Frustration

Do any of you guys with limited privacy and time ever find yourself looking forward to one of your precious few “sure” opportunities to get in a good workout, only to have it snagged out from under your feet?

This is getting very frustrating to me. I only get three windows of opportunity per week when my wife isn’t home to do any significant (>10 minutes session) PE and I lately keep getting those windows closed on me. One night, work calls and I have to go in, tonight, my infant son just will. not. go. to. sleep.

Anyone else run into this? I know, I know you’re going to say “just tell your wife”. That’s not really going to work in my case. She would view it as not using my time wisely when I already complain about not having any time to get things accomplished, or she would accuse me of not paying attention to my son while I’m babysitting (I don’t start until he’s asleep, but that’s what she would say because she is sensitive to that issue due to her own upbringing). Of course in my mind when I’m complaining out loud I’m actually thinking about PE, among other things…

Ok, I guess I’m done venting now.

Size

I hear you bro, I wish I had an answer for you. I guess you could always tell the wife and just get up a little early everyday for your workout. But you like myself when I was married and most other married guys are afraid to tell the wife because of the bullshit you may have to endore.

If I’ve got privacy problems I usually shower a little more extensively and do a little stretching. I also take a minute or two each time I go to the bathroom.

On the other hand, it is good that your infant son gets a chance to be comforted by dad only - when mothers are around they tend to snag the kid off, muttering something about “men not being (insert preferred insult)”.

I used to try to think of those times (she is soon 3) as the few instances when she’d have me only and I get to build a relationship without being interfered with.

Maby tell you wife about what you are doing she might help you to give you the time she needs.

And hopefully she will benefit from it too.

I know you don’t want to hear this again Size but you really do need to just tell her.

Come in from a scientific angle with lots of data.
Show her Sizemeister’s Database! ;) Tell you are a moderator here too! :)
Show her some threads here that are not directly related to PE (like relationship and love) Otherwise she might be inclined to think that you went off the deep end with a bunch of wackos on the internet.
She needs to see that this is not just a place where guys grow their wangs intelligently but a place of intimate communication and sharing between men from all different backgrounds on various topics.
Maybe you can start off by telling her its like a place for “male bonding” As a woman, she is an emotional creature and she will more than likely be touched by that aspect of it and it will soften her up for when you get to the part about PE (so she does not freak out on you) :)
I showed my GF long ago and she intially began looking at me funny ( if you know what I mean) but now she thinks the place is awesome with many bright and colorful characters that she would have never imagined you could find on a PE site. Perhaps she just needs a chance to get educated about Thunders and you can give her that chance.
You just have to find the right angle to come in at because her first impressions of what you are saying will most likely be far from the reality.

Oh btw…

How does it feel to be a Dad now? :)

How old is he? Teeth? Gas? Have you lifted him up in your bed so he can feel your heartbeat lying next to you?

I used to light a candle on the table carry my little princess, walking in circles around the light. Very soothing for both of us, she’d usually fall asleep on my shoulder nicely.

You might be frustrated now, but believe me it is worth it all.

Why not go to a gym or swiming hall with cubicles, bring some lube and do your jelqs?

I hear you man.

No sooner have I clapped my hands together, and declared out loud to an empty house, ‘right, time for a jelqing session!’

when my flat-mate walks through the front door. :cuss:

Why let that stop you?

Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade anything for time with my son. He is actually teething. Just one tooth coming in hasn’t made him fuss too much but I think he has multiple coming in now. We’ve actually got it pretty easy, once he’s down for the night, he’s down.

This really isn’t the right time for me to say anything to my wife. Even if we got past the “gross you’re wanking it in front of the computer all night long” response which would likely be accompanied with anger and insisting that I stop immediately, she already has this perception that I’m sitting at home goofing off instead of doing things that could be helping her around the house (as though she’s the one working 50-60 hour weeks at a minimum while I sit at home and watch freaking Oprah and Judge Judy, or go off shopping with Mom). Typical stuff. It’s not helping matters that she has gone from maybe letting me have my way with her every week or so, if we’re not too tired, to insisting on sex every night as soon as we’re both home no matter how tired I am or how sick either one of us are. Usually that’s not very long after one of my PE sessions and I can’t just snap my fingers and get a raging hard on.

Oh well. I’ll figure something out. Thanks.

Size

Sorry, I’ve read this like 100 times now and I’m just not seeing the negative side of this statement at all. :D

Our daughter sometimes got a bit of a fever when teething. Aspirin (baby painkiller of whatever sort) would allow her to fall asleep those times.

That crap is really frustrating. Teething is nothing compared to that.

It must be down to the PE……..have you asked her why she wants more sex?