is. Can I get 100% erections and the volume of ejaculate that I had while on porn and pot eventually without it. And how long do you think it would take?

So far I’ve been off of porn for roughly a month and pot about the same. I’d love to hear yours or anyones take on this. Or even personal accounts where this is relatable to them and their experience.

Thanks again for the reply, I appreciate it.

I’m not sure the cause and effect on marijuana are so clear. A number of forum members have mentioned they use pot as an enhancer for sex. On the other hand, a friend of mine in meatspace told me he has severe ED, which he blames on heavy pot use for decades. He feels like it burned out something in his brain. Of course, there’s the difference between “occasional use” and “borderline stoner” to consider, too.

I suspect it’s like the keto diet - while modern medicine likes to assume all patients are spherical and of uniform density, people stubbornly insist on having individual differences.

Hey AndyJ

Did your friend get it when he quit? I’ve only noticed it when I quit. I’m not 100% sure that that’s the cause. I smoked everyday for 10-15 years, I had 2-3 month breaks intermittently during those times but I can’t remember if I had sex or the need to perform during those times. Porn was still there, I’d used it for masturbation. But like I was saying, even when not high (not having quit, just not having smoked recently) I still wouldn’t have any problems.

Just trying to pin down if it’s the removal of pot, porn or both. Or if it’s psychological because of my breakup and how attractive she was. But I don’t feel it’s the latter because after the breakup I still had porn and pot and no problems. Which makes me think that it was the cold turkey of quitting both. I know they both release endorphins and activate the reward centers. I’m guessing doubling down to quitting both made my brain go WTF and say “too much all at once”. Another factor could be that the two different women from the last two nights were about 6’s out 10 whereas my ex was a 9/10.

Thanks for responding and I’d still be into hearing others experiences. This helps a lot

Wouldn’t it be simple if it actually was giving up pot and porn? Yes it would because then all you’d have to do is go back to them and you’re fine. I wouldn’t recommend that because it took effort to do what you did and to waste that effort would be a crime but it would be easier than facing the reality of your situation.

I am sure you’re aware of PTSD; everyone knows that one. Just look at the words;post traumatic stress which means weeks, months and at times even years the stress of what these people went through, what you’re going through now, comes out and bites them in the ass! In your case well you have your issue.

Your cure? Realizing what it is,not putting pressure on yourself and allowing time to do what it does; heal.

Hello bro, it would be p.e what you are commenting is very strange.

Omg, I must have the worst ED then hahahaha!

As a daily marijuana vaporizer and porn+masturbater, I notice the opposite.

If I stop watching porn and masturbating, and having sex for more than 3 days in a row, my libido goes down and my EQ suffers.

If I’m having sex, that’s not the case, if I’m masturbating that’s not the case, so I’m forced to conclude that at least for me and my libido, it’s:

USE IT OR LOSE IT!

I’m sure that If you’ve been using marijuana regularly for a long time and you stop, you’d be having some sort of issues in some way. Even if it’s not 100% physical withdrawal. It has many different effects both physical and mental and such a drastic change is bound to have side effects.

I don’t know what may be causing current. ED issues. I discovered I had the beginnings of ED about four or five years ago. It was like clockwork. The Wife would get me hard and by the time I would get to her side of the bed, I would be completely deflated. I figured it up to a combination of things. Firstly, I was extremely overweight, still am. I also had developed a borderline diabetic issue. I think my age may have something to do with it as I am in my mid 50s. I also think my porn dependency had a lot to contribute to my ED. It just came to the point where we were just doing oral for a while. I am not a drinker but i do smoke and vape weed now.

Even looking down at my wife with her ass in the air and vagina lubed and ready for action wasn’t enough to get me hard. I had to look at porn while having sex with her to keep erect and that’s pretty bad. My wife would encouraged me to look at porn during sex just to get her serviced.

I just got my first prescription of Vigra, the doctor is taking me off my diabetic medication, because I am now in range however who knows what nerve damage may have been done when I was diabetic. I recently lost about 50 pounds in and finally have discovered and have been sticking to my PE program religiously.

I am expecting or at least hoping that I can get it and keep it up for next time we try sex.

As for marijuana, it gets me really horny and can enhance the experience so I will continue to use it. My recommendation is that you go see your urologist because they may be able to tell you if it’s physical or mental or a combination of things.
Evl

He had been a heavy user for around 20 years at the time, mid-30s then. He was still a heavy user. But honestly, I’d never even heard of “erectile dysfunction” back then, and he might not have, either. He was certain it was the pot, but it could easily have been unrelated ED.

I think depression might have had a negative effect on your erection quality and sex drive since you and your ex broke up

Thanks for the reply!

I’m 99.9% sure it’s mental for me. I’m just turned 36 in November, I’m 5’11 and weigh 140, so I’m slim without weight issue and healthy. After reading some of the other kind members replies I’ve basically come to the conclusion that weed and porn are a huge part of it, and the other part is that the women I slept with earlier this week were not as attractive as my ex. I am over her and not depressed at all (I know the symptoms), but unconsciously I believe that I’m very aware that these women (not to be callous) were a downgrade in physical attraction.

The only reason I’d want to return to the weed and pot would be so I can continue a quality sex life. But I may just need to bite the bullet and take a break. And try to teach myself to get hard without these things. Or naturally over time become that way.

I believe it’s the pot and porn withdrawal. On the flip side though, I believe that the PE does not play any role in that so at least I can continue to do that while taking a break from sex. Some here say use it or lose it. But it is not fun to bring a date home only to not be able to get hard. It’s not a good first impression. I’ll probably continue be and continue to masturbate, but not as much as I used to. We’ll see what that does over a month or two. I can afford that at least.

That can’t be it. I was slightly depressed a month or two after breakup. But I still got rock hard without issue. I’m definitely not depressed now but the removal of pot and porn really made the change, predominantly at least.

This is what I’m experiencing now. He meant that it’s bad in the sense that you become dependent on it, like you’ve mentioned here. Although my libido isn’t down, just the erections. I’m going to try to take the high road and keep off of them. I’ve already gone a month. I’m confident that my brain will rewire. Thanks for the reply!