Well I’m biased. I was a regular on measurection.com for a long time, a very vociferous regular. I don’t know if I’m representative of women or not. According to the reports here of wives’ and girlfriends’ reaction to big dicks, maybe I’m not. I like all sizes of cocks. I take responsibility for my own sexual response and am extremely vaginally orgasmic.
A big dick is somewhat visually appealing to me, although what I find extremely visually appealing is a very hard cock. My attention swivels to the hardest cock, not the biggest. I like big strong cumshots too. But I digress.
I think men somehow find penis length a very powerful and fundamental thing. In a sense men do have power over me, because I really do love and crave cock. But that’s more of an emotional power, a control issue. Actual penis size doesn’t have much to do with that. As for cocks themselves, I have strong feelings of affection and a sort of rightful ownership feeling, hard to explain. I suppose it’s offensive, but really I see it as something there to give me pleasure. Like the word “cock” for instance. I think that sums it up. Cock didn’t come from a word that means “overpowering battering ram that will bring you to your knees in orgasmic pleasure.” It means rooster—with a connotation of affection and appreciation and some humor.
I love cock, and I’m not saying I think cocks are cute or anything—they’re just a woman’s rightful plaything. Woman are made to give birth. I think that might be some of the draw for some size queens, and also women into fisting—the dopamine response from that much fullness, especially if prolonged. We evolved to feel that. I gave birth naturally both times, and especially the second time all I could think of was BIG! And HARD! Perhaps a big cock stimulates that evolutionary reaction in some women. I think other women who are submissive and perhaps from low dopamine need more intense and perhaps painful stimulation, that a big cock would almost act as a sort of BDSM device. Finally of course there are women who really do need huge cocks, because genetically they have very large vaginas.
On the other hand, I have written a lot of erotic fanfic, and in the stories the man is large. Although I’m pretty sure that’s because the actor the stories were written about is large. But maybe not.
I think for women bigness is relative. Small—too small to feel much. Regular-hits my spots. Big—stretches me out. For some women seven inches is huge. Cock size ratings for women are based on pleasure, not on rulers.