Regaining sexual focus

Hey guys (and the occasional girl) !

I have a bit of a problem, it´s not a big one but it´s still annoying at times.

I sometimes have hard time to keep my focus during sex, it can be that it´s too hot, too cold, the bed squeeking funny, a lightsource beeing to bright, or just about anything. I get thrown off by little things and lose my focus on the sex, and thus my erection. Anyone else have this problem? Any suggestions how to overcome it?

I also have a problem getting a hand job, that´s a erectionkiller for me as well. Not sure why, because I love blowjobs and have no problem with them whatsoever.

I´m 26 btw, and I don´t have any physical problems, I´m in good shape and all that. It´s a mind thing.

Anyway, I would appreciate any input!

Thanks,
/Rocco

Hmm, doesn’t sound like anything’s wrong. Everyone loses their focus, but it’s what you do after you lose your focus that counts. For instance, let’s saying your banging a chic. Thinkin about sex, and then all of a sudden you think about how hot it is. THEN, you start to think that your gonna lose your boner because your thinking about how hot it is. Then you lose your boner. Dun worry about the handjob thing; everyone has a preference.

This happens to me from time to time. Especially when I can feel the bed sheets touching my feet. Man, that bugs the hell out of me! I usually take care of what bugs me before having sex. I set the thermostat to a comfortable setting for both me and her, I throw the sheets off the bed, and I move the candles away from air flow. You’re OK. You just have to do some prep work prior to sex.

SS, your, issue with “the bed sheets touching [your] feet” made me laugh. We all have some little something that can just drive us up the wall. With me, it was the gurgling of my ex’s huge fish tank, and the fact that she had to have the thermostat set at 110 degrees F before she was warm enough to take her clothes off. Meanwhile, the paint is peeling off the walls, and I need an IV to avoid dehydration. LOL :chuckle:

She and I had a lot of issues, and I’m glad she’s gone. ;) But as I recall, the sex was pretty amazing once I got past the fish tank and the heat wave. :)

bigjack

Hey bigjack

I about fell out of my chair I was laughing so hard at your post! LOL!!! :D

Thanks for your replies guys, appreciate it!

TityWhity,

you´re right about the whole evil circle of thoughts, distraction becomes anxiety for the distraction and then you´re distracted again. Hmm, or something like that.

SuperStroker,

YES! The bedsheets touching your feet, couldn´t agree more! Like when you almost get caught in them because they´re bundled up at the end of the bed. Then, to add to the problem, your feet get too hot because of that too.

I have issues with my feet becoming too cold as well, when you´re under the sheets and the temprature is fine there but cold outside and you´re having sex and girl pulls sheets so my feet get out in the cold. That´s just as annoying.

Glad to hear I´m not the only one with a bag full of weird issues ;)

bigjack,

thanks for contributing with your story as well! You should´ve pulled the plug on the fishtank ;)