HELP! Compliment Turns Bittersweet

At a time I thought that women are just saying that “it can be too big”-thing to boost ones confidence..and actually thought it would be pretty cool to have a huge tool that could even cause pain to some.
Nowadays I have lenght of 7.3” and girth of 5.5” (About the same size as you). It’s not huge, but it’s a little above avarage. My GF is pretty small and it would seem that I’m a bit too big for her. Every time we have sex or an intercourse, there are two (2) options:
1) I come before it gets painful for her and it leaves her to want some more, which makes me feel sad, inadaquate, you could say.
2) I don’t come before it gets painful for her and that makes her depressed for not being able to make me come, which again, makes me sad.
I’ve been living with her for a long time now and a little meaningless thing as sex could never make me want to break up with her.

Point of this story about my sex life? It can be too big. Very easily. Why don’t you listen your girlfriend when she says it’s just perfect? She said that guy was too big and trying too hard and it sucked…that means you are better in bed than he was. 10 inches? Yeah right. Women have a habit of overestimating the size of one’s penis. I actually think she just threw a number without any real knowledge about the size.
Think before you act. Dino is right, women get used to one’s size…but not always. I’ve been living with my girlfriend for a long time now and she confessed that it hurt from the very first time and has gotten worse. You know how that makes me feel? Like shit. I don’t feel like a real man or any of that shit I once thought I would. I ain’t big, I’m just a bad lay. I still want it bigger. For ME.

Base

Your are right, there are some girls out there that are just very small. But most women get bigger as they age, throw in a few kids and they ain’t quite tight as virgins anymore.

Dino

Personally I would not date or be with a woman who talked about their past partners with me. A lot of the time they are trying to play a mindfuck on you. If you ask them, and they tell you that they have been with bigger, it is your own fault for opening the can of worms. If they offer the info out of the blue, they are mindfucking you, there is no other reason why they would talk about an ex when they are with you.

Either way, I say ignorance is bliss when it comes to past experience, but not the realm of PE. It is good to know that one can get a bigger dick, and when you get to the point where it is a nice size for YOU, then you can assume that you are the man and the biggest she has been with. And you don’t even have to ask her because even if you really are the biggest, or are just “ignorant,” I still say ignorance is bliss.

True, Ignorance is a blessing..there are always some things that some people aren’t ready to accept. One of those things can be one’s inferior penis size.

On girlfriends and mind games…I agree, but it’s not like Freak’s GF would’ve shot it out of nowhere. It was more like backing up her view. It’s strange how many women still don’t understand how sensitive subject ones penis size is..

Wow. I mean WOW. This is pretty much my experience with my X. You encapsulated everything I have felt. It is a terrible feeling.

Although I had been with dozens of women before her (something I personally don’t now look at as an ‘accomplishment’, to be frank, but the past is what it is), my sexual experience with her really affected the way I felt about myself. In reality, going back and learning some things that actually affected us sexually (aside from my slightly above normal size, we are talking her pre-marriage activities, which gave her stress all the time), I understand it wasn’t all my issue.

But still, it was a terrible feeling. And one not easily forgotten. And, in fact, I FEAR ever being ‘too big’ for another woman again. This whole thing kinda goes in circles because I know statistically I am not nor will be some buffalo dick when I reach my goal, but hey - even if I never knew about PE I’d still be afraid of having the same experience with my natural size.

Why all this diatribe? Because being in Base’ and my situation is really not fun. It’s difficult because you see yourself as ‘not ideal’ physically for her.

Nonetheless, I am still making it bigger because I have the ability to reach a size goal I wanted that predated my former marriage. I just factor in now that being big can possibly be an unwanted issue in some cases. It probably sounds contradictory to some, and probably is, in fact.

Sorry, I am taking this down a different path but it’s been the first time I’ve heard someone singing the same tune I’ve known.

Dino: not to contradict you, but my impression is that a woman’s vaginal walls become ‘looser’ (they are simply muscles anyways) as they age, so it’s more a conditioning thing or lack thereof rather than a depth or width increase. I could be wrong on this, of course. Their vaginas might actually increase in size the same as a man sports bigger ears.

You know that a man’s ears increase in size by 10% during his lifetime? That is messed up!

-BH

I thought that DLD’s analogy of walking on broken glass was great.

It’s something I will actively avoid in future relationships. Not everything in the past has to come forward, or should.

I guess there are all sorts of sayings about this..

-BH

I have this same exact situation going on with the love of my life right now I am 8x5.5 and she is only 5 foot 1 and 104 pounds, sometimes it is a very depressing topic to think of. Yes you can be too big, me and my girlfriend have to stick to several positions and avoid others or it is painful for her. So as others have said PE for you but beware you can walk to far down the path and once you do there is no turning back.

Doing it for one’s self is a far more robust form of motivation than doing it for “her”.

Doing it for a significant other, you can be shot down in flames by even a badly worded compliment.

Doing it for yourself, you are not vulnerable to having your momentum and motivation snatched out from under like that.

I started PE to try to satisfy my wife better. And even without her saying anything I can become deflated just by thinking how even were I able to increase dramatically in length & girth, I STILL wouldn’t come close to what she could potentially take, and am never going to be the Big Dick Superhero that is able to sexually rock her Universe. Which leaves you feeling “wtf am I bothering for?”

So, I say, do it for you, and sod your wife or girlfriend. Female orgasm isn’t even integral to reproduction, unlike male orgasm, so if even Mother Nature couldn’t care less about whether they’re satisfied or not, why should we men? Lol

Wow! A seven year old thread resurection.

Silverfish’s profile says former member. Anyone know what happened?

This is a very old thread, but maybe the train of thought has yet to reach it’s destination.

I truly believe that a big majority of women do not place penis size above all else. That’s not to say that this majority doesn’t have fantasies, or even boasting sessions during hen gatherings, about size accommodation. But it’s very important to understand that the words used (what is being said) and the meaning behind them (the expression’s intent) can lead to very different conclusions by the sensitive listener.

Knowing that 10” cocks are extraordinarily rare, any woman telling of a bad experience with such an estimated cock size is probably using exaggeration of her own perception to express her repulsion in derogatory way. In other words, it may have actually been a 7” +/- cock, but the brute made it feel like a cattle probe. In the context of her story, being repeatedly stabbed by something maybe not 10”, but long enough to hurt her, is not a way to have love expressed to her.

The moral: don’t listen to what she says, listen to what she means.