How do you cope?

We all agree that bigger is better, (relax I am not starting another one of these threads) however, those of us who are still trying to gain obviously accept this and hope that we will be able to join the ‘club’, but how do all of you cope whilst you are still smaller? Do you simply believe that in time it will get bigger, hence this gives you optimism or is not a big issue to deal with?

Regards Rolo

I’ve felt better about my size ever since I started PE’ing simply because im trying to do something about it. Haven’t really had much gains but I’m positive that i will and I’m liking it so far. Size seems to be becoming less important as the days go by. I’m focusing on staying dedicated and smart about PE instead.

What cope?

I was faced with the obvious fact that I was unable to adequately fill my wife right from our wedding night… With no prior sexual or visual experience for comparison other than men’s locker rooms, I simply assumed *I* was the problem - and “settled” for mediocre sex thru my marriage… An affair years later with an eager and willing married gal at work, who was an excellent physical match for me, opened my eyes to what great sex COULD and SHOULD be - but as that situation eventually faded, I was again back to “regular” sexual activity. It has been the internet, the variety of easily accessed subject material, and eventually PE that has helped me immensely to improve my physical attributes - and sexual enjoyment with it! And of course, as *I* get bigger, my wife enjoys increased arousal and satisfaction as well - what a shame that we were mis-matched for so long - and how fortunate some of you younger fellows are that YOU have time to correct and adjust that significant part of your lives and bodies.

The “coping” for most is the realization that something CAN be done to make those adjustments - it is primarily just a matter of how much time and effort you are able and willing to spend. We may NOT all be capable of porn star dimensions, but we CAN all make SIGNIFICANT gains that put us further up that ladder of penis size… I haven’t made “earth-shattering” gains - only about 3/4 inch length and 1 inch girth in a bit over a year’s time - but even THAT has made a BIG difference in sexual enjoyment in a situation like mine…

GO for it, you CAN make it happen!

Ironicly I had no problems prior PE, but since discovering it I feel I´m not what I could be and now I´m obsessing much more.

When it comes to coping I guess you are what you are but now you´re actually improving. In my case I feel this is a reason to hold new sexual contacts for a while, until I feel that I have gained enough to feel better again. Enough in this case probably means gains enough to be sure, so that I KNOW it´s working.

So, with old partners there´s no difference, they already know you and hopefully appreciate you as you are. No need to feel insecure there, you know it will only get better. But with new partners you start blank and I have no suggestion as how to cope with that situation, that´s why I try to go slow there, waiting for gains.

I´m dead tired, hope this made any sense.

Mraverage, 1” in girth is a GREAT gain! Congrats!

Regards,
/Rocco

I have taken a bit of a different tact since I started. I am not worried about length anymore. Girth is where it is at in my personal situation (wifes wants/needs). I am going to start hanging just to keep things balanced, but I am almost 6 inches around now (but I started up there). In fact, I am somewhat upside down, meaning that I am slightly bigger around than I am long.

That, my friends, is doing the trick. I will “cope” by filling up the wife with a fatter, but maybe less long unit. That is what she likes, and that is what she is getting.

Anything extra would just be window dressing that no one else will see/use anyway.

I am not going to beat myself or my unit up silly for unnecessary length gains…unless she changes her mind…which has been known to happened. But for now, fat is where its at.

df

I guess for me it is just ‘business as usual’. I know my dick is getting bigger and my self esteem is quite good right now- so I think that alone helps to make you a better lover. I am focused only on improvement now and what is past is past- it is FINALLY time to move forward and feel good about both size and sex :)

rolo,

Coping is something you do when you’re stuck with what you got and you can’t change it. You’re not in that position (you are here aren’t you?) Keep plugging away.

That is the perfect reply, hang10 :) I wish I had the ability to cut to the heart of the discussion like you do.

Hang10, indeed you are correct, I guess it’s just a matter of being patient and seeing gains. Thanks to all who posted, nice to get a different perspective.

Mraverage, yes you are right, at least I/we have found something which can help change our predicament and yes finding it at my age (24yrs) is a godsend.

I guess just realising that there maybe something that can be done to change is great in itself.

Thanks to all who posted.

Regards rolo

T-rex once said “anticipation of having a bigger tool is better than actually having a bigger tool”.

Although the post included a giant sign that read “B.S” it’s still nice to know with enough effort you can GAIN BABY GAIN…

Well, I have never been worried about my size. I was not BIG to start with; but, at 6.5X5.5” I had a lot more cubic inches of dick than the vast majority of guys. It took me over 4 months to see gains. I never stopped believing that it was possible. Once I gained even a little I KNEW that it was possible. I am a very slow gainer, so it is important for me to view this as a life long project, a journey and not a destination. I am coming up on 2 years and now measure 7.35X6.25” I don’t fixate on the time frame, just try and do the next rite thing. Don’t fixate on guys gaining an inch in 4 months.

If you give one method or technique time to work (Thats months, not weeks) and it does not, try something else. If that doesn’t work go on. Really dedicate the time and effort to do it right. If you run out of things to try, invent something new.

Just my take

Bravo !!!

I started off with a very small penis, about 5 inches. This has never really bothered me though, and my girlfriends never had a complaint. But I saw a link to a jelqing manual on the web, and this piqued my curiosity; eventually I was in a daily PE routine and reading messageboards. Now I am OBSESSED with penis size to an unhealthy level - I have gained over an inch and feel smaller now than I have ever felt before. I don’t think I will feel comfortable until I am at least 8 inches.

Being involved with PE, and constantly thinking about penis size has given me a psychological complex. Where size never worried me before, it now occupies my thoughts every minute of the day. Whenever I watch porn, I can’t enjoy it because I am just focusing on the actor’s penis and mentally comparing it to mine. Every man I run into, I wonder in the back of my head “is his penis bigger or smaller than mine?” I look at his hands, feet, bulge, anything to gauge it. I have convinced myself that penis size is the true measure of a man’s worth.

I hope that all these psychological quirks vanish once I reach a size I want, but I’m not so sure. I have not even dated, nor pursued a woman since starting PE. I am far too self conscious of my size now. I have even turned down advances for sex -I will not show my penis to anyone until I reach my goal. And I must reach it by any means possible, for my sanity’s sake.

Sounds like you have Obessive Compulsive Disorder coupled with Body Dismorphic Disorder. What that means minus the psycholgy speak is you feel your friend is tinier than anyone else’s unit. So you think constant PE will cure you of this situation. You seem afriad to show your "shame" to another person.

One of my very good friends DLD (Doublelongdaddy) has this. He has taken an interesting route to cure himself. He posts quite often on our sister forum of https://www.peforum.net .

Please look over there for his threads of self view and searchable words of OCD and BDD.

If I have a chance I will repost some links or threads from there to here for you.

hope this helps out