3 Months In

I’m 41. I don’t smoke or drink. I work out 3 days a week so I’m in relatively good shape. I’ve been with the same woman for 23 years. 20 years ago I tried a penis pump. Used it a few times incorrectly and ended up going to the ER. My dick healed just fine and that incident deterred me from ever trying PE again.. Until recently.

My wife has always complimented me on the size of dick and that has really been all the encouragement I’ve needed until recently. Even after raising 3 kids we have always managed to have an amazing sex life. I’ll save the long story for another time but, ED started creeping in about a year ago. I discovered PIED was a thing so I cut out all porn. Took about 50 days but my erection qualities returned with full force. To further enhance my progress, I read up on penis pumps and how they help with ED. I bought one 3 months ago. Again I over did it a couple times but quickly learned a safe way of using it. I found this site and did more reading. Introduced jelqing and stretching to my routine.

I’ve been on a break for 7 days now because I’ve injured myself. Erection qualities went to shit. ED is creeping back in. Think I tore something inside right below the head on the left side. It aches pretty bad especially after sex. I also have a bruise on the left side of my shaft which I noticed about a month ago and just ignored. The bruise showed up before the ache injury. It’s still sticking around even after this 7 day break. My gains were modest at best. Girth is a little better and I went from 7-1/4 to 7-3/8 in length. My wife doesn’t know about the PE but she is hornier than usual which is a good thing.

I really wanted to post in the injury/treatments forum but apparently as a newbie I’m restricted. I’m confident that whatever damage I’ve caused will resolve itself with more rest time. I still have morning wood and I can still get it up when she wants it. Although this past couple weeks she’s had to encourage my unit more than usual. My little feller just doesn’t seem to like being in full angry mode right now. Hell, after reading in the injury forum I don’t know if I’ll ever go back to PE once I’m back to 100%. I’ll make that decision once I’ve fully recovered.

I’ll give it however much rest time is needed but hopefully report back in a week or so with good news.

Love your handle McLovin! Do you have a last name or is it just McLovin😉

I love to read about marriages that successfully navigate raising children all the while maintaining a healthy sex life, well done my friend!

No stress based PE for you until you get back to good health. No pain and positive PI’s will let you know once you are there.

Like you said, hopefully another few weeks or so.

Best wishes

It’s been 10 days since I’ve started my break from PE. Got spontaneous wood today thinking of the blowjob my wife gave me this weekend. It was just f’n fantastic! Dick still doesn’t feel right but the pain isn’t unbearable. I felt good enough to self stimulate so I did when I got home just to see If I lost the little gains I acquired. I did. They’re gone. That’s ok though. I got rock hard pretty quick so that’s good enough for me at the moment.

The little bruise doesn’t seem to be going away like I think it should. It’s only really noticeable when I’m flaccid. Maybe a penis bruise takes longer to go away? I did notice it over a month ago and just kept pumping so I’m sure that didn’t help. Anyone else have issues with bruising not fading?

I guess I shouldn’t expect to be 100% after just 10 days.

Breaks are great, aren’t they? I find it hard to self-impose breaks. They usually come because I’m on vacation. 7 days on the road with a teenager puts a stop to all efforts.

No issues with bruises not fading, unless you’re talking about discoloration, which is expected.

I’m starting to wonder if I should be more concerned than I have been. I don’t think I have a fractured penis but I’m wondering if a slight tear could be why I am still in pain. The pain really got noticeable when I stopped all PE 12 days ago. It was kinda painful after my wife and I had sex last weekend. I bought a fleshlight a few years ago when we separated so I broke it out yesterday, blew the dust off and tried to give it a go. I wanted to make sure I was good to go for my wife this weekend. I didn’t finish. The pain was more intense. Wasn’t too painful to become erect. The pain got worse when I began to thrust. Lightly thrusting even. I stopped immediately because I felt pain mixed in with the pleasure.

Should I be concerned about a possible small tear? I googled penis fracture and I know my dick doesn’t look like that. Can over stressing / stretching the tunica cause this? It’s just under the head, more on the left side but some on the right, and goes down about a quarter way down the shaft.

I was pumping hour long sessions the last couple months 5 or 6 days a week. 4 - 15 minute sets and usually no more 5hg. My erections were awesome so I assumed my dick was handling it. I was warming up first, doing light manual stretches, and about 50 jelqs in between pump sets. I over did it obviously. I mainly decided to quit for a while to let the bruise go away. The pain was only slight when I started this break.

Still have ok morning wood. Although today it more like a morning chubby. Got 1 spontaneous erection so far today and it definitely didn’t feel right. Still just painful in that area. If anyone can relate to this type of injury I’d sure like to hear from you. I’m just starting to get concerned because after 12 days of rest it doesn’t seem to be getting any better.

I can possibly be “too busy” this weekend for sex but I know she’ll definitely need it by next weekend.

Been doing some reading. I don’t think I even slightly fractured it like I was thinking. I can still get erections and they are pretty good as long as I’m stimulating it. I think my erections are expanding the damaged tissue at the tip, aggravating it and that’s why I have pain. Probably need to keep my dick as flaccid as I can until this pain goes away. I need to test this theory. I’m good with no masturbation but the night wood and the random couple boners I get a day will be harder to control. Plus if the wife wants to fuck, well, I’ll just have to suffer through it and hope for the best. 😉

No one has responded yet with my type of injury so I don’t know what to compare it with.

I’d run to the doctor if I had this and was unable to get it up but that isn’t the case. Surely I should see good improvement in another week I would think. I’m keeping my cool for the moment but my dick is pretty important to me. This just has me scratching my head. 🤔

Keep giving it to me to heal and keep a positive mental outlook.

Not as painful today but still definitely lingering. Yesterday I noticed the pain seemed to be steaming from directly on top of my shaft right above my circumcision scar and wrapping around to the left side. Don’t have any hard knots so I I’m not sure if it’s just an aggravated vein or lymph vessel. Will that even cause pain?

Thought I’d be able to get away with not having sex this weekend so I could give it more time to heal but my wife is super horny right now. I have to perform in about an hour so I’m keeping fingers crossed I don’t aggravate it too badly.

So right after I posted last, my wife and I had sex twice that night and both sessions were fucking amazing. First session she got off 3 times in less than 10 minutes and the second session was a solid 40 minutes and I lasted the entire time because I had already “released” earlier. I lost count of how many times she got hers. She laid there when we were finished completely spread out and exhausted and it got me thinking..

I am way to concerned about the size of my unit. I have been satisfying the same woman for the last 23 years with my 7.25” member. 5” mid erect girth and 6” base girth. She has made comments over the years to me how lucky she is to have been sexually satisfied. I know she wasn’t just telling me that to make me feel better because her girlfriends have told what she says to them too. I don’t know if I’ll be able to, but I need to quit thinking that if I can make my dick bigger then my wife will be happier.

Now, it’s been a month since I stopped PE. The bruise on my shaft has faded significantly but there is still noticeable marking at the perimeter where it was. I can definitely see it when I am flaccid but not so much when I am erect. I’m hoping it isn’t permanent marking and it just needs more time to fade. I would think a month should’ve been sufficient time to heal but apparently not. The wife hasn’t noticed it yet because usually when she sees it I’m erect or well on my way to being erect. I tend to not show my flaccid state to her because it makes me self conscious. Not sure why but I’ve always been that way.

The pain I was experiencing by my circumcision scar and around the left side has diminished a great deal. I wouldn’t say it’s completely healed yet because I can occasionally still feel a hint of discomfort but nothing like it was a month ago. ED is gone too. Now just the thought of wife’s body gets me going. She’s fucking hot too. And a teacher so she constantly dressing up in them hot teacher outfits. Glasses and all.

Still no porn and no masturbation. I cut that out a year ago and the decision to do that became easier once I discovered my dick started responding every time to real sex and the touch of a real woman.

So as I’ve gotten older, porn was causing me ED and PE was causing me ED and injury. I’ve read the forms and I believe PE works for some guys but I need to just accept that it doesn’t benefit me. The risks outweigh the potential benefits. My wife and I will be empty nesters in about a year and a half and she has already told me to get ready because she’ll want to fuck all the time. I can’t risk permanently injuring myself before such and exciting time in my life.

If the least you got from PE was an appreciation for what you already have, satisfaction in yourself and realisation to ditch porn and improve your EQ the I would consider that the greatest success. Self confidence and happiness will outweigh gains any day of the week.

Seems like you have some hard work coming up😂

I’m happy for you man!

While you are a little further ahead than me (my youngest has at least another eight), our stories are similar.

I am always wondering if the risk is greater than the reward.

PE is a hobby for me, it fuels my selfish needs.

Take care of that woman of yours McLovin, PE is for fun.

I personally push the limits, if my wife knew that I had any concern, she would be all over me.

Be conservative in your approach and always lean towards satisfying your wife. Sounds like she really doesn’t care about your size, you have covered your side of the deal and well done on that note.

Enjoy brother,

LE