My Wife Throw away My Vacuum Pump

I have been on here for 6 month actively and I just started water pumping. I still think air pumping is erotic, I don’t know why, it still kinda freaks me out. For some reason water pumping for me is ok and makes sense, I don’t know why?!

I know exactly how she feels and I can tell you that the only way I would accept this is with water pumping and having your partner in on it. The bathmate ones have different colors and stuff that make this less scary. You just have to make this less weird and more about both of you liking it.

This has to be a "thing" that is not erotic but a device for stamina and freakiness. For instance, I have a weekly massage with wifey and a weekly spa night (basically a shower together and scrub each other). Those are things it sounds like you are missing, if you had that, a transition into water pumping for her would be easier to swallow.

You have to say it and mean it, this is not erotica this is us being super sexy, kinky, freaky, and great in bed.

Air pumping erotic? 💥Mind blown💥

It’s my dick in a space suit and your dick on a scuba with your bathmate, like Budd from the Abyss movie, or Capt Barnacles from Octonauts.

Some important things for OP to consider:

-does your wife actually enjoy intercourse with you? (You mention she orgasms from clit stimulation only)

-does your wife WANT your penis to be any bigger (You are already big, with very large girth that may be uncomfortable for her)

I don’t know you or your wife, or your relationship. I only know what you have said in this thread.

That being said, it seems like your wife is very religious and has very conservative views when it comes to sexuality.

It may very well be that she is not interested in expanding your sex life together.

She seems to be against it and against you thinking about sex and sexuality a lot. What she calls “erotic”.

If that’s the case, everything you’re doing is probably harming your relationship and her view of you.

And you wanting to continue pumping might ultimately ruin your marriage or at least any respect your wife has for you.

Before you think about pumping or any other grand sexual plans, you need to have a LOT of open and honest discussions with your wife and see if she is open to learning more about sexuality and that anything you guys do together is to make your bond stronger and to bring you closer together.

My wife have orgasm in some position like cow girl and missionary.But in missionary position I must use “coital alignment technique,” aka CAT to rub clit with my pubic bone to she have orgasm.she have enjoyment from doggy style but she never reached orgasm by doggy style or prone bone position.

She say you already are big and your length and girth is OK.she say when you are big you don’t need that erotic device that make your cock ugly ! Because I have a bit discoloration from pumping.

I am addicted to pumping.But my wife and her opinion is very important for me.

Maybe go for hyaluronic acid filler and forget the pump. It’s kinda expensive though.

Just don’t overdo it. 5 to 10ml will give you around 1 to 1,5cm more girth for around 12 months.

the plot thickens:

- She does not like how your pump’d dick looks like, she doesn’t like the discoloration, you have to do the firegoat rolls or an NIR+RED pad for warm up to fix the dick look. Do you use coconut oil so the dick is nice and soft to her? You have to pump on the days you don’t have sex, for the freaky stuff I already wrote about that. You also need to slow it down and tell her you will reduce from 4 days to 2 days a week. Show her you are willing to negotiate.

- You feel you have trouble getting her to cum in other positions, that is something you need to work on with communication, that is not a girth issue. There is an HBO special on sex that deals with more women trying to get vagina orgasms, check it out. It’s not your or her fault , it is a situation you both have to work on. You need to cool down on your girth issues and she needs to be more open to working on the vagina orgasms.

My warmup for pumping is hot water and I use from olive oil for moisturizing.

I do pumping in days I don’t have sex.

I want forget pumping for 3 to 6 month until my discoloration gone.And in this time I can do light jelqing or edging routine

Yup, fire goat definitely, and finish off with a cool down (wet towel on cold water). Shouldn’t cause turtling if you keep it under 2 min.

I usually get my wife worked up where I don’t have to thrust hours to get her to cum. I eat her for 30 min and I really want her to squirt but she didn’t want all that on our bed, I know there’s a poly bedding I can get to keep all that juice from seeping in, but going back to the sex, at the time I started humping shes screaming. It’s not 100% but usually when I’m successful in turning my wife so horny, it’s like a drug. When we do doggie, I usually reach down and play with her clit. I just think you have some homework to do and don’t think we’re ganging up on you. Obviously we’re here to help and we have enough bedroom skills to make our wives become porn stars and don’t get me wrong, my wife and her family are conservative religious but I realized my wife did some rebellious experimentation during her single days, causing her to be in the middle of San Francisco at wee dawn having to call a friend to help her get a cab. So maybe I’m not in the same boat as you. I still have a lot to learn and my objective is to put those skills to the bedroom and this is a forum that help you ask candidly. Just think of bedroom skills as a sport. I actually think of baseball when I’m close to the edge…yeah I know I’m not pornstar myself

It’s fugly. I don’t know man, I’ve seen some pics and it kinda looks like mt Fiji. Why did it make some dicks look conical? Maybe it was a preheal photo? Sure a pumped penis might look like that with discoloration, but once edema subsides it looks nice and even… I’m sure his wife is going to know once he’s injecting if he has a permanent puff daddy down there.

I had to explain to my wife that pumping did not feel like self pleasure. When she found out she thought I was pumping instead of being with her.

All women even those that control the fear are a little worried you might try and use your improved unit with someone else.

I told her it was like working out for your dick. You go to the gym to be a better version of yourself, you do dick exercises to be a better version of yourself.

+1 :)

Maybe you told her too quickly, it might have been an idea to maybe use the pump in private a few days a week a couple of days before sex and let her get a little surprise without it being too much, then begin using the pump the day before sex, in time the conversation would have come up and she might have not been so against it. 2 choices now just forget it or have an open chat about it.

Guys, I know a lot of people just have routines and everlasting hrs in the pump, the reality is anyone would get annoyed seeing their guy always stuck to a tube?,lol.
I feel guys want a bigger tool for sex and a pump does just that!, so? Why not just use it for a longer period of time on the day you want something extra for sex and other times just live your life as normal?. Most of a pumps results are from the immediate result anyway, so use it and make use of the temporary gain there and then!. Just my thoughts on time expenditure with constant routines and relationship stress.