Are we forever changed?

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I asked myself just a few minutes ago as I was rubbing one out, that if I will ever feel adequate unless I have a porno cock. I don’t think I will, and I honestly believe that I am forever changed.
What I mean is, if we don’t measure up to at least 7nbp * 5.5 EG we feel inadequate. I admit that my girth is nice, but I wish it was a bit thicker; like 5.7EG at least. If I rub one out in front of
the mirror I find myself squeezing and bending my dick so it looks thicker in the mirror. I have been gaining girth again thank God, so I am happy to be on track again.
I just don’t want to feel inadequate any more. I have noticed that I have been approaching less girls because of this. I keep telling myself, ” lets cement a 1/4 in. or a 1/2 in. of EG before I start approaching a lot of women. I want to be renown for having a big thick dick, and I am afraid if I fuck a lot of girls in my social circle, that word will get around that I am not that thick. WTF is wrong with me? Have I gone mad?
I am not saying that I don’t get a piece here and there, but all the girls I have been fucking are not from my social circle. A co-worker of mine wants my cock, and I won’t give it to her until a gain a little more girth. I think I am crazy, and my big dick obsession has got out of control. Can someone say something to me to make me feel better, because I feel like I am losing it. I am not depressed or anything like that, but I need to be happy with what I have; and I think I may need some help.

We all get sort of cock-obsessed here, Mr. T. It goes with the process of PE.

Cut yourself a break. Don’t turn down potentially good sex just because you have this weird notion in your head. :) Heck, you’re bigger than most guys here already.

Hey T, alot of men are obsessed with the size of their unit that’s why most of us are here. Hell, I’d be happy with having your current stats as my final measurement! Truth be told, women care more about personality and looks… oral and coitus technique are more important to most women than dick-size and yours is above average, so why worry?… Be confident! If you have opportunity, then use that cock! Have fun man! Carpe diem! Be a cool cat! Fuck the obsession! Replace your insecurity mantram with a confidence one! Change the attitude and good fortune will be yours. Your insecurity only exists in your mind… Women are more likely to talk about how good of a lover or how hygenic you are rather than penis size. No woman in their right mind would ever say your small… most would say your above average.

I know you guys are right, but I have this vision in my mind on how big my dick should look and I need to build it.

Also, before I started PE and got DSL, I was always happy with my size.

A bodybuilder once told me that there is always going to be someone bigger than you. Same for cock size. But there gets to be a point where its not practical. Do you really want to hurt a woman with a big dick? Or do you want to get so big that you can’t get blowjobs anymore? Nothing wrong with PE, but shit, the main goal is to please a woman and to enjoy yourself. With 7+ length and 5.2+ girth you are way more than adequate assuming you have good oral skills, stamina and coitis skills. Those chicks in porn are getting paid to moan and pretend to have a good time. Alot of the men’s penis’ are so desensitized from acting in porn that they have to wack off in order to ejaculate. I heard Ron Jeremy say that the thrill diminishes over time and eventhough its still enjoyable, its more or less a job now.

Mr. T, are you specificically going for girth only? If so, then try Ulis, Horse440s, and/or clamping. Also, make sure you are up to speed in kegels.

The funny thing about your size is that there are others here who would kill for it, as well as a few others here who have had some success stories with it (similar size that is). I suggest maybe testing it out on this girl at work, and seeing what the reaction is, and then taking it from there. Oh and while I was reading your post, I actually imagined the voice of Mr. T reading it :chuckle: .

See, I’m not the only one. I think his avatar has subliminal messages concealed in it.

I’m the same, although I’m at 6.25” girth now, lol. I won’t be satisfied until I’m at 6.5”. I know what you mean about not wanting to fuck girls until you’re bigger, but I’d probably do it anyway. Well I’m lucky that my girth is as it is now since I’ve gotten some good comments recently.

If you’re really obsessed with this, one trick would be to do a PE session the night you think you might have sex with someone. Then you’ll be a decent amount bigger than normal, and no way anyone will guess what you did… they’ll think it’s natural.

I actually read my post imagining Mr. T reciting the words, and it does make me chuckle. Well any who, I am going for length as well, but with 7nbp, I feel good for now with what I have.

If I can cement 5.5EG, well then, that is a start. And I do want to be able to hurt a women with my penis Siva Lingam, and have a good time.

Good night all.

That’s good advice. I’d be satisfied at 6EG. Anything more is a mixed blessing.

Mr. T,

Is that because of internet pornography?

It seems to be a pretty common thread among PEers that we saw these ‘massive’ dicks on the internet and suddenly felt inadequate. I too never thought twice about the size of my penis before I started surfing the net and viewing porn. I remember the first time I saw Mandingo’s unit and thought that mine was tiny compared to his. I now know that it is not.

The camera exaggerates, the actors are reportedly predominantly smaller people, and the men are a small* cadre of the well-endowed.

Here are some suggestions: stop viewing porn, stop comparing yourself to other men, stop worrying about what women will think of your size - most do not care. If you want to make your penis bigger - Great! But, do it for YOU, not some hypothetical size queen who you fear will cut your ego to shreds if you do not impress her with a python.

*There really are not that many men with super large dicks, okay? Maybe 0.001% of the population. Stop stressing out about it.

Yes! Internet porn has fucked up my mind. Also, now with new technology and DSL, it makes surfing porn a breeze. The technology has made this obsession worst I think.

If i want to I can bottom out in my GF pretty easy - sometimes (a lot actually) i do it intentionally just to see her squirm. She knows I PE and she tells me to quit it, or to at least just do girth because i am already too long, but i don’t listen. She is on the small side vagina wise, and so i guess i am doing PE just in case we break up or something. The point is; i know i am not small, but i still want to be bigger anyway.

All in all I would have to say that; yes, it is fucked up in the head to want a penis so big that you can bludgeon a baby seal to death with it.

That being said, i know porn has fucked me up and that i now have the weird sexual fetish of making my penis bigger, but PE has also helped me to stop smoking, begin working out, eating right, given me a huge confidence boost, and improved my love life.

I think it is important to view PE in a positive light, but, more importantly, I would say it is important to view YOURSELF in a positive light. I have fucked girls who say that the best sex they ever had was with a dick that was only 5 by 4. Be confident because of your personality not the size of your dick.

And, just so you know, having a huge dick alone will not make you an excellent lover, nor will it make you confidant and proud of who you are - and those are the things that are really important.

Hey Mr.T!

I just want to back up everything the others have said, and bring my 2 cents - try training yourself to think positively.
Look at it this way - if you haven’t found out about Thunder’s and PE, maybe you would still feel inadequate because of porn, but that would never stop you from taking pussy, am I right?

Just enjoy sex, my friend, that’s what your dick is for. Never pass up on a good thing!

Mr. T,

You need to do more fucking! Instead of hiding away and thinking “My dick isn’t big enough yet, a little bigger and then I’ll start fucking”, you need to have sex with that girl at work and anyone else who’s interested! Once you start hearing positive comments from those women ( at your size, they’ll all have something good to say! ), your attitude towards yourself will start to change quickly.

In short, you need the positive feedback from REAL experiences, not delusional thoughts based caused by porn. Stop watching guys fuck chicks who are paid to be there - go out and get some for yourself!