This comepletly sucks!

I don’t know if I just have some bad mental problems or if this is normal!!!! but here goes…… I have recently split up with my wife and I really miss her, in everyway, mainly in the bedroom! I have been with many many women, and she is the best and always has been. Since we have been split up, I have slept with several women, and no matter how skilled they seemed to be, it just plain sucks! I would just assume cut a hole in the wall and do it instead! I can’t quit thinking of her with other lovers, and what if they have a bigger wang than me! or what if they are better in bed??? She always told me I was the best she had ever had, but I did not have the biggest penis……… I how do I stop these dang obsessive thoughts and enjoy sex with someone else?

I have recently started PE excercises and am taking vitiman E and Alzare, and I would like to try getting some L-argine, but I can’t find any, anywhere!

I am currently doing about 300 jelqs, and spending about 30 minutes a day doing manual stretches, and I may have noticed a small gain, but it might just be placebo…. I have been doing the jelqs for about a week now, and the stretches for about a month…. how long will it be before I get some really noticeable gains?????

Any adice on any of this I have mentioned, would be geatly appreciated.

Thanks guys.

By the way, my current status is 6 1/2 inches bone pressed, but about 5 1/2 in girth. I guess that’s about normal.

Your routine is good for the first couple of weeks. For better gains you need to significantly increase the time and intensity of your routine. Wal-Mart has L-arginine but neither Eckerds or Wallgreens has it. As long as it isn’t a problem be sure to warm up the region w/ hot water, hot rag, microwaved rice sock, or a heating pad. I am convinced this would have boosted my early gains.

HEY -

(1) Are you sure that she is with other guys? Is that imagination or confirmed fact?

(2) Do you think that she may be having the same thoughts about you? What would she think if she knew that you were “dipping your wick” elsewhere? Could she have similar feelings?

(3) Without being too nosy - is the “split” a permanent-in-the-making action (ie = headed toward divorce) or is it a temporary thing?

(4) Again with the “nosy” - is there a cause for the split? Have you attempted dialog or counseling?

(5) and, finally, without being too judgemental - are you with the other gals because you can’t stay away from pussy (?) or are you just taking advantage of the situation to go and play?

Remember - in the good and the bad of a relationship, there are at least two sides to the story … which side is yours?
SHALOM
wan2Bbig/Alex

wan2,

You expressed what I lacked the elegance to do. You can charge for that counselor.

She says she is not, but she cheated on me when we were together, so I figured it was only logical to assume she was. I just want these thoughts out of my head!!!!!!!!!!! I can’t take her back, because of the fact she has cheated on me, and done other horrible things, she still calls me and wants to work things out, but I’m not going to, I will try to be fer friend if she wants, that would be great, because we used to be the best of friends and lovers…… It was so awsome!

She started out, braging on me, how good looking I was, and what a great body I had, but then after time, she started commenting on other men, and then the cheating started…….Screw it….. I just want these tormenting thoughts out of my head……..

If you want the tormenting thoughts out of your head, don’t even think about being her friend. Just won’t work. Guys aren’t wired that way. Move on.

I guess I’m just screwed then………. I do know something that would help me, I’m going to continue to endure PE, and achieve an enormous slong……. that way, when I think about her having sex with someone else, I can almost rest assured that I have a bigger wang! And then I’m going to find her and show it to her!*lol*!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

Wan2, that was indeed thoughtful and elegantly stated.

I agree with gprent, it is practically impossible to be friends. I feel for you, because I too am going through a shakeup and likely split with a phenomenal woman who’s been a lover and best friend. Downgrading to being buds won’t work.

And try not to beat yourself up over imagined (or even real) lovers of hers. Focus on yourself, learn something from this so history doesn’t repeat itself, and move forward as quickly as you can.

Starter777,

1) Your cock size is fine as it is. Make it bigger only for yourself. It is not small. It is average to large-average, which is not bad at all. I’m about the same size so I know what I’m talking about. Even though I’m obsessed with huge dicks I also know what’s out there after an active sexual life of 35 years with other men. The really big ones are rare.

2) You said she wanted to work things out. Consider that. But only with couples counselling.

3) My ex (a guy) decided he wanted to be single again after 10 years together. We had an open relationship so there was no issue of cheating. He didn’t even have an affair. He didn’t want to try to work it out. I had to let him go and move on. We have joint custody of the dogs and we get along fine. I even like the guy he’s dating.

4) Don’t abuse yourself by thinking about her with other men. Take care of you own needs, and take care of those needs for you alone.

5) She told you that she thought you were the best. Penis size was not an issue, unless you left something out of your story.

6) Go, as soon as possible, to a therapist and talk this issue out. You come first right now. You don’t sound ready to “get back together” with your wife right now.

7) IM me if you want to vent. I’m gay but I can listen. I won’t take it personally.

8) Don’t overdo it with PE when you are filled with anger. Be gentle with your cock. Punch a pillow but not your dick.

Lots of good stuff there, bro - and thanks for the compliment.

I have been in a similar situation (wrote about this before) when my wifey got into a “funk” and did the cruising scene via chats. I found out about it when she told me to dump mail from her address (the comp was being worked on, and I used the one in the office. She was afraid that there would be too much junk built up in her “yahoo” and “msn” accounts … and that is STILL an issue … but, )

I opened her account, and found current and past letters from guys she had met on-line, and some of her responses. While I am 99% certain that nothing physical happened (these guys were geographically pretty distant), there was some pretty explicit language being used on both sides.

I did not see that she ever referred to me physically (she still maintains that I am her “best” - what-the-hell-ever that “really” means [I think it is because I am her meal ticket, and likely to be for some time - she is saying that]) - but, she did bad mouth me for being a work-a-holic (guilty then - not so much now) and somewhat inattentive (guilty also).

Some of the guys she has “visited” in the chats have actually told me that she was hitting on them, and that they has told her “no” (I actually met one, and he and I are pretty good friends now - both went to the same JR college about two years apart) … but, I have also heard from some of the gals, that she has done “cam shows” for the guys (not recently) and has been pretty explicit in chat rooms.

Anyway - the point of my questions, bro, was to help you focus a bit. I have been thru some breakups myself, and a divorce, and I know the emotions you are feeling. Many of us hold the same thoughts about ex’es … male or female … and we all - it is a human thing - have 20/20 hindsight, and a bad case of the WHAT IFS.

I am not as much of a fatalist as some of my companions here. Brokenness is mostly an emotional state, and can be healed - if only to the point where your mental/emotional health is concerned. Can your relationship with her be restored? Possibly … but, most likely never to the original extent.

Can there be a “friendly” relationship here? It is not likely, simply because there is a mutual feeling of betrayal, and until that rift is taken care of, nothing else will fall into place.

Guess I have rambled enough - again! However, the advice you have been given is sound:
(1) work on healing YOU - if, in fact, you do not believe that your relationship is [a] worth saving or you believe that it is [b] damaged beyond repair.
(2) practice FORGIVENESS, even though you may feel like the betrayed one. No judgement, remember, but until the judge declares your marriage OVER, you are still her spouse - and regardless of the motivation or the circumstance, cheating is just that, and
(3) PE to serve your needs, and the needs of future partners. It appears that you hold out little hope for this relationship to be made whole, so get ready for the next one … but, don’t try to get immense all at once. Remember, chicks are plentiful - but, you only got ONE DICK!

Be gentle with yourself. Think about the good and positive things in your past relationship, and practice forgiveness.
SHALOM
wan2Bbig/Alex

I feel for you…

I broke up with someone - I had the biggest dick she ever had (16cm soft, 22 cm by 16 cm in girth erect). She even said it was too big…oh how I love those words…

Yet I felt all the things you are feeling. Sense doesn’t come into it, size doesn’t come into it.

Anyway, don’t worry about it, this happens to everyone. I think about her meeting guys who are bigger…it’s the old gunfighter thing “there’s always someone faster”…

Maybe the next woman you meet will say you are the biggest and best she’s had - then you can spare a thought for HER ex-guy…sitting there…wondering…

Amen. Continued contact with her would be like rubbing salt in a wound. Make a clean break, don’t keep picking at the scab - let it heal.

And I would concur - after cheating, how could there ever be trust. I see it this way, you two got into a relationship, loved each other, then she still looked elsewhere, opened her legs for another man & enjoyed him.

To take her back would just prove to her that she can screw behind your back and still keep you. And after she breached that line once, what’s to stop her from doing it again…..and again….

There’s plenty o’ puss in the world, find a new bearded oyster to plunder. And stop thinking about her when you’re with other women - you’d be best to regard her as “dead.” Mourn the loss, then move on.