3 Prong Approach

I’ve decided after years of minimal results with PE, low libido, and laughable stamina, I am going to attempt a 3 prong approach in effort to increase my libido, staying power, and hopefully increase my EQ, BPEL, & EG at the same time.

I’ll start off by giving some background information about myself. I’m currently 31 years old. Married and in a long term relationship with the same woman for 14 years (with a couple breaks during post secondary years). No kids; however 1 on the way. I am a shift worker (days and nights - 13hrs shifts). I believe I’m generally in good shape - 175ibs, 5’9. Clean diet - low surgar, low fat, low sodium, high protein; a lot of fruits and vegetables. Minimal grains; however when consumed typically whole wheat. I drink plenty of water. My diet is supplement by 1 men’s multi-vitamin a day. Caffeine intake, typically, is no more than 1 cup of green tea or black coffee a day. I take homemade meals during work time.

My workout routine consists of 45-60min weight lifting session every day on my days off. During my work tour, I do not normally workout - use it as my recovery time. I try to do a light workout on my switch over day from day to night shifts. I have fruit/veggie smoothie with protein powder after each workout and drink at least 24oz of water during the work out. I will admit that my workout out consist 99.9% of weight lifting. I do not do cardio for one reason - I have a difficult time keeping weight on. In the past when I add cardio (as I recognize the cardiovascular benefits), I lose 5ibs within 1-2 weeks.

My PE routine has been consistent over the years; however, minimal in nature. It consistent, again during days off and when wife is not in the house (she does not know about PE; however I believe she suspects something), pumping with the bathmate (15-20min) reps at increased pressure every 5 minutes at 3-4 sets. Typically, 4-5 times in a 10 day period. I use a cable clamp as an All day cock ring 4-5 times in a 10 day period. I jelq minimally - 1 to 2 times a week at 100 reps. My gains have been minimal; though I’d suggest it is equivalent to the time I have invested.

Most of my PE sessions were done with the assistance of porn. I also masturbated very frequently, to the amount where I’d prefer to get off to porn then having sex with my wife. You can assume the many problems this caused.

First off, I believe it has brain washed me with an unrealistic expectation of woman’s body build - petite, in shape, round and full boobs, tight but round ass, long thin legs, and a tight pussy (physically and visually). This only added to my already shallow physical view of women. My ideal physical idea of a woman is in shape (athletic), petite but strong, full, round, & perky B-C cub breast with petite nipples, round but petite and tight ass, flat stomach, and a slightly raised pubic area, clean shaven and tight pussy. This is my ideal woman physically as much as I realise is shallow and unlikely. Some like petite woman and some like large woman. I believe there is nothing wrong in having an ideal body type, however, add the addition of porn and the lost of sexual attraction to my own wife as she does not meet this standard, has caused major issues in my drive and libido.

Secondly, I embarrassingly have size anxiety. I accept that over the years of “research” on Google and Thunder’sPlace that I am indeed above average in length and about average for girth if not slightly above. However, just as many of us experience, porn has caused me to believe that I’m not big enough - with further consideration to the next issue.

Lastly, performance anxiety is another issue. Again, with porn, the expectation to fuck long and hard for hours at a time has brained washed me to believe this is the only way to bring pleasure to my wife. With this anxiety, my stamina is pretty lousy. I don’t know the true medical definition of premature ejaculation, however I feel that I may suffer some degree of this. Typically penetrative sex last 5 minutes give or take. Add to this that in 14 years of being together, I do not believe I have ever given my wife an orgasm. She has been close in the past, however has stopped herself in fear of the feeling of peeing. She also grew up in a family which treated the subject of sex as taboo. With all of this, I feel I’m not adequate especially being that earlier in our relationship, I was very open and driven to satisfying her and bringing her to orgasm; however it seemed her own fear and anxiety stopped this even with my encouragement and openness on her own direction. With this I do not enjoy sex as much being that I can’t seem to bring her to orgasm. A consequence of this is when she does begin to get all hot & bother, I get too excited myself and blow, essentially ending the session - she does not seem to enjoy further stimulation by mouth/finger after penetration. Ultimately, my performance anxiety quashes my physical attraction to my wife.

A lot of issues, more so, a strong drive to fix them.

My 3 prong approach:

1) No porn
A lot of academic research has indicated that long term and frequent viewing of pornography rewires our brain which consequently affects our pleasure hormones.

It is no secret that porn causes an unrealistic expectation of sexual performance, sexual encounters, and body image.

I’m two weeks off of porn. The first two weeks seemed easy; however, like any addiction, I’ve had some cravings; however, I have very strong will power. I have not viewed any porn. My wife is aware of this prong.

My goal is avoid porn for the long term and change my idea of sex in reality.

2) No masturbation/ Semen retention
There is limited information on semen retention; however, it indicates that long term semen retention may benefit libido, testosterone levels, EQ, and overall energy. It is suggested that semen production uses a lot of energy, vitamins, micro-nutrients & minerals. By retaining semen, your body does not use as much energy or nutrient, thus, in theory, a person feels more energetic and less lethargic. Though the information is limited, I believe this could be a beneficial exercise in reaching my goals. There is a suggestion that semen retention can be practiced in avoiding masturbation; more so, partaking in sex and still having an orgasm without ejaculating. This apparently takes months and months of practice.

We had sex the other evening. I tried very hard to avoid ejaculation; but with only two weeks of exercise, I was unable to avoid ejaculation. Though my wife and I both concluded my load was larger than usual. I was somewhat disappointed in myself but was quickly reminded that there should be no expectation to master a technique in two weeks. It can take months for an average person to do so.

My wife is also aware that I’m avoiding masturbation. She is not aware of me practicing retention. I will have to clarify this eventually.

My goal is to orgasm without ejaculating, increase my testosterone, libido, and stamina. Secondary goal is to have more energy.

3) Kegel Exercises/ Additional Supplementation
The benefits of kegel exercises for both men and women appear to be conclusive. For men, it can delay ejaculation and with enough practice stop ejaculation without sacrificing an orgasm. It can also assist in PE by increasing EQ through enhanced blood flood. I have a 40 minute commute to work. I will use this time to perform kegel exercises. I also will try to increase my jelq exercises by 50%.

I will also experiment with the use of l-arginine & l-citrulinne.

My goal is to increase my stamina, avoid pre-ejaculation, and increase blood flow (EQ) both to my penis and during my workouts. Any gains will be a bonus.

If you have any question, concerns, or comments, I am very open to discussion. I will make periodic updates to keep those interested aware of my progress as well as keeping myself accountable.

Happy PEing

Received my order of Citrulline & Arginine. Dosage:

Twice a day *breakfast & supper - 1500mg Arginine & 2900mg Citrulline

Once a day *bedtime - 750mg Arginine & 1450mg Citrulline.

Total Daily Dosage - 3750mg Arginine & 7250mg Citrulline.

Hey man. I saw your body pic on another thread and was going to message and ask you about your routine but you seem to have spelled it all out here. By routine I mean workout and PE. First of all, your physique is stellar and I’m wondering if you found the semen retention/abstaining from beating off, a really big asset or if your physique was already great before you began this 3-pronged approach. Similarly, has this helped your PE? As for PE, have you made any gains and what’s your current measurements?

Bodywise, we are really similar and we’re very close in age. I’m 5’9” and nearly 170 but the pic I included was about 7 pounds ago so I was a little more lean (I’ve been getting more mass on my legs and butt lately and starting to hit the gym religiously again). My dick pics are on my threads and I may post some more body pics as well soon. As mentioned, I’m new to PE but have always been very hung and in the past two weeks of hanging my flaccid dick is always massive, it doesn’t really retract anymore.

I had no staying power as a teenager and young adult. I worked that problem from the opposite end - masturbating twice a day, each time with a quick ejaculation, continuing through the sensitive time, and as long as it took for a second ejaculation. With a girl, I’d come within a dozen strokes, have to pause briefly due to the sensation, then resume, at which point I could go for as long as I wanted, with available time being the main limit.

It might not have been the “best” method, but it *did* work, at least for me. If nofap doesn’t work for you, you might consider it.

I’ve been able to do that a few times when edging. Not often. For some reason, it’s easy when receiving oral sex.