erectile dysfunction

I recently got my first girlfriend as some of you may now know…

The problem was when we finally gave in to desire and ended up in bed together. My little pal just didn’t want to come to the party…

The next time we were together, he stood to attention just fine, so I thought it was just anxiety the first time.
but the time after that, he’s back to his old tricks again…

It’s been a very strange experience. Sometimes everything is perfect and other times there is no co-operation.

There is no difference in situation between any of these times so I am getting really curious as to why this is happening…

Another detail I should mention, when I first see her, I get an almost instant wood which lasts quite a while as long as I am with her, but when the clothese start to get removed, or when it’s time to reach for the (fucking annoying) latex, it just dissapears for apparantly no reason…

Any advice/suggestions here would be greatly appreciated guys.

In particular, Dance bro, how are you doing with your situation? I remember you had a similar problem a few months back.

Wondering how that’s turning out for you man…

Sound’s like it may all be in your head. Does your gf know, understand and want to help? She can be an important factor if the issues are psycological. I have had similar experiences.

What you describe is classic performance anxiety. The off and on characteristic is the tip off.

I even get it from time to time to a degree (and I have been married 24 1/2 years). I assume you are not having problems with erections for masturbation, and that your nocturnal erections or morning wood is about as it has always been.

Organic ED is very gradual and onset and not off and on like you describe. So relax, sex is not for “show” it is for recreation and procreation. I have in the past prescribed viagra for performance anxiety when reassurance was not effective and this could be an option for you down the line. But be reassured that what you described is experienced by all of us at one time or another.

Why don’t you suggest to your girlfriend just having sex with non penetrative sex play,just pleasure each other without the pressure of getting it hard enough for penetration.Mutual masturbation, blowjobs, or 69. Amazingly when the pressure is off some of the most stone hard erections occur.

I agree with the last post. I have experienced the same thing secay, and I thought this was what darkness was experiencing, but I never got around to talking to him about it again. I really think that if you concentrate on non-penitrative sex, your problems will go away. The problem I had, I was always to ensecure to let a girl see my penis up close like that until I had completely rocked her world in bed. Its kind of a catch 22, but I assume you wont have this problem.

Definately anxiety is the problems, when you said the problems starts when you two remove you clothes was the main sentence for me to say this. You are probably thinking too much about performance or if you are doing it right. Try relaxing, talk to your girfriend about it and make a foreplay more extended (foreplay is the key when you are having those problems). Don’t think it as a race, enjoy the whole experience.

P.D.: Doing your Kegel’s excercices also reduce problems with erections

thanks for all the support guys….

to clear a few things up, I still get morning woodies yes pretty normal there. And when we are just enjoying each other’s company (kissing, touching, still clothed) It’s pretty much constantly up, or at least semi rigid….

But the thing is I do have trouble getting it up for masturbation/PE any more…. The thing is I don’t really masturbate anywhere near as much as I did even a few months ago, even though me and my girlfriend are not having any regular intercourse (all the way is very infrequent actually)

But things are looking up so to speak. I’m sure now that I can just put it down to nervousness/anxiety (I’ve never done it before!)

But I’m taking up kegals in a big way now so hopefully that will help alot even if only physicologically.

thanks again every one

secjay,

You could always take 500 mg of yohimbe( after looking into it some). This may still make you a little nervous but junior ain’t going no where but up.

Maybe after you two get down the road a little and it’s not so new to you you can the supplement and go from there.

Shit I don’t know, your young and this may not help or be a good idea just talking.

Thanks ledzep for your advice, but I really don’t want to try any supplements or anything ‘til it starts to become a problem (eg doesn’t get much better)

That and the fact that I can’t really afford them at the moment!!
hehe

secjay,

I hear you on that, When I started having sex in high school I was always to nervous which resulted in a premature ejaculation conditions and to make matters worse I couldn’t get some good wood either.

The thing that sucked was I was a popular guy and dated some cheerleaders and shit and they all talked about it I’m sure.

Needless to say class reunions aren’t alot of fun. I wish I could lay into one of those size queens now with my slam a jamma ding dong.

Any way the yohimbe is cool and it’s cheap, the thing I was thinking was try it get over the sticking point and move on. It’s a mental thing I’m sure .

Just relax and don’t worry so much about it, let things happen regardless of the out come. Try ENJOYING your girl and appreciating the fact she WANTS to be naked with you. That is an awesome thing young dude.

Later and keep us posted.

hey ledzep, I think the problem just solved itself hehehe

She was over tonight. and we were having a lot of fun rolling around on the bed, and I was hard as anything again….

she pulled off my pants and played with it, seeming quite interested for some reason :)

Anyways just thought I’d let you know how things are panning out. Way things are going it looks like the problem is not going to much of a problem any more!!

coolies.,… byes… :D

Hi i also have problems with erections, but I even have problems when masturbating and my morning wood… where did that go … I’m 23 years old and having these problems ever since I can remember…
except that I can remember when I was a kid 3-12 i had no probs getting erections.. guess it started with puberty….
I heve a lot of problems due to this…
I don’t know if it’s only in my head, because I NEVER not even when masturbating, get fully erected…
When I usee a cockring it gets harder… 100%??? NO
sometimes it won’t do anything using a cockring…

I do a real lot of kegels… I thought it had gotten better, but in the last few days i couldn’t keep my 60% erect penis up for longer than 5 minutes…

I don’t know where the problem is…
I tried pills called ixense… I fell asleep (sideeffect) better… I got tired and fell asleep instead of having sex….

Well too bad I’m sexhungry n got no fork to eat my food….

Is Yohimbe an over the counter drug? How much is it?

Yes, it is over the counter. You can get it at your local drug store, I got mine at GNC. Yohimbe did nothing for me but make me nervous and make my heart race. Yohimbe also did not improve my erections and instead made me feel ill and give me headaches. I’m not sure of the mg dosage I have taken, but I took 1 pill a day of the GNC brand yohimbe 451. I only took it for 3 days till I knew this was what was making me ill. I still have the full bottle lying around the house somewhere. These were only my effects. As you can see, other people have had positive effects. Effects differ on the person taking them. Good luck

Ive got the same problem someone help me, jelqing edging masturbating sex no complete hard on please help please

I had the exact same problem, I started doing kegels, and it seems to be making the situation better. After doing kegels twice my situation had already improved. All I did was 4 or 5 sets of 20 erect kegels, holding each repetition for 5 seconds. After each set I took a break to get my erection back.