Have to keep reminding....

myself that not every guy is 8x6. It’s just that I keep seeing about half the members on this board are well over 7”, but this is not representative of the general public. It can get very discouraging reading the board sometimes, because everywhere you look someone is 8x6, 9+, etc. It seems like average length BP here is about 8”.

Most guys are not this size. And remember that BP adds on quite a bit in some cases.

If you look into some of the more accurate surveys, you will see that the AVERAGE size is around 5.5” npb, or around 6” bp. So obviously there are a LOT of guys at the 5” nbp mark, and a LOT at 6” nbp, but above this the numbers drop sharply.

Many guys say 7x5.5 or 8x6 and this is usually bp and sometimes even FLACCID STRETCHED, and measuring girth around the base.

Of course I have come to realise that in fact there are guys out there packing serious meat and even a guy who has a 9” bpfsl is around 8”npb.

That is why I always say take others sizes with a grain of salt, and also not to fool oneself with his own size. For many years I told myself I was 6”/15cm (nbp, I didn’t understand bp back then) when in fact the ruler always said 14cm/5.5”. I was only fooling myself, and only later did I realise that this was pretty standard size, and by no means was I the smallest guy on the block.

Good post. I have become obsessed with size and reading this site and PEing to the point where I need to take deep breaths(lol). Every time I see a pic of someone bigger than me, I feel crushed and I am 7”bpX5.5. This is why I say that I, and perhaps others, need to keep thinking that those at Thunder’s and those willing to have pics on the net(ie porn stars, hung amateurs, etc) are not the norm, but probably in the top 10%.

I’m the other way around. I always think that I’m a decent size (7x4.75) but almost every girl I’m with seems to have been with someone considerably bigger immediately before me. Do I just attract size queens? I feel like a midget.

I understand what you guys are talking about and I suffer from this too. Two really good threads to check out on this topic are: HERE

Do You Suffer from Body Dysmorphic Disorder?

Is Everything Really What it Seems? An ongoing study by DLD

These posts should be required reading for Mental aspects of PE for everyone. I had read the second, but the Body Dys. discussion was right on, I am almost positive I have it. I always look flabby and small in my own eyes, but in a mirror or to others they same I’m somewhat cut and definitely say big. When I get a cut, I freak out and think it is going to leave a scar, but I am able to let it go soon after, so I tend to think I have medium, not severe Body Dys.

BUNBUSTER: How do you know that they have been with bigger before you? Do you ask? At your size you are around average girth, but length is long and it would be hard to find girls that had all been over 7.5". Are they all "wicked" sluts as we say in the North? LOL!

Hey, I’m in the same boat as you, Pat.

If you haven’t seen my post, check it here:
A Downside To PE

I myself fall dead center in the average range, have never had a woman comment on "how small" or "how big" it was, nor have I had any complaints. Yet now as of recently I’m obsessed also, and it’s driving me insane.
(As I type this, I happen to be siting on my dick right now. Seems somewhat comical in a weird way, LOL)

This obsession has even begun to strain my sex life with my fiance, who HAS had bigger. In an indirect conversation, I figured out that one of her past partners ended up nailing her CDS——she "doesn’t like" the ol’ legs-on-the-shoulders position, because "It hurts too much". Well, think I could replicate that? Nope. Now I feel I’m in competition with some clown from the past, that I’m too small to satisfy her, blah blah blah, all of which is totall bullshit.

Don’t let the obsession get to you, man.

Right now, I’m just trying to get my mind off the negative aspects, and focus on the positive….yeah, there’ll ALWAYS be guys bigger. It’s a fact. For those who are even a LITTLE type-A, it drives us nuts. Just direct this towards your PE efforts, and realize that penis size may be the world to US, but women, thank god, see Far FAR beyond it.

>> BUNBUSTER: How do you know that they have been with bigger before you? Do you ask? At your size you are around average girth, but length is long and it would be hard to find girls that had all been over 7.5”. Are they all “wicked” sluts as we say in the North? LOL! <<

I’ve asked, but sometimes I get it from hints. Not the kind of hints where they are trying to tell me, more of the kind that just slip out. One of my ex g/f’s ex b/f was good friends with this girl I was friends with and she told me how big he was. It just always seems to come up at some point or another. Not often, but once is enough for me to remember forever.

I’d say I am on the low end of average girth. I really think it is the girth that the girls notice the most.

Maybe I just attract “wicked” sluts. In any case I’m sure I’ll feel better once I pack on another inch or so of girth :)

Most guys don’t post until they have made gains, or at least don’t mention their size. There are always tons of guests and lurkers, and many times when someone first posts, they will say that they have been PEing and lurking for x months.

This was my story. I didn’t post until I became “average.”

But on that note I am naturally 5.25 x 4.75 and have never had a complaint or never been with a woman who didn’t want to have sex with me multiple times.

I do like the added size from PE for the “look” it gives me in the mirror.

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>But on that note I am naturally 5.25 x 4.75 and have never had a complaint or never been with a woman who didn’t want to have sex with me multiple times.

I started at 5.5 BP x 4.25. Same here. I never had a complaint at that size. Quite the opposite!

I’m now up to a tad under 7” BP, but girth is still lacking (in my mind anyway) at 4 5/8” midshaft. I’ll probably eventually gain more girth, but if not it won’t be the end of the world.

Our insecurites are self-imposed. We all have a difficult time fully comprehending this, and I’m no exception. However, I’m not the slightest bit intimidated by posters here who have big dicks. Knowledge that even the big guys worry about size has been therapeutic for me. This realization has been in many ways as beneficial psychologically, perhaps more, than the actual size I’ve gained. Seems strange, but this whole PE experience is actually helping me understand the size of my dick doesn’t really matter in the scheme of things. I don’t feel alone in worrying about it, which somehow makes it less of a concern. Now I view PE as more of a challenge instead of a frantic attempt to correct a perceived defect.

We’re here to grow dick. Absolute size doesn’t matter. Lurkers, don’t be afraid to post and join in. There’s no minimum size requirement, and if you’re not comfortable stating your measurements, don’t - simple as that. :)

Hobby is absolutely on track.

Further to what he said, if you notice a preponderance sometimes of larger guys posting, keep in mind that many of them have made their gains and have had the good grace to stick around here and aid others in doing the same. It’s one thing to build one and quite another to take time to help others build theirs. Success tends to breed success. I don’t think the larger guys are lording it over anyone; their posts bespeak a great deal of generosity of spirit, one aspect of Thunder’s which makes it one of those Super Sites.

Man, what a great bunch of intelligent guys we have here. Going to be a quote or two out of this thread, I am sure. Really good stuff.

Patbateman,

Very interesting post, and point… Evidence that is very strong points to what we have all heard repetitively IE, “self worth” comes from ones self *NOT* comparing yourself to someone else… I would be a good example of how one should not live…

Perhaps some here would say I’m over average but a man with a 5 inch penis has been renting space in my head for over a year now (the man who nailed my wife)… I was a mental wreck when I came to PE forum and Thunder’s Place, I had a premature ejaculation that was the butt of many jokes, many cruel ones I might add…

Everyone here is concerned about their penis in one way or another and the fact that one member has a size larger then another does not guarantee that the one with the bigger prick has a better “SELF WORTH” then the guy who is smaller in size…

I was hurt badly when my wife cheated on me, I’m much better now but I really didn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel for 8 months or so after… I still fight demons that trick me into dwelling on the following thoughts:

A) My wife has lost sexual interest in me.

B) I can never sexually please my wife as good as the guy she cheated on me with.

C) And you guessed it.. I think my dick is small! Ok, there I said it..

I came here to fight a premature ejaculation problem and now that it has been defeated I yet remain because I desperately want a bigger dick because for some reason or another I feel it is small.

A very important thing to remember with any of the O.C.D. spectrum disorders is that they are monsters that grow when we feed them. A mild case of Body Dysm. Disorder can quickly manifest itself into a much more serious condition. This is a daily battle and needs to be addressed as such. If I let myself slip in my defenses towards this disorder it quickly takes over and sets me back.

This is a PM I received from a good friend I made in this forum. I wanted to keep his part private as to protect his identity. But the basic question was “Do I think O.C.D. is responsible for my gains” This was my response:

OCD would love to claim credit for my gains and committment! OCD is tricky that way. But if I am making a positive thing happen in my life OCD is not responsible…DLD is/ O.C.D. is never productive in a positive way. OCD can be clever sometimes and try to bunch the good committments in with the negative obsessions to try to make itself look valuable…but do not let it fool you, IT DESERVES NO CREDIT. OCD may help us see good qualities in ourselves but that is where the positive traits of this disease end. The hours of useless time I give to O.C.D. everyday produce nothing good for me. When I get stuck measuring for hours this is O.C.D….when I put an hour long jelq and bend session in…This is me. It is a constant battle that I have to fight everyday. What OCD is responsible for is: keeping me a prisoner indoors, hours of unnessasry checking, sleepless nights of measureing, constantly feeling guilty, never feeling satisfied with a doubt no matter how many times I check, being over honest with everything, rarely getting to bath because if I do it takes hours, being very poor because my capasity to make money is almost useless, hours of preparation to have sex….see where I’m going? OCD is a very evil, useless, disorder that will take credit for anything it can to remain in control.

I hope this helps some