Time for PE with Wife and Kids

Hello Folks.

So I’m a “new member” but been a lurker for a couple years. Started following the Newbie routine about 18 months ago. Went after it best I could for about 3 months, then haphazardly for another 3 months before dropping off entirely. Never saw any gains, but I’m most convinced that the cause might be due to lack of time. When I say I went “after it best I could for 3 months” what I mean is I would spend an extra 20 minutes or so in the shower in the morning before going to work. Routine consisted of some warm up, stretching, jelqs with shampoo/conditioner, then some cool-down stretching, I also began adding Ulis to this brief routine after the first 6 weeks or so. Aside from this 20-minute window, I would maybe find time to do some additional stretching throughout the day, but not much else. In other words, I wonder if my lack of results was due to lack of time focused on PE. Problem is, I don’t know when to find the time! Wife and I have a crazy life with a ton of kids, job, activities, etc. So it’s difficult. I never told her about my efforts or aspirations around PE, frankly not sure what her response would be.

Anyhow, would love any advice from other husband/fathers who have found a path to fitting PE into their schedule.

When I read this title for a split second I thought "what a sicko"! Kidding of course.

My wife and I have a young child that takes up a lot of our time. One of the reasons I’ve been able to have consistency with PE is because I work from home. I also squeeze in some sessions late at night while everyone is asleep. You have to make time.

This is a great thread from Houstonwoods that mentions juggling work/family and making time for PE: Houstonwoods’ Pictures

Same issue, plus I am an author and need time to write. I ~carve~ time out of my day by waking extra early. I am up by 415 to 430, PE girth in the shower while house is quiet but for the idiot cat. 30 minutes hit it hard. I get to work early, write for 1.5hrs then get to working. I am an engineer so cube rat. I stretch for several 10min breaks in stall at work, hit it hard. I keep a heat pad in my chair for warmup. Then after gym workout at lunch, hit gym hard then a bit of mildly awkward girth in the shower stall. 15 mins. Then scarf lunch at my desk and back to work. Home and kids and wife in the evening, then girth in bed if I have the privacy. Wife loves tv and fb so I am low on the list, usually plenty of space.

Then up early and back to it.

Carve time. It is the only way.

Saul

Wife and kids here. Got to be an opportunist with my PE. Late at night and early mornings.

Also, if I can’t get in a session oh well, I just do what I can do and figure gains will come over the years.

@8X6Dream, “When I read this title for a split second I thought “what a sicko”! Kidding of course.” Seriously had me dying laughing when I went back and re-read my thread title! I’m usually pretty anal about this kind of stuff, so pretty hilarious. Thanks for pointing it out!

@Saulgoode45, Dude you are a beast! Respect! Keep gettin’ after it!

@Everyone else, thanks for the advice. The saying, “we make time in life for the things we consider a priority” comes to mind. I get it, I just have to carve out the time.

I realize now there are some other threads out there that I’ll start digging into, but one quick question. Any of you tell your wife about it? If so, how’s the response? I’ve always been covert, and think that’ll be the way to go with this, but curious about anyone’s experience who has brought their wife in the loop.

That’s so funny about the thread title. Seems like we have the same sense of humor.

Funny you mention telling the wife. I actually have a thread on this: I Told the Wife About PE!

I was stealth for about a year and a half. She had her suspicions though. It was a weight of my shoulders telling her. It’s all in the thread.

Thanks for the link, checking out your thread. Appreciate the input!

I told mine I post on a mens site anon about very intimate stuff.

She said, You didn’t use your Saulgoode account did you.

Hell no! That is what I said. Because that would just be stupid.

I will tell her eventually. So post only what she could read.

Saul

My wife knows about PE and I tell my kids to go watch tv in the living room and I’m all set for 2 hours

There are many that do it right in front of their wife and even get a lending hand. My wife knows about all my penis devices and laughs about it. I told her that as a man gets older it’s important to also keep the penis healthy through regular exercise. We don’t speak about the “size” component, which she probably assumes is what I’m really focused on since there are two types of measuring devices in my bathroom drawer along with a penis extender!

She will also giggle when she grabs my cock and instantly knows I have been recently pumping.

When I used a bathmate in the tub she would sometimes come in, as I told her I was going to use the new pump that I purchased. I’m personally not entirely comfortable with her watching me when I do my exercises because she really doesn’t see it as a turn on for her, so her natural response was to laugh, which I get.

My wife doesn’t care if I look at porn nor has she ever cared about me masturbating which I do regularly even with us having regular sex. I’m lucky in that she’s low maintenance and sees my high libido as a plus.

I guess it all depends on mutual respect. I don’t bother her about whatever she wants do with her free time and she doesn’t bother me about mine.