Telling the Girlfriend
Hope this is the right forum for this, but since I don’t have a New Thread button in the Members Forum, I figured this would be the place to put it. Since starting up on jelqing in late October of last year, using the newbie routine, I’ve pretty much eliminated any possibility of being below 6” NPBL and, at some times (before the day’s jelqing), measure up as much as 6.125 inches in that category; I’ve decided I’m going to shoot for the 8x6” mark, but after telling a girl I had met online how strongly I felt for her in December, I felt discouraged to continue my routine. I’ve read around here, and other sites which detail the “optimal size” for women, and figured that, if I was still doing PE when we got to our first time, she’d be upset and bring out the usual lines of “You’re fine the size that you are”, &c, &c, and tell me she didn’t want a 8x6 guy. Took quite a bit of time to work up to the point where I told her, but when I did, I told her everything. I felt so strongly about her by then, even more than in December, that I was prepared to give up my jelqing and be a 6x5.5” average kind of guy if it meant the difference between being her boyfriend and being her ex-boyfriend.
Let’s just say that the reaction was.. Far from what I expected.
Her first reaction was surprise that I could actually do that, change my size, and one of the first questions she asked me was “Do I need to do my own exercises so you can fit better?” Then she said that she was “very proud” of me because I saw a problem (average length, when I’m trying to be exceptional), made a plan (jelqing 3 days on with newbie routine, 1 off day, 2 on, 1 off), have a goal, and am working towards it as opposed to just being angry and complaining without doing anything. I admit that I was rather surprised by her willingness to go along with it, but let me say, it was surprise in the best way possible! That was last month, I’ve jumped back into my jelqing routine since then (with the same plan/schedule as I laid out, with no interest in changing it until my gains stop) and really hope to reach that 8x6” in a couple of years. She came to me a week ago and talked about doing Kegel exercises and other things to help make sure things will fit, only, instead of using a metal rod or something else for some of those exercises, she wants to use me. :D We’re going to wait until marriage to go all the way, which will be a couple years to make sure the money’s there to live together, but that gives me plenty of time to work on my stats so that honeymoon’s really, really memorable; I read that, if a well-endowed man is a woman’s only partner for a long enough time, she’ll actually adjust to his size and things will fit that much easier.
I guess the moral of the story is that, no matter how little chance you think you have going in, the worst thing you can do is give up on yourself. Considering that, out of this, I’ve found that, despite my long, long break, I’ve already seen some results in the month or so that I’ve gotten back on my routine, I’d say that goes double for PE.