What's some ways to get an easy erection before sex?

Ok, so next weekend I’m hoping to have sex for the first time with my girl. We’re both virgins, but we’ve already done things together so it won’t be a suprise to see her naked or anything. But she’s only seen my dick once. She’s felt it when it was about half hard many many times, but she’s only seen it once.. and she gave me head that one time. Although, I guess I was nervous so the whole time I was barely half hard. I was still pretty good size, about 6.5”.. and I’ve shown her pics on my phone of how hard and big I can get.. but when we lose our virginity to each other I want her to remember my dick at it’s fullest. I want it to be as hard as I can get it, but how do I go about doing this?

Keep in mind I’ll probably be nervous, so I’d have to get past that, and I’ll also be doing a stretching routine early that morning (this will happen at night so this may not effect it). But what are some things I can do before we meet so that my dick becomes fully erect while we fuck? Would wet jelqs or kegels help?

Don’t do any PE that day.

She’ll be nervous, too.

Take your time, put lots of effort into foreplay (nipples, kissing, fingering, etc.). When it comes time to fuck, if you decide to do it (you don’t have to), have her help with the condom. She’ll also probably need to assist you into her. Take some lube just in case she’s too nervous to get wet.

Take your time. There’s no rush to losing your virginity.

Don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t go well and if you later find that it isn’t the wonderful experience you thought it should be. First time sex is like that.

Take your time. Focus on her and you’ll get hard enough.

Growin, I think you’re heading straight to limp dick, premature ejaculation, etc because of performance anxiety. Damn buddy! It’s your first time and instead of thinking about enjoying it you think about being big, hard, etc.

My first time was terrible on the performance aspect. I was so stressed that I was shaking, I only got about 75% hard and I lasted about 15sec. I was having performance anxiety. And I’m sorry to tell you that but, from what I have heard from all my pals, their first time has not been great either. I only know one guy who claims to have had an ok first time on the performance aspect.

I think you need to relax a bit, talk with your girlfriend so that you can both be comfortable with whatever happens. And if she’s a virgin too, man that does not simplify things. You have to go easy on her and be careful because it can turn out o be very painful for her.

Relax and enjoy, no matter if you only last 10 sec, or if you can’t get hard at all. Just enjoy the sight and touch of your gf’s body and enjoy being close to her both emotionally and physically. Performance should not be a matter a any time and specially on your first time. It’s rare that the big hard-ons and the hour long banging happen on the first time. They will come as you pick up some experience.

powpow: You explained it nicely, unfortunately he will probably not even realize how nervous he is until he’s had sex for a couple years :)

Growin: those two previous posts sum everything up nicely - just relax and try to make her comfortable as well as yourself. You will get hard very easy when the time comes :)

May I suggest that you consider actually being in her secondary to sex. I use the word sex in a more general way than copulation. Perhaps if you spent time touching her and kissing her (perhaps ‘masturbating’ her), perhaps you could do these things until the opportune time when you’re fully hard and she’s eager.

I usually state things unclearly. Perhaps you could focus less on her feeling you in her.

Thats 12 seconds longer than me. :D

One word: RELAX

Don’t worry about it. Focus on her and everything will be fine. It’s pretty much impossible not to blow your load quickly first time, because it’s like nothing you’ve ever felt before.

You could jerk off before you see her, but you’ll probably still blow your load quickly, because that’s just how it is first time. But so what, you’ll be able to go again as many times as you like afterwards.

Just concentrate on making her feel good and making yourself feel good. Enjoy! :)

What he said…

Take your time… Don’t do it like you see in the movies… Take it slow… KISS ALOT!

Getting a good erection is about being a selfish bastard. It took me twenty years to realise you have to put your self first.

It’s no good at all when going for a good boner to worry about what she wants - she doesn’t know anyway.

Ignore her and enjoy your own sensations.

Afterwards you are far more likely to be a stud in her eyes if you do your own thing and have a 110% erection rather than go all limp trying to work out what she wants.

In case I am giving the wrong impression the above comments are meant in a sexual context. Outside of screwing be kind, caring, strong, romantic and all the other things ladies like.

To refine what I said above.

Most men that can have a problem getting 100% erect with a woman have no problem at all on their own. So what causes the difference?

Obviously the presence of a woman! How ironic that the thing you spend so much time chasing, lusting over and fantasising about actually robs you of your sexual power just when you need it. Why does this happen? Because you have performance anxiety. Because you are a nice guy and you want to please her. Because it means too much to you. Maybe if you are no good she won’t want to fuck you again? Because all these things are spinning around in your head?

Solution? Stop worrying about pleasing her and you are more likely to please her. Paradoxical but true.

Boay my first time I was humping like a rabbit , but last only for a minute that’s about it, just go easy and slowly and concentrate on her not you dick!

My first time I didn’t realize how important it is to not have to pee, and I had masterbated a few hours back, so I had a slightly full bladder … hard as a rock, no trouble there, but I couldn’t come. At the time I thought that I went for about 3 hours … in hindsight, closer to 1 and a half hours. I never did come that day.
Performance anxiety played a role, too; normally I can come twice fairly easily, especially with that much time between them.

I’d say, relax, focus on having fun … it’s just like anything else you do with that girl. When you go to a movie with her, the goal is for both of you to have fun, and this is the same. Make sure she’s comfortable (though in the future you may not want to:p ) and not scared. Try to enjoy it yourself, but don’t focus on the penetration itself until near the end (not at the end, near the end; you should try to do more than collapse, spent, into a state of sleeplike oblivious, in the seconds following your orgasm. At least say thank you); instead, spend as much time as you two can endure, maybe a little more, doing forplay. You will be amazed at how much better sex feels, if foreplay has gotten your anticipation levels high.

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