No confidence

Re-measued today, saw that im really 5.75” long NBP and my girth is only 5.5”, and 5.75” when i’ve been edging for a while. This PE stuff just doesn’t seem to be working for me. On top of that, it seems like everyone has a longer penis than me! I mean I am proud of my girth because it seems to be just a little higher than what most people have.. but I am really just average in length and that’s all I want! My girlfriend’s last boyfriend was “big” as from what i’ve heard from people, and she’s called me average to my face when I asked her the question. I feel like I am not satifying her, because even though some how I’ve hit her cervix before during sex, she’s never really got close to having orgasm from just sex, but she’s told me she has before (obviously not with me, but with her past b/f). This makes me feel like shit, like I said, it feels like I can’t satifsy her! My confidence is at an all time low, I am this big 6’2” 190 pound guy with this 5.75” penis and looking down at it, I look tiny and feel tiny. I know this is not a very positive attitude, but I can’t fucking help it! She’s told me the whole size doesn’t matter thing, but when in reality it does matter and obviously she has proven that it does matter, because she almost left me for him at one point! This guys a prick, and he treated her like shit. My brains just really messed up right now..

How long have you been PEing, and how much time do you spend on it (hours per day, days per week, that kind of info)?

I feel PE gains shouldn’t be impossible for anyone, and at the same time… I feel kind of bad for you because of what your gf said. Especially the thing about having had orgasms in the past but not with you. Ouch. For the most, getting a woman to climax doesn’t require a big penis, just knowledge of female anatomy and what she likes. Maybe you could work on that angle of it.

As far as making your shlong bigger goes, answer my above question and we’ll take it from there.

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Mate, my issue detector is telling me that you are slipping into the classic scenario of - Girlfriend can control me by turning up / down the self esteem penis meter.

It’s the oldest trick in the book. Read the danger signs and either deal with them or move on.

Well, idunno. Those are pretty respectable starting stats, and you’ve only been at it (PE) a month. Believe me, I understand the insecurity and self-esteem thing only too well, but give yourself a few months, please. Also keep in mind that women can really mess with your mind. At some point, you have to assess whether you’re doing all this for (i) her, (ii) yourself, or (iii) the two of you. (iii) is the best reason, (i) is the worst. We men put too much pressure on ourselves. Your gf is not helping the situation, whether innocently or consciously. (But as far as I’m concerned, there are no ‘innocent’ comments in sex. Each side knows how sensitive the other is to any criticicsm of size, technique, whatever.)

I hate it when one or two other people are typing a response at the same time I am :-) In this case, dh and j are being a bit more blunt than I am, aekel. Do try to figure out if your being played or if you’re both on the same page, and make your decisions from that starting point.

You’ve been only PEing for a month. I think you should do it for at least another month or two, then quit. It could be that your over working it or working it too less.

Rome wasn’t built in a day have patience you build it,it will come.

As far as your current gf,sounds like she’s playing mind games with you.My suggestion is either bone up on how the female body works(videos,books,etc)or dump her and find someone much better.

Hang in there. Don’t let her see it bothers you. That is the worst thing you can do. Focus on stamina because if you can last more than 3-4 minutes, with your girth you will be better than the majority of guys she has been with. Bottom line, don’t ever and I mean ever let her know it bothers you. Most girls say girth is what matters and you have a good stats in that department. If you show any insecurities she will be all over it. If you have already displayed concern over your size. You need to do some damage control quick. Let a story slip where you where banging some girl and she wouldn’t quit calling, she started stalking you, whatever. Don’t make it to obvious but come up with something fast. She is playing games with you and you have to fight back and level things off or she will own always have contol over you when it comes to sex, she will exploit it to her advantage and believe me that is not a good place to be. Good luck!

Are you lean? Losing weight will help you feel better and remove the fat pad.

Yeah, I really could lose some weight. A lot of it is muscle, but mainly all my fat is on my stomach area only. Any good ways to lose that? I definetly have love handles and a belly, but that’s really the only noticable fat on me.

A good diet focusing of quality protein,good fats and complex carbs,cardio and a weightlifting program will help lose that unwanted fat.

Have you tried hanging ? How many hours do you stretch a day ? What is the intensity ?

Here’s a technique I came up with from my stretching experiences you can give it a shot and see weather it helps. It seems to be extremely effective to me.

When stretching your penis, do not just pull it as far away from your body as possible and hold it there. Pull it out farthermost, hold it for a second, then give your penis some control over the pull a bit so it can pull itself back and while the penis is pulling itself back, pull it out again. So you pull the penis “out”. Penis pulls itself back “in”. Give your penis some control over itself and challenge it on that control. I contribute my last .5” gain in length to this method. After my newbie gains I spent alot of time PE’ing with no gains before trying that method.

As for confidence, all I can say is believe in yourself and do it because that’s only when you’ll can. Confidence isn’t a gift from the sky if you don’t see it in you, create it.

Good luck.

Dump her now!

No, that is no proof whatsovever - that is your own insecurity talking you into a pit of despair. Even if she said so straight out I wouldn’t buy it - because you have no idea what is true and what is taking a low blow at your esteem to level out the playing field (or get the best of you).

There are lots of threads here on pick-up, Double your Dating, PUA etc - the consensus is that if you don’t give in easily to the opposite sex (she: playing hard to get, he: acting like a prick) the interest level is raised automatically in the other party. This can be argued from supply-demand theory etc but the bottom line is probably an underlying hardwiring in our brains, installed eons ago: Resources are limited and since there is only a limited resource, you need to get it now. This is why we go for material stuff even though the actual aquiring material stuff never gives us long lasting satisfaction, especially if our neighbor aquires the same material stuff. He who aquires the scarce resource has higher status (one of the many allures of gold is it’s scarcity).

Basically, she is following a programme older than Homo Sapiens - older than Homo Erectus, probably - that of going for the scarce resource, namely the guy who treats her like a prick.

/ The Cliff notes on DDA etc: As Twat would say, don’t be clingy - give her the gift of missing you. As Anna Nimity said “Nice is bad. Kind is good.”

You need to find another girl. She`s gonna bring you more trouble than happiness.