Insecurities of a small penis

Thanks for the support Wad. I know you have had difficulties with your marriage too. At least you can’t blame it on dick size. I am about your age and have children too. Divorce sucks, but I am making the best of it. I have been building a bigger dick (and body). I started at 5 3/4 BPEL X 4.5 EG and am now 7.5 + BPEL X 5.25 EG. I am hoping to get to your massive girth (which rules!).

No internet, and not having seen surveys, I would bring up their former lovers’ sizes. Foolish I now know, but I wanted to know and information was scarce. The amazon that jumped out of bed is the only one I think I didn’t get a chance to ask. The second amazon brought up about my foreplay when I was asking about sizes.

The first one I mentioned—- by getting out of bed she showed that 1 hour of foreplay plus 1 minute of sex didn’t get it for her. I also highly suspect size was an issue with her. I’ve read it said before that doing great foreplay on women will make up for intercourse, but I think this woman clearly showed that foreplay alone is not enough for some women. The second woman I mentioned—-it was more balanced as I did about 10-15 minutes of foreplay and about 20 minutes of intercourse. I think she enjoyed the intercourse some, but her words telling me how good I am at foreplay, when I was asking about sizes, told me plenty.

PE is a blessing as far as I’m concerned.

It’s embarrasing to have a penis that is smaller than you ball pen. I resent being second place to an inanimate object. (kidding)

The reason I am here is to increase my penile lenght and girth, same reason as all of you are here… Or did some come here for other reasons?

I want a big penis or maybe an average one.

Even though I have reached 8BPEL(7NBP), I still go through the anxiety. It just doesn’t look big to me. It’s like I have to get to a size where I will never hear that I am small again. The one thing in my life that has held me back is my size. I never played organized sports because of it. I would wear shorts under my pants so I could feel more secure.

The saddest thing I can say is that my ex has a son that, at 5 years old, was bigger than me. As you might expect, my insecurities ruined that relationship. Penis size anxiety is a debilitating diseases that hurts everyone around you. Even if a woman loves you and accepts your size, you do not and it will soon drive her away.

I wish you all luck in dealing with the psychological side of this as well.

I totally understand what you are talking about. I had been the same way until I discovered PE. I was 5.5 x 4.2 and was so insecure about it, I thought I had been cursed. The thought of being with a girl terrified me because I thought she’d laugh at me. The funny thing is, that was just this year in the spring, and that is when I started PE. Luckily I have had sexual experiences with girls and they have commented on how they liked it so that is a huge boost of confidence. Now im at 6.75”x5” so Ive gained confidence, but I wont be totally secure until I hit a little over 7” length and have girth near 5.5”. The quest continues for all of us.

Cya,

It is so true that insecurities of a small penis can ruin a relationship. I think it was a factor in the downfall in my 8 year marriage (I am now divorced). I wish I had the unit I have now, it may have change some things…but maybe not, I just don’t know.

I agree that even though I have gain much in size I still want more because of my previous feelings about my dick being so small. I am now as today almost 7 3/4 BPEL. I definitely know that sex is so much better and some of it has to do with my much improved confidence.

Ophiosaurus

I like the last line in the last post regarding confidence. Confidence is everything, you need it in all aspects of life. Do what is required to gain more confidence in everything you do, be it a relationship/sex, driving a car, walking down the street, etc, etc.. If your partner/friend brings your confidence down all the time - it’s time for a change.

Also learn to say “I don’t give a shIt what anybody thinks” Ya I know it’s tough - but it’s something to shoot for!

Hello, i am a 1 month old newbie that has gone threw life very insecure about my size. I never took showers in the locker rooms and i was very bladder shy afraid someone would see me. Every guy at school was talking about having 9 in dicks and stuff like that. One day i had a talk with a girl that had sex with this guy that supposably had the biggest dick in school! She told me that is was atlest 9in…. Well two years later i was at a party and i happened to walk in on Mr 9in. Turned out he probbably had a 6in if that! So far all my experiences with women have showed me that they are not very good with numbers. Also most of the women that tell you how big there past partners have been, most likely say that to make you feel a little insecure, because they what you for themselves and they believe making you insecure will keep you from having sex with other people. Well back to my story.

I finally lost my virginity when i turned 20 to this older woman! I was so shy and scared of what she might say! Turned out she was scared of my dick! She said i would hurt her! After having sex with her over the year i realized i didn’t even have to use the whole thing to make her get off. I would just use like 3-4 inches of it and she would cum in like 1min tops. I believe every one has enough to satisfy a woman. Having a bigger than average penis is just a visual turn on. So I wouldn’t worry to much about it! Especially if you just into one night stands! Its just a one night stand!!

I wish all of you good luck with all your PEing routines. This site has every thing you need to know! PEing WORKS !!!!!

Ok now this is something a guy like me feels everyday. I’m a big guy. Now don’t get me wrong i don’t mean big as in i have a big dick, i mean big as in i have a big stomach. I’m 6’2 and 285 pounds and you would think that i have a big dick but i don’t. I have all the insecurities you all do. I don’t talk to girls too much due to a small dick (that and i am in love with a beautiful woman who i plan to marry soon). But you all talk about how you wish u could have a 6” dick and be happy, thats all well and good, but I’ve never been the type of guy who settles well for average. My goal is to hit 8 inches first, then the tantalizing 10 inch, but what I really want is the almighty 12 inches of black beef. See growing up like I did, goin to the same schools that I did, and hanging around the people I did and still hang around now, sex is one of the top 3 activities and topics of discussion. I get tired of walking around everyday wishing i had a bigger dick. I have been publicly embarrassed about my dick and no one has ever seen it except for me. And the fucked up part about it is that it was mostly girls who talked about my small size. They found it funny that i was fat, alone, and had a small dick. I did my first jelq workout last night and it felt kinda weird, but i knew i was on my way. You see, my uncles have big dicks, my father has a big dick, my cousins have big dicks, and I’m not sayin it cause its in the family, plenty of girls have complimented on all their dicks, and i look at mine in shame. Now the woman that I am currently engaged to says that she doesn’t care about that because she loves me, but I care. Being a virgin with a small dick and black is like mixing light and dark alcohol - all fucked up. I have never done anything with a girl before, I haven’t even had my first kiss yet and my girl is all the way in California at UCLA. Its like my whole life has been filled with embarrassment. Just last week my best friend embarrassed me in front of the whole crew by saying that I masturbate constantly and how pathetic I am and shit like that. They were laughing, everyone that is except me. Its like for me having a small dick is a curse. I can’t say that i have passed up opportunities for simply because of the fact that I was too busy getting my case jumped on by every shallow bitch in the school. It was like i was an embarrassment magnet. My parents would give me the old wear protection talk and all that, but I looked at it like whats the use. I looked at my dick like it was useless.

“You couldn’t penetrate a piece of wet ass notebook paper on a full erection!!!!!”

Thats what i would yell at my dick everyday. But now its different i want to change and i think that PE is gonna make things alot better. But the insecurities are still there and i don’t talk at all when my friends talk about sex. I just sit there, quiet, wondering what life would be like with a bigger dick.

Welcome to the board ruffryder,

I hope you get to the size(s) you want. For the meantime, read all you can here and use the search function and post as much as you can is my recommendation (to keep motivated.)

Thanks new member glad to know there are so many people who can relate to me. I haven’t even stated my starting size. Right now, in the flaccid state, I am 5 inches in length and 1 1/2 inches in girth. In my erect state I am 7 inches in length and 3 inches in girth. Is that bad starting out with PE?? I would like some true opinions.

I don’t know about you, guys, but I never had insecurities for a long time. Rather, my problems were related to erection, which was sometimes tricky. Then, after five years of marriage, that is after my wife gave birth to our second child, she started to be very loose. That is a very lousy thing, having this problem with the woman you married, because I did not have problems of the kind with any other woman. I started PEing in 1999, even though it was nothing scientific, but only by instinct. I did not gain much in length, but got to 5.5-6 inches in girth at a length of 7 inches. I know you would say it is good, but it is not enough for her, even if she does not say it (I guess you have been there). I was trying to get her to start kegels, but she does not like to exercise, so the only chance lies with me. I started doing PE on the 1st of October, thankfully I am away for a year so I have the opportunity to do it and I hope I will be able to satisfy her properly. The problem is, and I know you will agree with me, you may be 10 inches long and 7 in girth, if you meet one woman which is loose for your dimensions you will start to feel insecure.

But it’s OK, this gives us the fuel to PE. Right?

ruffryder do you mean 3” in width or circumference? As for length, I wouldn’t feel insecure with 7”.

Guys, I too totally have a small member, and it has been the bain of my life [24 now] and im still a frikin virgin… shameful since I dont want to be one either. All my insecurities have sprouted fourth from me not having an average size dong, and yes I often thought of that whole morgue thing - really made me laugh at how silly we can be.

So I joined the board in hopeing that I can get a bit more girth and a bit more length out of what I have, especially since I’ve just started seeing someone I dont really want to feel like im hung like a sparrow. Are there some good techniques that I should start with because there is an overwhelming ammount of them.

Looks like a great forum and I look forwards into becomming an active chappie here.

Chip, hey and welcome, you just stay focused, you’ll get there.

I have experimented with the various methods, still am, but the overriding thought expressed with good wisdom is that you can’t hurry! Heavier weights for hanging, higher pressures for pumping, erect jelqing??? All the guys have experienced injury using the “extreme” mindset.

I have gained about 3/4” length, 1/4” girth (erect) in the 4 months I’ve been active. My schedule dictates what I can do, then I do it gently and carefully. So far, using the pump works best for me. Indeed, I am looking for girth mainly, am satisfied with my length.

Tailoring your routine is always a good thing and initially, your member will not be toughened to hard working/stretching. Again, easy does it. Later, gradually increase the load stressors. It’s the initial conditioning that will keep you from injury later. Be sensitive to discomfort, if you have pain, you’re on the impending injury track - stop immediately!

I like to read even what does not work, good info there, maybe more important than what does work!

Find your LOT and so on. All this is in the newbie forums!

Happy growth,
j