21yo, ED and desperation

Well, man… I can tell this happens before nofap. I started nofap because of this problem, actually! I think this can be a lot of things working together. Some physical issue + bad masturbation habits + old size anxiety + actual peform anxiety.

But I dont know, only the doctor will tell. Like I Said, I’m Very curious for trying Cialis/Viagra, but I know it dont work for a lot of guys with my issue. And I would feel awful if it doesnt work for me too, like “I have some bad thing” stuff.

You are right! Those drugs will not work if you already know they won’t. You’re digging a big hole guy!

I mean, I just feel scared if they dont work. I feel very aroused, and arousal is what they need to start working. They’re a last resort right now, My consult with the doctor is soon, and my girl is comming to sleep with me for the first time in some weeks. So… maybe I’ll get one of those and see what happens.

Okay well, let it run its course like I said those nofap ‘flatlines’ killed my libido and erections… plenty of guys online also citing the very same experience as part of the nofap journey.

I’m no doctor, so don’t take this as medical advice but when my doc gave me viagra and I saw how effective it was, it killed a lot of the worry about my dick not working, I’ll use an 8th of a pill every once and a while.

‘but I know it don’t work for a lot of guys with my issue’ - Brah, this shit is super effective for men with ED, don’t get it twisted!

Understood, bro! I’m starting to think positive about those pills… I mean, if they help me on the first time, I can build some confidence and stop using it with time. The thing is: I would be pretty calm if I was single, but I have the girl of my life right now. Like I said, I felt VERY arroused sucking her boobs, but shit just didnt happen down there. I think I still have some kind of size anxiety inside me… I remember when I discovered that 4.15” girth was an absurdely low girth, and my lenght (5.1npb) was not that great too… I was shocked for weeks. Maybe all this peformance anxiety is related to this aswell. I will talk to my doctor, probably I’m gonna do dopler, pelvic floor tests and other things to make sure I have nothing physical, then I’ll ask for the pills and use it in last case.

Huge case of too much porn coupled with size and performance anxiety.

See your doctor if you’re worried but this has anxiety and porn written all over it, I rarely see morning wood because of porn 100% I cannot under any circumstance get an erection stood up and getting a BPEL measurement is near impossible above 60%, I hope this calms your nerves a little but if you trust this woman you will no doubt get an erection I’m sure (unless it is something medical) like I said above it’s near impossible for me to get an erection other than sitting down infront of porn :/ (I plan to quit this week) but when ever my long term partner wants sex I am always able to perform even if it’s not great.. Be honest with her about performance anxiety the first time or even before if you’re talking about sex in general say “Most men struggle to keep an erection during the first couple of times with a new partner” 9.9/10 the woman is understanding if they’re sort of pre warned it will put you at ease also, make her cum first orally or with fingers, clitoris is the sweet spot (you probably know, but alot of women complain some men don’t know) once she has an orgasm who gives a fuck if you can’t perform she will be happy, and you won’t “lose” her although any girl who would leave you for EQ problems is a monster.

Yeah man, It’s size anxiety. I know I have low measurements, so I feel bad that with low EQ I get even less size. But I can tell I’ve got some kind of improvements on this 5 weeks of noporn time. My glans is more sensitive, and I can get 80% erections while sitting withou using hands. Somehow, I cant get fully erected while standing, tho. I get a 40,50% one (120 degrees angle with my belly). I think I’ll have to wait more two or three months in order to see more progress.

Have you ever tried viagra or cialis ?

I haven’t tried either, I personally feel I’ll rely on them if it improves my EQ that much and I’m not ready to give up on improving my health to its full potential. As for the Anxiety work through it daily go out of your way to make yourself feel better, no good being worried about your dick that you’ll only ever use for a small portion of your day it’s not like you’re walking around with it out and everyone can see, Could my penis size be better? Absolutely Will I make an effort to change it? Yes Will it stop me jumping into bed with my partner? Hell no, It won’t effect you getting laid no matter how many people you hear talking about being laughed out of the bedroom it’s extremely rare for a woman to be that shallow if you have something going for you and it isn’t a 2 pence whore.

Over the next month or so I’m going to work on penis health tbh EQ quality and gaining some nice color, I’m in a similar boat to yourself and hope it all goes well for you, have fun brother.

Is all in your head, let me share my experiences. I was dating for over two years a hot chick and found out she cheated on me. So I broke-up with her. For 3 months I did not have any sexual contact with women because I was hurt. After 3 months of no contact, I got her out of my head and started dating other women. I’m confident and I always date younger hotties, so I started seeing this tight sexy woman who everyone would stare at.

Things progress nice and after two dates, she is asking me to show at her apartment for supper. I show up, we cook, eat and I start chasing her in bed. But there is a big problem, with all her amazing body, I had a ZERO erection, like nothing, no reaction what so ever.. And before I was having sex multiple times a day, for extended periods of times. I was like “WTF, is the wine, what happened.” My new date was really cool and she was smiling, “you are just tired, you’ll be fucking me in no time next week.”

Believe it or not, it lasted ONE month. This woman is amazing, she waited for me for ONE month until I can perform like I was before. It was terrible, I was waking up with a huge hard-on and lose it instantly when I was feeling her amazing ass near me. I tried everything, doctors, analysis, blood, uro, endo, Viagra, etc. Nothing worked. So obviously I was really worried. Until I talked to a close friend psychologist, she told me: “Listen, men have two heads and they cannot think at the same time, with both. Try to relax and get into moment.”

After one month of anxiety, things unblocked all of the sudden. We had sex in one day 5 times, for a long period of time, we were both in paradise. In case you wonder the age, I’m 44 and she is 30. Yes, I always date younger women. I like to work-out normally, not a gym freak, to look good and it helps me with the stamina. I also take Maca, L-Arginine, green tea, garlic and ginger natural supplements on a daily basis, they work really good for me.

Hope this helps you, I strongly recommend to stop watching porn, and start working out 5 days a week, while eating healthy and sleeping at least 9 hours every day with no exception. You will have your morning hard-ons and feel like a stallion. Be patient and give it 6 months of good physical exercise. You will look good and women will turn you on like crazy.

Hey man… But this dont happen only when I’m with her. It happens when I’m alone too. Specially the erection while standing thing. I can get erections(80%) when sitted kissing her or holding hands. But standing up, my dick only gets some blood, and stays on a 120 degrees angle with my belly.

I hit the gym 6 times a week, eat well, sleep well and quitted porn 40 days ago. This problem literally makes no sense. And also, I feel a bit anxious when with her(Dick size anxiety), but when I’m jerking off I’m calm as fuck and the problem persists.

You have no issues man. It’s all in your head, your creating this issue. I’m telling you man. The mind is everything. Your tricking yourself into believing you have issues, which then creates, those issues. Psychology at its finest.

Once you finally start truly believing you don’t have a problem, everything will come back like how it used to be. Key words, “used to be”, because you never had issues to begin with down there.

I advise you, and all other here, to try and tame your “self”. Meaning don’t think so much about yourself and think of me, defending me, my honor, my pride, etc. Rather, try to view the world based on good and solid principles and try to keep your emotions and pride out of stuff. It’s easy to see your pride when you look at the world like this so you can keep it in check. But even if you are able to tame that selfish desire we all have 100%, then you are still going to be proud of yourself that you accomplished it. :) Hence you can never fully tame it and it is a life long struggle.

I often try to my “self” out of the picture in many situation in order to keep calm and make better judgements. I can then advise and push others to a better more soundest solution with no conflict. Yeah, I am a little cold to situations at times but guess what, nothing can get me down or get me upset when I think like that. And no one needs to know why I am a cool cat when everything else is falling apart around me and emotions are running high, etc. Don’t expect nothing from nobody, even your family too. And you can never trust anyone, even your own mother. If you let a friend borrow some cash just know you are not getting it back. Assume no one will be there for you EVER, and with this mentality you will be very happy and grateful for anything you get, even something small. I always expect the worst in any situation, e.g. my wife is going to give birth so I assume something like she’ll die and I’ll be left with a mentally challenged kid to raise. I prepare myself for that and I am ready for it, but then when everything turns out normal, imagine how happy I am.

Accept stuff for what it is. Try your best but then leave it and accept whatever the consequences after that are. Life is tough for all of us, no matter how smart/dumb, rich/poor you are. Everyones got issues. Don’t look at those that have something more/better than you, rather look at those that have less than you and then be thankful for what you got. As you get older and wiser you will realize that you and everyone else really doesn’t know a damn thing. And the sooner you know that the smarter you will be, saying “I don’t know” is half of knowledge and it shows you are mature and smart. Only a dumb person will lie and pretend to be smart but a mature and confident person will ask questions or plainly say “I don’t know” which shows they are confident and experienced enough to make such a statement.

And depression is a real medical problem. It really comes down to researching it and getting help. You can teach yourself and mind to think the way I do, or other tactics. In the end of the day you are a man, so you need to man up. Good luck kid.