Even though I am a newbie, I think we should start a new thread in the newbie section, or maybe even a sub-section of the forum called Ps-I’s - psychological indicators.
Very often the very thing that makes us take on the extra exercise regime of PE is anxiety. We all doubt what we possess is good enough as a result of environmental pressures - self induced or not. So we can even make ourselves think that we are inadequate. We can even make ourselves think that we are to small, and therefore we are going to disappoint our partner. So, we start believing in our failure as a masculine entity. And then our performance suffers. I am a prime example.
I thought I was small (which is simply the eye/conscious awareness interaction, coupled with environmental influence) but when I MEASURED I WAS 19CM. Ok - so I was lead to believe that I was inadequately endowed by environmental factors, and even an exposure to porn. I am actually quite well endowed - I then find.
Chill. PE, if done correctly and with the aid of the excellent tutorials on this site, will enhance everything you have got. Self worth, self image, the whole package. What everyone does though - is to work their units too vigorously which then results in injury. That is the PI’s. Now let us get to the Ps-I’s.
You have an unconscious, a sub-conscious and an awareness. You have an ID, and ego and a super-ego (outdated, Freud is no more). Mostly, the unconscious and sub-conscious is exactly what it says. It is unconscious or sub-conscious, which simply means it is not part of your awareness (which can be explained in many ways). So even though you are able and physically in good shape, and your unit is perfectly adequate for most vagina’s on this planet, your unconscious can influence your performance, because you are not aware of it’s interactions with your emotional state of being.
That is what causes the anxiety. You are capable, but your brain tells you that you are a failure. Think about that. Why do you go limp? Anxiety about your size and performance, and what she (or he) is going to think. It is all ego induced, scary stuff. Am I going to get it up, am I not.? Well, the stage is set for failure.
Chill guys. We are all human, different, but capable. There are cow woman and bull men. And there are normal woman and normal men. By that I do not wish to discourage you from following the PE routine and making it bigger, stronger and more virile. By all means, that is why I am here. I want a whopping 8 incher. Finished. And I will get it. The need is a remnant from my uncultured self, which is also an aspect of myself. And it needs to be honored.
But that does not mean I have to wallow in my own insecurities and go for broke. No ways. It is a road to be traveled. And I intend having fun while I am doing it.
So, relax, say thank you very much to Thunder SS for this resource, and get the balls (no pun intended) rolling.
So you think that you are hopeless and a total failure in bed., The dick does not want to respond. This is simply sexual anxiety. Chill. Keep on doing what you are doing. Eventually all will pan out and you will be quite Ok with what you have. Gosh - you may even become a total narcissist. Now then you will have problems.
Take care of the emotional Self, which is tainted by unfair expectations, and you will be fine. You are not inadequate, you simply adhere to conditions of worth. So break that rule. You are worth it.