Pumping and sensitivity

Yes, I’ve been to counseling and stopped for a bit due to money, but am resuming. I don’t know what the hell to do. I think she’s done with me and keeps me around to use me for money. And like an idiot, I let her. Those days are over now.

Pm me is you need to mate.

How do you know she’s done with you?

Anger, frustration and heartache blur our view of things. This is important.

The book helped me to understand why we split, and how to not engage with her anger long enough to preserve good feelings that are now allowing us to still wear our rings and invest in a possible positive future.

I still don’t know what the future holds, but we still love each other.

Cheers, A.

Thinking clearly, it’s obvious that she wouldn’t go to counseling with you, if all she was after was your money.

She’s NOT going to counseling with me. I thicknesses done with me because she only offers me sex when she needs a bill paid. She will be going to a counselor tomorrow. It’s a step.

She’s NOT going to counseling with me. I think she’s done with me because she only offers me sex when she needs a bill paid. She has an appointment with my counselor tomorrow. It’s a step.

Everyone tells me she’s using me. I don’t know what to think. We went out tonight and she spends time with me, but reconciling is not a priority to her right now. Getting her bills paid is her top priority. She has told me numerous times she’s over me.

Give her her space. Go the opposite direction.

Why are you giving her money then?

I found that my wife reacts best when I agree with her and give her space.

We are still wearing our rings.

I care too much about her. We can’t seem to give one another space. If I don’t text or call her, she texts or calls me.

She had to sell her rings because she’s broke. I gave her my ring and told her when she’s ready to act like my wife and reconcile to give it back.

That’s good and angry, and probably made her more than a little resentful.

Do what you do with her out of love, even if it means not seeing her.

Its the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but it might just work.

I havent seen my wife since Friday night and it’s killing me every second. I had tears this morning
Going to soccer.

Its not her job to dry those tears, it’s mine.

I’ll see her tomorrow morning to give the car we still share so she can go to work.

25 years and all she can think to do is offer me sex when she needs money… I’m almost done with her.

I could see how that could be frustrating.

I spent three hours last night at my wife’s house making dinner and cutting her box spring in half so that it fit up her stairs to the bedroom.

She was happy about that and then I left.

Your wife doesn’t know what to do and neither do you.

If you male it easier on her, she’ll make it easier on you, I promise. 25 years is a very long time.

We both don’t know what to do. We’ve hurt each other so bad. I give her space now and she’s slowly coming around. She told me she wants to go to NY with me in November. I’ve begun making life easier on her. I’ve quit being so controlling and have adjusted my temper. It’s working somewhat. We’ll see. We’ve been together since we were 18 & 17 years of age.

Step by step mate.

Give to receive. Give to see her smile. Give her space with love. She will appreciate it.

Your mood sets the tone.

Be the thermostat for the room.

She just planned to be with you in November. You can’t ask for better than that.

I’ve had some eye openers today. Now I just need to let her heart catch up and remember what brought us together in the first place. I think we’re getting back to a good place.