This thread pretty much somes up the reason why any and/or all of us PE:
the paranoia that were just not good enough.
I have had endless conversations with my girl on this. Sometimes I feel good about what she says. Sometimes I feel bad about what she says.
But lately I’ve been thinking about this and I hope all of us here consider it too.
Why are we always looking for outside approval in order to feel good about ourselves?
Why are we always letting something or someone ELSE decide if we’re going to be happy about ourselves?
I can’t believe we’re all still like kids at school looking for stars on our report cards.
I totally envy those kids that just smoke pot, smile and don’t give a shit what anyone thinks about them: teachers, parents, girlfriends, anyone.
I really wish I could fuck my girl without caring if she’s enjoying herself.
I think that’s the key, guys, we’ve got to learn to be more selfish. If the girl doesn’t enjoy herself, for whatever reason, then that’s HER fault. It’s not our dicks’ fault!
I know that it is a real joy to see the shock, smile and satisfaction of a girl when we lay them. Especially when you want to make someone you love happy.
But, honestly, do you think you really ever make someone else happy?
Don’t they have their own game going on in their own head? Can we ever really get in there and be satisfied for them?
I mean think about us and our mixed up heads! Here we are, having sex with a girl we like, and we’re so overly concerned about her getting off that we have overlooked having our own fun!
It’s totally crazy.
I recommend that the next time one of you guys has sex, you totally focus on what YOU like. Be completely selfish. Tell her what you want her to do. Focus on that ass and those tits and everything you ever dreamed of a chick doing to you. Focus on how good that pussy feels when you slide your cock in. Go at the speed that feels good TO YOU. Stop and do all the things you want to do! After all, you’re getting laid! Live it up!
I think this is the key to living a great life, guys.
We have to decide consciously that we are going to have one hell of a great time!
So the next time you have sex, or do anything for that matter, tell yourself right before, “Ok, I am going to milk this moment for every drip it’s worth and have so much goddamn fun the smile will take DAYS to wipe off!”