It’s your “prost-ate,” not prostrate. Prostrate means something else. You do not have a prostate exam in the prostrate position. The exam, by the way, is very short in duration and at your age should be done annually. Ask for a digital exam, no matter how you may feel about getting one. It’s basically a non-event.
If you had prostatitis, you would know it. You don’t have it.
The way I learned Kegels was this: Locate the muscle in the floor of your pelvis by peeing, then stopping the stream of the urine. That’s the muscle.
Start out easy. Do 25 Kegle squeezes. Call it a day. Next day add five more and so on. Very soon you will be doing 100 at a time and can continue to up your amount as is comfortable for you. You can do them anywhere, even in front of your mother. Nobody knows.
Because the same muscle contracts when you have an orgasm and ejaculate, a stronger muscle will likely give you longer and more intense orgasms, once you strengthen it.
Don’t overdo this exercise, newbies. When the muscle tires, quit the exercise and resume another time.
As the muscle strengthens and you feel comfortable with the significant number of Kegels you are doing each day, try doing less of them but holding each squeeze a few seconds longer than you did previously. Gradually, these extended squeezes may give you more ejaculatory control.
Special note to Rambone who just had a vasectomy: Postpone Kegels until you are completely healed from your surgery. Kegels also pull on the muscle that retracts the balls up. You don’t need any stress there now.