No, I think I am screwed

What seems most likely is that a muscle in the pelvic floor is cramped from overtraining and has become chronic. The cramping restricts bloodflow and the reason it is better when lying down or peeing is because the muscle relaxes more when you do it. I have hard flaccid and have had major improvements from seeing a physical therapist who has given me trigger point massages in the area around the pelvic. There is a closed forum that you can go and read on this issue if you google hard flaccid. Even though there are only seven reports of people being cured there are a lot more people that have been cured of this.

Just here to give you guys another update. So, to put it bluntly, I still am dealing with ED. I just had my blood tested, and everything came back normal. Testosterone is in check, and, in fact, I am extremely healthy. Absolutely no problems whatsoever. For some reason, though, I don’t have any libido. I haven’t even masturbated or orgasm’d within the last month, and I haven’t felt horny at all, which I think is very strange. I just started taking antidepressants, Wellbutrin, to be exact, and I am hoping that within time they will bring back my libido. I have only been taking them for a week, and so haven’t noticed much of a difference, except that I am less anxious, but I will update again and we’ll see if I have any positive results.

I really fear that I have a venous leak, as I can’t maintain an erection without stimulation. This would be absolutely terrible if true, because there is no cure for it besides drastic surgery or an implant. I don’t understand why the body can’t heal a venous leak, it can heal almost everything else, so why not this? I’m still not 100% positive that this is the case, as I’ve never had a Doppler test done, but I really don’t know what else it could be. For the last five years I haven’t been getting random wood, and I’ve had very weak erections that fade quickly, when before I started jelqing my erections were strong and automatic like a machine. This happened before I became depressed, and is actually the main reason for my depression, so I don’t really know what to think. I’ve heard that if you can get an erection at all then it isn’t a venous leak, so maybe I don’t have one, or I have a mild one, but the only way to be sure is to go to a urologist which I can’t afford. Besides, they wouldn’t be able to help me anyway, they’d probably just give me viagra, which I don’t want.

Sorry if I’m rambling, this just really sucks, and I don’t have anywhere else to go, or anyone to talk to about this.

Thanks for the update, lo_ri_der. I’m sorry to hear that you are still suffering. I hope the antidepressants work out for you.

It could be a dopaminergic issue. Ask to your Doc if it is ok to give melanotan a try.

Use an extender, encourage the formation of new dick. Jelqing almost took me out a year ago. Oh I swear it sucks so bad. My EQ took a long time, everything took a long time. All because I burst a vein jelqing. Anyway, try to extend your dick. You can grow your way out of this. Simply leaving an injured dick alone is not so good. It’s not like their aren’t starving beasts with lame legs in the jungle. Nature will not automatically correct this for you. It will leave you with a mangled halfassed dick. Extend it. Grow three inches of cock. The only way is forward.

Or see a urologist who probably disavows PE in general. He’ll tell you to accept what fate has left you with. Sound familiar?

One important thing: You don’t have acute pain. Your dick functions, though not well. So you must grow some new healthy cock and the waste pieces from the injury may be dissolved and reabsorbed faster in traction. It worked to heal my scary as hell injury, and added length. I hate to see another person run through ten thousand reasons they should never PE again while their body becomes accustomed to a lesser, injured cock. So CAREFULLY, with stretching and extender, work your way out.

I do not recommend taking antidepressants or Viagra. Try natural stuff instead.
Have you tried to get back together with that girl? If you can, it may be the best thing for you.

Try this experiment: I recently saw this girl with the kind of figure that I am really attracted to and she was walking down the street wearing tight fitting pants that showed off her beautiful ass! I was going the same way so I thought I’d follow behind her and take in the view at the same time in hopes of getting a hard-on.. what harm could it do?

I focused my attention on her booty as her hips swayed from side to side causing her ass cheeks to jiggle while I was saying to myself, ” I’d love to stuff my big cock in her ass! ” …stuff my big cock in her ass! …stuff my big cock in her ass! …stuff my big cock in he ass! I kept saying this to myself over and over while concentrating on my cock down my pants leg bouncing off my thigh and my sweaty balls swinging bock and forth keeping my eyes glued to her ass.

Like magic, I could feel the blood beginning to flow as I helped by doing kegels in time to her wiggling bum trying to force as much blood as I could into my glans. After a few minutes, my cock was starting to hold more and more blood and became spongy (I would say 1/4 semi) and throbbing in time with every move of her ass. My imagination was running wild to the thought of her naked ass up in the air as I relentlessly pounded her with my giant raging hard-on.. balls slapping off her pussy and clit just like in an adult movie!! I was getting really turned on at this point and was so concentrated on the feel of the much needed fresh blood that filled my cock up and her wiggling ass that I actually felt like I was fucking her ass for real! Even though I’ve never done it before!

I followed behind her for about 4-6 blocks (I wasn’t paying close attention) by that time, my balls were staring to tighten lifting and tugging as I felt surge of pre-cum making its way though my thickened shaft to the tip of my bloated glans and squirting down my leg leaving visible wet spots on my pants. It was getting time to return to reality and go separate ways before it was too late. I then had to find a private place so where I could jac off in a big hurry which I did!

To me, this was much better than taking prescription medication that causes unwanted side effects.

Memento, thank you, I hope they work out as well. At the very least they are helping me cope, and that’s a positive.

Marinera, do you mean melatonin? I have already tried this, but I don’t think that it is a mental or dopamine issue, I think it’s physical. Either way, the Wellbutrin is supposed to increase dopamine. I’m really starting to suspect that I may have damaged nerves because my glans is not very sensitive. I have a hard time getting it up, even while rubbing myself, it’s like my brain and my penis aren’t communicating. My penis just isn’t that sensitive, and I used to remember, prior to my injury, that erections were like a reflex brought on by even the slightest touching. If it is a venous leak, which is also a possibility, then wouldn’t I be able to get it up easily, and just have a hard time keeping it up? I have been doing hot wraps with a rice sock lately, and I think I have noticed a slight improvement in my sensitivity, which leads me to believe that it may be damaged nerves that are healing. Then again, it could all be in my head, but it’s better to be optimistic about things.

Devotion9, thank you for your advice, but I don’t think that continuing to jelq and stretch would be a good idea for me. Stretching or jelqing is what cause my injury, and I wouldn’t want to risk making it worse.

7inchessoft, believe me, I have tried every natural thing I could think of. I am definitely an advocate for alternative and natural medicine, but I figure it couldn’t really hurt, and I don’t have to take them forever, so I’ll just see what happens. I can’t get back together with that girl either, that train is long gone. She lives 1000 miles away, and I’m sure is dating plenty of other guys, while I’m here stuck with a ruined penis. It’s very sad, but I don’t think about it anymore.. Actually that’s not true, I think about it all the time. I’ve had chances to get with other women, but every time I don’t get it up. Yeah, that’s probably why I’m depressed. I would be the happiest man in the world if only my dick would work like it should. Sorry, I know that sounds like self pitying. I don’t want to bum anyone out, my life is actually pretty good in the grand scheme of things. I should feel lucky that ED is my biggest problem, it’s not like I have to worry about food/water, shelter, or being murdered or anything like that.

So basically, my latest theory/self-diagnosis is that I have nerve damage in my penis. I don’t know what else to think. I will continue doing hot wraps and see if there is any further improvement. I will update again and let you guys know if I see any better functioning.

I also got an injury jelqing about 9 months ago. Fortunately, my dick sensation seems to have come back. It may not be quite what it once was. But at least it is alive again rather than feeling like a numb dildo attached to my body. It took about 4 months to get sensation back. Then I tried very light jelqing and it went numb again but came back a month later. I tried about 5 jelqs again a few weeks ago and was numb again for about a week. Never going to jelq again. But my dick seems to be fine again otherwise.

My only advice is just to focus on other things and essential forget about sex and your dick for a while. I’m confident it will eventually return to normal again. Mine showed no improvement whatsoever for several months, so I know how discouraging that is. Just have faith and don’t touch your dick for a while.

Lowgrow, the injury you described here sounds very similar to what I’m experiencing. The top of my penis (the glans) is really not very sensitive. I can feel a little bit of a sensation when I poke it with a pen, but the sensation there is much less than it is compared to the rest of my penis, or anywhere else on my body. It’s the same way with cold, as in I can feel cold much better on any part of my body except the glans. I don’t think this is normal. This leads me to believe that there may be nerve damage, since the glans is supposed to be the most sensitive part of your body. I think I remember all of my symptoms starting after a stretching session, so I may have stretched too far and injured a nerve. I will try to do what you did and use hot wraps and ice packs every day as much as I can to try to heal myself, I hope it’s possible. Do you think alternating between heat and cold helped you? I looked up the TENS unit, too, that may be something to consider.

If anyone knows of any ways that I can help restore nerve sensation, please let me know.

Hey mate

You might try to get as strong erections as you can, and then do kegels, or press your fingers on the BC muscle under your balls to increase the size of the glans.
While doing that, use your other hand to squeeze the glans in a way you get kind of “eletric shocks” feeling.

It helped me.

Balloning and firegoat rolls might help you as well.

Thanks mate, I will try that. I’ll also do edging, maybe that will help strengthen and increase EQ.

Transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation - Wikipedia

Could this help to restore sensitivity?

I recently tried using a cock ring. Well, it wasn’t a real cock ring, but I tied an elastic band very tightly around the base of my penis, essentially the same thing, and my erection still went down quickly. Would this be an indication that it is not a venous leak? Possibly indicating that it’s something else? Maybe a psychological problem, or just a low libido? Maybe nerve damage?

To be honest, I never really feel that horny anymore. Is it possible that I only have a low libido, and that is why it takes so much work to get it up and to keep it up? I imagine that if it was a leak, I would still feel horny and it would be easy to get erect, only it would be impossible to maintain with or without stimulation. Is this true?

My testosterone levels are normal, so I don’t understand why I don’t feel horny anymore. Even though I can get fully erect with stimulation and a lot of concentration, it is really hard to keep it up, and it’s been this way for years. I keep thinking that if I can get hard, I should be able to stay hard, even if my libido was low, because that’s how a penis should work, right? It should be automatic, at least that’s what I think.

I hooked up with a girl last night, and I had a difficult time getting it up. Even though I started rubbing myself, she had to give me oral to get me hard, and then once we started having sex, I only lasted maybe a minute or less. I’m not surprised that I didn’t last long because I rarely ever masturbate, so I’m always at a full tank, if you catch my drift, but I still had trouble getting it up. I would think that not masturbating would make me horny all the time, and getting erect would be no problem. It’s weird because even though I never touch myself, I still am not thinking sexual thoughts 24/7 like I used to, and my ED is still being a huge bummer in my life. I’m so confused. I can’t figure out if this is a mental problem, a physical problem, or both.

Now this may not be of any use to you but thought I would raise it in case it might help.

A little while ago I experimented with a constriction sleeve. When I took it off the first time, I rolled it up from the base and over my glans. Put enormous pressure on my glans like a giant jelq Should not have done it. Anyway lost sensitivity in my glans and could not ejaculate. Prior to this I had been doing a lot of extending at quite high tension so I might have overworked my penis prior to this incident.

Anyway I did what others here suggested - rest from PE, warm wraps and cold wraps. Seemed to help but slowly. At this time I got medial tendonitis in my knee and used some Voltaren gel as part of the treatment for that. I decided to try rubbing a very small amount into my glans as the instructions, while saying not to use in vaginas, said nothing about penises. Anyway got an immediate increase in sensitivity without any obvious side effects and then used it for another 7 days. At that point I felt completely cured with very good sensitivity and no problem with ejaculation.

Now the Voltaren instructions said not to use it for more than 14 days and I know there are side effects you can get with prolonged use. Also as the glans is one of the most sensitive parts of your body, I would err on the cautious side. However if lack of glans sensitivity is part of your problem, it might be worth a try.

I also suffer from ED but have it in control. Partly from supplements (eg L-arginine, natural test boosters, occasional Cialis), cardiac exercise and weight reduction and by PE, especially by dynamic stretching (or pumping as I prefer to call it). Only been doing this for a little while but it really helps - thanks to Avocet8 and HomerJS. I recently upgraded to a Mr Fantastic pump and am getting promising results but early days.

Austfred, thank you for sharing. That is good advice and I will look into that.

So just a quick update, again, everything is still pretty much the same, hot wraps don’t seem to be helping much, but it may take more time. I stopped taking Wellbutrin (the antidepressants) because they made me feel really weird, and I think I’m doing okay without them. I’m starting to take an herbal product called “Leg Veins” by Nature’s way, which has butchers broom, horse chestnut, and a couple of other herbs that supposedly help with venous insufficiency. I’m not sure if they will do anything, but I might as well try it out. If it is a problem with my veins, then maybe I will see some improvement, I guess I’ll have to wait and see.

In other news I was able to have sex last night with a girl I met last weekend, although it was still difficult to get hard. I pretty much put my semi-erect penis in her and then once I was inside and kept thrusting I was able to get more erect and keep it up until I was finished. I had some difficulty getting it up after the first time, which was embarrassing, but she was really nice about it and after a little while, once I got more comfortable and there wasn’t as much pressure, I was able to go again. We had sex three times that night in a few hours, but I still wasn’t as hard as I would have liked. Like I said, I wasn’t very hard at first, but the longer we kept going, and with constant stimulation, the harder I was able to stay. If I had pulled out my erection would have faded, though, but luckily I was able to keep going, so that was a pretty big boost to my confidence, which I think I really needed. It’s been a while since I last had sex. So I am thankful to know that I can still have sex, it’s just that my erection fades very quickly if not stimulated, so I’m still unsure as to what that means. Maybe that means it’s all in my brain, or maybe it is a physical problem, I’m not sure. Anyways, that is my update, and I will come back with another one in due time.

P.S. I want to thank everyone for listening, as well as for all your great suggestions and advice. It’s really nice to be able to express myself and these feelings when there isn’t really anyone else that I can talk to.