Man I had a similar problem. It sucks to be young. Part of the problem too is that you haven’t gotten any for 6 months and you’re probably feeling some performance anxiety. Here’s what I’ve learned in the last two years with my current partner—take this with a grain of salt.
I used to be a real giver; determined to give her the experience of a lifetime. I would focus on turning the lady on but it wouldn’t do a whole lot for me. As soon as she was ready for me I’d mount her (maybe tease her for a few more minutes;) but I’d just end up ‘blowing it’ too soon. I’ve come to realize that when I’m turned on (physically&mentally) that I’m a lot harder and I can perform a lot better. So GET A LITTLE GREEDY! This might mean getting her to talk dirty to you, spank you, maybe you like candles and incense or blarring heavy metal… whatever turns you on. Personally I’ve really enjoyed when the lady would do a little oral foreplay (5, 10 minute BJ) just to get my engines revving and I’d be able to last a lot longer inside her. Maybe it helps me to relax or maybe it’s just a good prep for what is to come… I guess the biggest thing is just DON’T think about how long you’re gonna last, DON’T wonder if you’re gonna last long enough, DON’T worry if you’re gonna blow to early, just DON’T even think about your climax. RELAX and enjoy the experience. Personally I think prejac is all just a mental thing that probably comes from over-thinking. Ever notice how when you’re drunk and don’t give a damn you can last forever? Or if you want to speed up your ejaculation you just think about it?
A lot of that is easier said than done and being in a long term relationship really helps but you’ll get the hang of it… In the MEANTIME here’s what I call the ‘brute force method.’ Try it out a couple of times when you’re masturbating to get the hang of it:
When you hit your point of no return, just before your contractions start, you take your thumb and pointer finger, just like jelqing, and SQUEEZE (as hard as you can buddy) the base of your penis. Hold that squeeze right through your contractions and even a few seconds after they subside.
This accomplishes two things: 1) you have a “dry” orgasm (no semen comes out, or very little depending on how hard you clamp). and 2) you stay hard!
Apparently you’re forcing the semen into your bladder and you’ll pee it out later (they have a scientific name for this but it eludes me). While it’s not as fun as shooting your load, and the orgasm isn’t as intense, the plus side is that you don’t have to clean up and you can get hard again faster (I’ve never lost my erection using this method).
Now, I don’t know if this does any permanent damage to you… maybe after a couple of years you’d train your body to cum inside instead of blowing… not really sure. I’m sure this isn’t a ‘new’ concept, I think I might have even gotten the idea from a cock ring.
Anyway man, I’ve been using this method for two years now (on and off) with no apparent side effects. It’s worth a shot and beats the hell out of PC clamps (I think they had a reverse effect on me) in my opinion.
There are some e-books out there (I can e-mail you a couple good ones) about mastering your ejaculation that are worth a read. They basically all say the same thing: using the 1-10 arousal rating system, plateuing, edging, moving the sexual energy throughout your body (focusing less on your dick and more on the whole experience), kegals, etc. They’re worth a try too if you’re still having problems.
Hope something in here helps or that you find something that does. Not sure how that oral medication would work but I remember seeing an ad in the paper the other day about it. I scrounged up the number for you 1-866-9-ASK-HOW (18669275469)… They’re testing out some oral medication so if you’re willing to be a human gunieau pig it could save you a few bucks.
Shine On.