Ejaculating Troubles

A little embarrassing but I’m sure it happens to most men, but the past few times I’ve had sex with my girlfriend I’ve been ejaculating way to early and it takes a while to become hard again. I never had this issue before, I use to bust and still be able to keep going until she got off. Is there anything I can do to prevent early ejaculating?

I would suggest edging. A good routine can be found here: Edging 101

Howlack brought forward a good idea.

Has anything changed in your environment? We’re not machines , so perhaps not putting a lot of emphasis on it will help you get over it quick. Edging is still a good exercise to do for control, EQ and size. Make sure you are relaxed when you do it (abs, legs, pelvic floor, breathing).

Are you abstaining from masturbation or sex for long period of time?

Short abstinences (porn-detox too) could increase the sensibility in your penis and lead you to blow earlier.

If not that, maybe some anxiety is taking over.

At least 1-3 per week, whether it’s sex or masturbation.

So go like a month or so without it?

I have been having anxiety attacks, if that makes a difference?

I used a set of videos called Cock Hero. They are made by fans who cut together porn movies and add music and a stroke beat. The idea is to watch the movie, stroke as instructed and don’t cum until the end. Some include edging challenges. Stroker Ace 3 and Fail are my two favorite episodes.

Anyway I went from blowing in 10min or less to lasting one and a half hours in one challenge over a few months.

Anxiety could also play a major factor. I would keep an eye on the anxiety by itself.

When I was young I used to do the same thing. I would cum, not loose my erection, and just keep going until she got off. One time she got off three times before I came again. She said that had never happened before.

I’ll take a look at the videos

Yeah I’m done in 10 mins or less and it blows now

Yeah it’s all started happening when I started having these panic attacks which was about a month ago

That’s the weird thing for me, I’m only 23 and it his is happening to me already

I’m on Eflexor for panic attacks initially. Now I am on it for anxiety and depression in large due to a toxic work place.

At low doses it delay ejaculating. At higher doses you can’t cum.

You need to address the panic attacks first. They will stuff your life in more ways than in the bedroom. That’s my experience anyway.

So I’m back again with this problem and I don’t know how to resolve it.

I think most guys tend to obsess too much when they have had an issue. Then the next time they have anxiety (“oh I can’t let this happen again!”), and consequently, have more performance anxiety and less fun every time they do it.

If it’s a new girlfriend, it is perfectly natural to be over-excited and come quickly, it may not be the perfect experience for her, but just communicate. It happened to me in my late 20s with a girlfriend that made me wait forever and was super-sexy. I thought of myself as a stud at that time, tons of experience and great feedback from many women, and then with her I come within 20 strokes, unable to control it. And you know what - she was incredibly flattered. :-) Especially since after I adjusted to her (tightest girlfriend ever), we could go for hours. Damn I should have married her, but those were my playing days and regretfully I ended up f*cking it up (she made one or two bone-headed decisions herself). And the first time I got together with my current GF, I also came quite quickly. She laughed, said “wow that’s a lot of cum, guess he likes me” pointing at my penis, and I laughed, and then she said, “you know we will have to go again, honey, right?”, and after letting me rest, she sure made sure to get hers. I think that’s the way to handle occasional “mishaps”, with humor, and not allowing performance anxiety to trickle into the next time.

To me, the key is to enjoy every time. If you harbor doubts and anxiety in your mind, deal with it, and *don’t* do it because it means you’re not ready and you’re not really in the mood. You’re only ready when your head is fully committed to enjoying the experience of utter joy and ecstasy with a person willing to share such a moment with you, and treasure every second of it. Without storm clouds in the back of your mind.

Unless there’s a health issue behind it, it’s in the head, and the key is to work on simply dismissing such situations as comical stuff that happens to all of us, and will happen again. I’d be totally lying if I said that my dick has been up to the job every time, but then it ain’t my dick’s fault - it’s my head’s, and it’s time to maybe think or relax for a bit longer, and then it always works out. We’re not fuck robots. Just figure out what triggers you, no one else can tell you what to do about it, this is the kind of thing that probably sits somewhere deep inside, and only you can honestly assess it. Just relax and realize there’s nothing wrong with you, you function perfectly (it could be much worse, believe it).

PS: I’ve never had a *bad* ejaculation. They always feel very good and I don’t regret a single one of ‘em. :-D

So I’m still having this issue, but now I’m masturbating a lot more than I was when I first wrote this thread. Any correlation between masturbation and premature ejaculation?

I used to last for about 30 minutes in average. I would get sweaty after every sex session. I went through a bad spell of anxiety/depression, caused by antibiotics, and would only last for 5-6 pumps, seriously.

I went to therapy and got on trt, my t levels were at 200 and I’m 33. Finally, 4 months later, I can last for 10-20 minutes, unless my wife asks for me to be quick.

Also, I had a vasectomy and I had to readjust to condom free sex again. It was overstimulating at first, now is just awesome.

I was the same way, I was able to last long periods of time 15-45 mins, but now it’s anywhere from 2-5 mins at most.

Is it bad that your t level was at 200?

I’ve thought about a vasectomy, my only concern is I’m 24 with one kid and what if in the future I want another.

Only have a vasectomy if you absolutely know you are done.

200 is really low. The dr said is should be around 900.

Treat the anxiety and the rest will recover.