Any fears about a bigger cock?

789,

I can empathize with your feelings. My sex life with my wife has never been very outstanding. Once in a while we’ll have knock-down drag-out wild and woolly sex, but for the most part our sex is quite tame. Also, its a once or twice a week thing. And as you can imagine, after six days without sex I never seem to last as long as I’d like. Hell, I sometimes feel resentment with ten minutes after sex because I know it may be another week before I’ll have it again. I have had amazing sex with other girlfriends so I feel confident that “our” problem is not entirely “my” problem.
So I very much fear that I sooner or later I’ll have an opportunity to drag the monster out and try it on some unsuspecting little co-ed. I don’t hit on other women often. I’ve been lucky in that girls will often come my way, rather than my having to try and schmooze them. But I’m afraid that if a real hottie puts the moves on me I may not have the fortitude or will to resist. I never thought I’d be one to cheat on my wife nor to get a divorce, and yet as our relationship continues to grow in shades of mediocrity I am forced to worry what may happen.

I sorta feel the way 789 feels about the cheating thing. Hopefully the fantasies will be enough and my wife will take a renewed interest in sex.

Scott

I wish that if I hook up seriously with someone she will be bisexual and open for suggestions.

BJT and Scott,

I dont know why I feel like I do. My wife and I have always had a great sex life. Even after 2 decades with each other, we are both in our 40’s, we always try to find time to have some time alone. However, we have had our moments where one of us had one hand on the doorknob to leave but always managed to find the reasons to stay. I love her more than I can say. She is intelligent, beautiful, a great mother, a fantastic wife, she gives head, does laundry, isnt afraid of hard work, and has a new found interest in anal sex with me and has spent the last 20+ years building a multi million dollar financial empire with me. She is truly great.

So why do I think of cheating. I dont know. To show someone else this thing of greatness (my opinion) that I have built with my own hands (and swinging weights). I would be a fucking fool to destroy my family with such stupidity to fuel my own male ego after decades of such a strong relationship. I would be a fucking fool. That being said, I still can’t get the thoughts of showmanship out of my mind. You know whats strange, I was a great fuck prior to adding an inch and a half to my dick and I’m still a great fuck, just bigger. But I dont want my “biggerness” and a nite or two of sneaking around to isolate me from wife, kids (and yes my money). I know buddies of mine who have screwed around for years and manage to keep it hidden without any guilt problems. I however am not cut from the same cloth.

So why do I think of cheating. I would be a fucking fool. A real fucking fool.

It would be much easier to cheat if I wasn’t getting such great sex from Mrs 7. I have no excuses, none. I would be a fucking fool, but I still think…..

7

789,
You’ve eloquently touched on a lot of things I’ve thought (except the multi-million dollar financial empire - that’s not a worry of mine, LOL). But, the pure exhibitionist aspect of it. I’m not at that size yet (at 7.5 x 6+), but I do feel better about unit already. However, if I was 9+ x 6.5+….would that be different?

I’m suspecting that I’m subconsciously holding back on really hitting the PE hard because of those very fears. I know it sounds stupid; either PE or do NOT PE. I want a bigger wang but I also fear having one. Very bizarre, illogical, etc., etc. But I can’t shake those shadowy fears I have.

I’m glad that some others have expressed these same concerns. And the weird thing is, I really don’t want to cheat (especially since my wife has really been acting much better after she’s had some needed medical treatment), but I’m afraid that if I developed a huge beefstick, I’d be obsessed with displaying it. The thought of seeing a woman’s face when you whip out a 9 x 7 or more, her excitement, shock, confusion….then, of course, her wild efforts to ride & conquer the beast. You know she’d be thinking how much larger you are than the men she’s had (most likely), and she’d be gushing to all her friends about your horsecock, etc.

Would having that type of cock turn me into a worthless asshole?

- w a d

Hell, there’s women I know whom I can’t stand, yet I love to brandish a huge pussy-splitter before their shocked faces - either to feel contempt for them while they suck on it, or even to just tease them with it, then deny them. I know, it’s quite fucked up.

Joystick Growman, that is one of the funniest names I have seen here. Good job man. lol

For me, when I went form 7” to 8”, the only thing that changed is that when I have sex with petite girls, they have a tendency to tell me to slow down, or to not put it all the way in when stroking. That’s about the only thing that’s changed for me.

Now that I’m 16 X 10, flacid, I’m afraid that gravity will take over and continue to stretch my dick over the years. I’m afraid that in 10 years, it will be dragging the ground. :)

(I’m on vacation in FL, so I have to type this fast)

One of my concerns about getting bigger was my morals. Prior to PE, I had only slept with one girl, and often wondered what it’d be like if I was bigger. Would my morals be thrown out the window, and I’d be fucking girls left or right? Was it my morals holding me back from casual sex or my insecurity? It turned out it was my insecurity, as I’ve had sex with alot more girls since making the gains. If I was to have casual sex, it would be done without hurting the girls’ feelings or leading them on, or I’d atleast try not to.

I’m currently seeing a great girl back at home, and she trusted me on this trip to South FL. Anyone that’s been to or that lives in FL knows theres alot of temptation here. (I’ve only told “higherone” this story) I went out to a strip club in N. Miami the other night with some friends, we had some drinks and checked out the ladies. After turning down a few strippers for a lap dance, I finally gave into this hot colombian girl. She took me to the back for the lap dance. During the dance I had gotten turned on obviously, and she had noticed my buldge. She started rubbing against it and said “Papi, you’re big.” I played dumb and said “big where?” She smiled and replied, “You know where baby.” As she got up and saw my buldge, she just sighed, “Wow, did I do that?” That was enough to stroke my ego for the night.

When the songs were over, we walked back over to the bar area to talk. She made a few comments about how her pussy was sore from rubbing against my dick, I told her, imagine if we would of had sex. She had said she was new to FL, and asked if I would show her around(I used to live in FL). I flirted back innocently saying I’d love to show her around. So she made me memorize her cell number, since it was against club rules, and she didn’t want to be seen giving her number out. She said to give her a call, and she’d come pick me up in her convertible. She gave me a hug and went on her way. As she got up to leave she said “Please give me a call tomorrow, and I’ll promise to pay you for showing me around… I also want some kisses.”

This was very tempting, and hard to pass up, so I thought it over as I got home, if I’d actually give this girl a call or not, and put myself in a tough situation by hanging out with this girl. While thinking it over, I thought what would be gained by messing around with the stripper. She was very sexy, and stroked my ego well, but most likely this would just be a one night stand. I figured it wasn’t worth it, and never called her. Instead I called up my girl back home, and was reminded why I was with her.

My friends said I was crazy for not calling up the stripper, but just because my penis is now bigger, it does not justify throwing out my morals. I got into PE to make myself a better person, not to make myself an asshole. If anyone was to cheat after making some gains from PE, you didn’t turn into an asshole, you probably already were, now you just have a chance to show it.

Good points, YGuy. But, as you’ve said, you experienced those same concerns yourself; and, in fact, you went from 1 sexual experience (pre-PE) to “alot more girls” since your gains. As you’re single, I wouldn’t say that PE lead to a decline in your morals (although a Church person would say so, LOL), but I agree that your smothered self-image, lack of confidence had suppressed your natural urges. Getting those gains didn’t “turn you into an asshole” - or even “reveal” you to be an asshole - the gains simply boosted your shattered confidence.

I guess I was wondering how would I change if I ended up with a really HUGE beefpipe. Would I be so proud of it that I wanted to show every woman I could, or would I be content to let “sleeping logs lay” quietly in my trousers.

I agree that with a larger unit you want to show it off. Do it if you are single and have no commitments. But if you are married or have a steady don’t do it! If you have to, then do the noble thing and divorce or break up with them before you perform your acts of pleasure. You can leave the relationship with your honor an dignity intact (or may find out the grass ain’t greener on the other side).

Oh, I understand the temptation. A bigger cock definitely increases your confidence. I know I love mine. My ex-wife never got to experience it and I divorced her over her affair. I have two little girls who have suffered because of this.

Read this thread before you act on your impulses.

She did cheat.

That it will not make any difference.

That’s a good question and I’m sure that at the end of the day, so many personal factors weigh in that everyone has to rely on knowing himself well before reaching a decisive conclusion.
Would better looks and a fitter body make you feel more self-secure and act more comfortable and positive with other people, or will it turn you into an ego tripping asshole. How about becoming filthy rich, would that change your attitudes?

If I had a really huge one, wiping it out for ego boost would make me feel more trashy than anything. I want a size I’m comfortable with, an erect and flaccid size big enough for me to know it’s big boy and won’t have me hung up on the allure of first person hands on feedback, which from time to time has been the case with a biggish erect and modest flaccid.

YGuy,

YOU are the man!!

I agree 100% with what you said;

I takes a man to walk away from temptation.You only need to be an arsehole to succumb to it!

Reminds me of something I was reading the other day in Bandler and Grinder’s NLP book ’ Frogs Into Princes ‘.

They were talking about a female patient of theirs who had no trouble losing weight but seemed to regain it very quickly. It turned out that she was afraid of being seen as attractive by other men because she doubted her own ability to remain faithful in the face of temptation.

Unfortunately they didn’t go into specifics about the treatment, but the gist was that they helped her to see there were better ways of protecting her marriage than staying overweight.

Going off topic:
Part of their ( Bandler and Grinder’s ) therapeutic approach was to assume that every behaviour satisfied a need, including behaviours that were self-destructive or self-limiting.

The challenge was to find alternative ways of getting these secondary gains, since just trying to stop a behaviour left an unfufilled unconscious need: eg. for security, acceptance, pleasure, whatever. However, an alternative had to A) actually work and B) not interfere with the patient’s other needs and goals and values.

Umm, no longer sure where I was going with this. So I’m gonna surf some porn! ( I know what my secondary gains are there…)

Yip