Cant cum from oral sex

I’ve run into a problem, I cant ejaculate from oral sex. My girlfriend is good at it, I enjoy it, etc… but it just wont make me ejaculate. Most of the porn that I watch is oral sex so I definately like it. What can I do to try and make it easier for me to ejaculate from oral sex? Is it possible that for some reason my body is “trained” to require fast stimulation to orgasm? If so, is there anything I can do to change that?

Yeah, the same thing used to happen to me. An old girlfriend said “I’ll suck on you but never come in my mouth.!” So, I always held back and didn’t enjoy it much (thought most gals were this way) and this pattern persisted until I met my now current wife. She will chomp and suck hard until I’m drained! I’ll tell you, it took along time, until I was able to let go.

It’s a mental thing. Just enjoy what she’s doing to you and realise the effort she’s putting into pleasuring you. You always want her to cum when you’re doing oral on her , right? She’ll squirt and dribble all over your face too! The only problem is that we are on the stickier side. So, have a towlette handy !

Same here. I can count all the times I’ve cum from oral sex on one hand. Funny thing is that during intercourse I can cum in 10 thrusts, especially if I’m in control.

I had a girlfriend that was absolutley determined to make me cum. It took her 45 minutes to make me cum, but her jaw hurt like hell for the next 2 days —lol

I think lip pressure (not suction) and speed variation is what works best for me.

Sofa King Bad

Could it be that you are worried about how she’d react to your semen flooding her mouth/throat or about making a mess all over the place?

Did you talk about it with her? If she reassures you that it’s okay you will probably cum like a horse race.

I’m thinking that there is the same tendancy for lots of us. Think about it, the vagina is built to make us cum-so soft, velvety, warm and slippery. The mouth is built for tearing up food. Think about the difference between saliva and pussy juice. Big difference.

I can cum orally, but it takes longer. If your woman is a good sport, have her experiment around. Some of this may sound a bit odd, but try it, you will like it. My girl kisses and sucks my balls-very gently, and even puts them one at a time in her mouth. It’s a very different feeling, but i can watch my dick really puff up when she does that.

Then she licks it and gets it nice and wet, then holds her lips tightly closed and then slowly forces my dickhead into her mouth. She continues the tight lips and goes down as far as she can. She also will very gently bite into it, or let her teeth lightly drag as she goes up and down. Sometimes she will bite into the groove just behind the head, and suck very hard on just the head. Makes it grow like a mushroom.

When her jaw gets too tired, then she will lick/suck all along the bottom side, concentrating on that hot spot (frenulum?) This keeps you stimulated while giving her a break so she can last til you cum.

Visual is a big deal with oral sex for me. It’s better than anyone’s porno. I love to watch her lips as they consume the head. There’s just something special about watching a girl do oral on you. Always make sure her hair is pulled back and you are both at a good angle so you can watch the show.

Anyway, these are some of the things that get me off. Give ‘em a try. Hell, if you can’t cum, just relax, enjoy the show, then fuck her hard and cum the easy way.

Since jelqing, I find that I am desensitized, and I thought I had stay power before. a quickie or ora l lasted about 15 minutes then, my wife, then complained about jaw pain and rarely went until climax. Now it takes an average of 25 minutes and only if I am concentrating hard to have an orgasm. Getting oral to climax is out of the question for me.

I agree with the earlier posts, but would point out one additonal possibility. If you are in bed with her under you, after you have been at it a while and she is tiring, get her to suck your balls and lick from underneath, while you jack your rod some to finish it off. Get near the edge of cumming and feed it to her again and let her enjoy the climax if she will swallow or even if she just wants to watch the lava flow. If necessary, get out of bed and stand up and let her be on a pillowand lick your balls. It’s all good.

If my girfriend is “giving me head”, a great way to speed things up is for her to wrap her fingers around the base of my cock and “jerk me off” as she concentrates with her mouth on the head and end of the shaft.

Tugboat your woman has it going on. Well done.

My wife does this thing where she cups me with her left hand and uses an “OK” grip with her right to grip my balls and lower shaft then up and down it goes. But most important, she sucks hard like a lolly pop - dragging the rough side of her tongue under the tip. She makes me have very strong orgasms this way. Very strong. Of course, knowing she wants to swallow helps a lot. I feel pretty lucky she’s so good at it.

This may sound odd but I also cannot get off with my wife giving me oral sex. I never have been able to unless she slides a finger in my butt, sometimes touching the prostate. That is the trick and then it is fireworks. It may sound extreme but it works, at least for me. Don’t knock it until you try it!! Later———————dreed

There are a few things you can try:

Relax… don’t try so hard. For most people, it is pretty hard to orgasm on command when you are thinking about it.

If your mate squeezes the base of your penis pretty hard (like a ULI), your penis will be more engorged with blood and more sensative. This may be enough for you to be able to ejaculate in her mouth.

Try having regular intercourse and when you feel close to having an orgasm, have her perform oral on you then. Chances are, once you are close to orgasm, she will be able to “finish the job” orally. If not, repeat with intercourse until you are close and then do oral again.

Good luck!

Only had 1 woman who made it happen for me many of times. And I married that one. She was able to take what little I had and take it all in right to the base. The feeling of my dick so far into her mouth sure help.

Cub1961

Hey Dreed I agree with you mate, having your prostate rubbed makes all the difference. Lots of sparks and fireworks.

Well I am in the same boat. My wife gives great head but a lousy blowjob. I can probably count 20 times in 20 years that she has made me cum that way.

789

Definitions according to 789

Head = the act of sucking, licking, fondling, rubbing, deepthroating.

Blowjob = the act of sucking, licking, fondling, rubbing, deepthroating and with enough speed and friction to get me to blow.