It’s definitely a hedonistic, pleasure centered society. Which was why it felt so jarring after losing sexual pleasure and libido. You realize the way our fast paced culture is structured around ambition, ego and materialism, and all of those things kind of stem from sex, and the desire to be sexually attractive. Until you have kids, which I don’t, and then it’s all about providing for your family.
At this point for me, the injury, and some of what happens on injury forums, have really split into two separate things. I first got injured a long time ago, pretty much trying jelqing as a joke from some random site, and not finding any forum until after, when I was trying to figure out what to do about the injury. The first thing I encountered on another forum, was people brutally bashing people with injuries, and being that my injured had just happened, and I was really freaked out and vulnerable, it basically has stuck with me ever since. Because a lot of what happens on injury forums is still chaos, confusion and uncertainty, and I want to see some kind of resolution.
With my injury personally, as I was thinking about what I wrote on this thread I realized, when I say things to myself like ‘dealing with this makes me stronger,’ I am to a degree using a positive, uplifting point of view to sort of block out the injury. So I’m not saying anything that brings a sense of comfort, or lifts the spirits, is bad, but don’t fear the injury. Don’t use those things to avoid facing the injury and any negative feelings that go with it. Because you don’t want any negative emotions about the injury pushed back into some corner of your mind.
I wouldn’t tell people who just got injured to just forget about it, because that would just be totally unrealistic, and maybe a bit cruel. We’re only human. In the end though, and it could take a long time, I think the best thing would be for a person to face a situation completely, and any difficult emotions that go with it, so it isn’t haunting them. Grieve, cope, channel negative energy, but if it comes to it, the end game is not to fear the injury.