Maxtro
Amen to Horsehung first off, kegels do help a lot.
I’ll some personal experience with sex quickly here. With my first girlfriend, I had those problems, definietly. As time wore on, and EVERYONE here will probably attest to this, I was able to last longer. Lasting is in your head. When you start thinking about not being able to, you won’t be. You hear a lot about people thinking about baseball, or war, or something else, and lemmie tell you, it works.
The biggest thing I noticed in my early experience, was that after I made her come, I could go for as long as I wanted, pounding hard, or not. This again, made me realize how much of it was in your head.
Once you start feeling more confident, and stop worrying about lasting, you’ll go for much longer. Once that happens, you’ll start to feel great, gain confidence, and then go for as long as you want. If your first timer isn’t still around, just approach the next girl in bed with as much confidence as you can. If your first timer is around, try to get into a normal routine. It’s hard if you’re only with the girl for one night, but if she’s a regular girlfriend, that makes a huge difference. Especially if you can talk to her, and make her feel good about having sex. If you’re worried about lasting long, be honest, and if she’s a good person, she’ll work with you. The first girl I lasted a long time with, was really great. She was kinda slutty, so was happy with a 20 minute performance. Actually, she was grateful. That said, I gained confidence in myself, and could go forever.
Positions have a bit to do with it too. I find girl on top, I can just kind of drift off thinking about other things, letting her do the work. Watch how she does it on top, and try to mimmick that. We see guys in porn pounding away, but if the girl is on top, and going slow, or moving her hips around, do that when you’re one top.
As far as your size goes, doggy will go deeper, and legs over the head will go much deeper. The most important thing is you’re PE’ing, and that will make you stronger than almost all non-PE-er’s out there, which gives you a great advantage. You’re unit will be so much healthier, and once you get into an overall rythm with pleasing girls, they’ll be falling all over you!
PS There’s numbing cream out there also, though I’ve not used it, maybe some have…
PPS There are lotsa great books out there on techniques. I got oral down pat so the girl came no matter what, so I knew I could make her happy. That takes a lot of pressure off. Make it as much about her in the beginning as you can, (pleasing her) and she’ll love you for it…
PPPS WE’VE ALL BEEN THERE!