I’m no pro, but what I’ve found that helps me mostly is heat and arousal. Heat before, heat during, heat after, and heat during rest also.
This week while my wife was performing her wonderful duty of cock worship and fellatio, she noticed that my shaft was noticeably thicker. Of course, I had a glorious hard on which benefited me in the girthiest of ways, but her small hands looked even more delicate and feminine as she gently fondled my manliness and caressed it with her lapping tongue and devouring throat and accepted my manhood all over her face…
I’ve been enjoying warming up to my usual 3Hg for a few minutes and then pushing myself to my upper limit of 5Hg for only a second until returning to my comfort zone of 3Hg. I do this maybe 5 times. My entire session lasts maybe 5 minutes. Coupled with this, constant heat a mentioned by others, even if it’s many hours post session or the next day. I use a hot water bottle folded over with a protective cloth pouch when it’s a little bit too hot and try and stay in for 15-20 mins, or until it’s no longer warm enough. Baths work well for me, but to get the water hot enough becomes almost unbearable for the rest of my body.
Keep trying different things safely and you are sure to find something that works for you!
Bonne chance!