Penis Shaming: Let's Stop It Aye
I was talking to my wife the other day about penis shaming and likening it to fat shaming. I was arguing it is not socially acceptable to fat shame, but it seems ok to penis shame.
Her response, which easily won the argument, was that women had collectively decided they don’t want to stand for fat shaming anymore. But us men seem perfectly happy to wallow in our insecurity and not do anything about the shaming in general.
I don’t have any real answers but I think it’s something that needs some focus so hopefully putting our combined heads together at TP will help get a plan going.
As a start how about:
1. Do not participate in penis shaming.
E.g. a massive raised SUV cuts you up, resist the urge to say he’s just compensating for having a small dick.
2. If someone penis shames someone in your presence, call them up on it. Understand that because it is so culturally acceptable to penis shame that they may not understand what’s going on.
E.g. “Look, I’m not having a go but it’s not cool to take the mick out of someone’s cock. You wouldn’t laugh at a girl being fat would you?”. Can even say there’s far more someone can do about their weight than the size of their cock.
3. Resist being penis shamed yourself.
E.g. a girl mocks your size, “eh, leave my dick out of this missy”, “there’s nothing wrong with my dick, what’s this really about?”
4. Do not penis shame yourself. Often this is a far bigger issue in our own heads than it is to anyone else. Do not let these fears prevent you from getting with someone, going skinny dipping as a group, getting changed in changing rooms etc.
Remember that 90% is in our own heads and if we follow points 1-3 above, the 10% that represents other people will give us no grief either.
We punish ourselves far too much and at the end of the day we allow it. Let’s put a stop to it aye.
Jan 2016: 8.0" BPEL 5.3" MEG
Feb 2020: 8.5" BPEL 5.4" MEG