Can't cum while having sex

Try to find some Beyond 7 or Crown condoms, they are rated as the thinnest and the most natural feeling by a lot of people. If you can’t find those brands then the Durex Ultra Thin should be found quite easily. I think you should stop wacking it for a week and see how sex goes. Definitely should cut down because constantly masterbating does de-sensitive the penis

Are you circumcised? I’m guessing so….

Your problem is precisely the reason why evolution took 100 Million years to give you a penis with a protective retractable layer of skin and a wider glans on the head of your dick to hold the foreskin back in a retracted position the whole time you’re having sex, so things are nice and sensitive down there and you can blow your load - 100 Million years of absolute genius. And what do people do? Cut it off.

Second that, reach4thelasers. Opinions change over time about what parts of the body are ‘extraneous’. Tonsils, adenoids and the appendix were in that category in the past. Those are all body parts that can cause problems, but the medical indications for removal have changed over time.

Damn I should sue my parents and I know I’ll win this case.

I was circumcised at birth without my consent.

I have the same problem. I’m uncut too for what it’s worth.

I can count the amount of times I have cum from vaginal sex on my hands. Don’t know what I did differently for when I had success…but it’s sooooo good, wish it would happen all the time. Everytime its been in doggystyle position & bareback. No way I could cum with a condom, no way at all.

Same here. I had to get really rough with my ex to reach orgasm by vaginal penetration, and she was the only girl who ever got me off by BJ.

I think it’s due to a combination of keratinization, and using too tight of a grip when masturbating (death grip syndrome).

I ordered some man hoods and Amlactin to start working on dekeratinizating my glans and I’m ordering a Fleshlight (original) to re-sensitize myself to the feeling of a real vagina.

It should take about ten months to get to back to 100% (the dekeratinization might take that long). I wish I’d known about all of this ten years ago. I’m just glad that I figured all this out at 26 and not 46. :)

I’m really grateful for sites like this one that can help us figure out problems like these.

I’ve used the fleshlight too to try & regain sensitivity. I’ve mad some progress. I can cum when I move it back & forth with my hand easily…however the real test is putting it between the mattress, & penetrating it like I was fucking. I’ve come soooo close, but haven’t quite managed to cum this way yet. Getting better though.

I hate condoms.

I hate the idea of having HIV and Herpes or a kid.

I worked in a health clinic for a few years and that is what made me think with my other head.

The sexiest girls coming in and having herpes outbreaks or Gonorrhea made my balls cringe.

My solution:

Never bang a chick without getting her tested.

Make sure she takes her birth control everyday.

I’d rather lose a few trying than to take a risk and end up with an unscratchable itch.

Condoms don’t really protect against Herpes either so think with your brain.

Never heard that before?
Is it true?

They will protect you a little but most of the time herpes is transferred to around the genital regions where condoms don’t protect.

Like the inside of your crotch or on your asscheek.

Most of the herpes outbreaks I have seen are on the inner leg near the crotch or above the penis near the top of the pubic region.

I am not saying condoms are useless against herpes just that they do not give absolute protection against.

A google search on the subject gives mixed answers as with most questions.

Pictures on google are misleading as they show the worst of the worst with most of the pictures showing herpes being right on the genitals.

This is really starting to piss me off.

I wish someone could teach me to cum. I can basically pound away until I’m literally exhausted and frustrated as hell. It sucks seeing your partner enter sexual ecstacy while you feel numb & kind of disconnected from the entire experience…it’s like I’m always being ‘left behind’ during sex. Then when it’s over it’s always the same insecure, awkward question….Why haven’t you cum? I wish I knew the answer! I just cant!

I would say that there’s a 99.9999% chance that you’re suffering from what is commonly referred to as “Death Grip Syndrome,” or DGS.

Do jerk dry (without lube)? Do you jerk it tighter/faster than a vagina could possibly replicate? If your answer to either of those questions is “yes,” then you have conditioned your body to get off in a way that is very unlike real sex.

I would suggest you get a Fleshlight and recondition your body and your brain to respond to vaginal stimulation instead of your hand. Don’t get anything to intense. Get an insert that is more realistic (I just ordered the Lotus, which is only offered with the FL Girls (ordered Puma Swede!! :D ), for this purpose), otherwise it won’t be doing you much good.

It will probably take a few months to get reconditioned, but better now than later.

Wow I can’t believe this thread is still going on after 3 years but umm.. Heres an update which is the same. I can’t cum with a condom unless I think of some kind of fantasy that turns me on or some girl that I always to fuck or something like that to get me off which sucks as I have to concentrate hard.

And yes I always jerk dry and I still masturbate at least twice a day. I am 24 years old now.
I find that if I jerk with any type of lubrication I lose my boner. So I guess I have conditioned it that way being the reason why it’s so hard for me to cum with a condom.

And a new story. Even if I don’t use a condom it’s hard for me to cum if the girls pussy is too wet. Sometimes when it is so dry I cum within a few seconds. It’s weird.

I had the same problem until I met my current girlfriend. We both got tested and use the pill as birth control so I don’t have any crazy shit going on in my mind when we’re making sweet love. I hated rubbers but they were necessary evil. Try the following:

1. Masturbate with a condom on. Find the right condom too. It makes a huge difference. If you use a Fleshlight, try fucking it with the condom on.
2. Masturbating or fucking the Fleshlight while thrusting your hips not your hands. Get you body into it. It makes a huge difference.
3. Try edging with a condom on. Build it up and control it a few times. If you have to let it go, let it go.
4. Slowly cut down on the masturbation.
5. Concentrate on fucking and satisfying her. The thing I hated most was putting the condom on. I had conscious thoughts and sub-conscious thoughts running through my head because of the bad association with condoms and STD/HIV/Children.

Hope that helps

So, I’ve made some progress. Only with the fleshlight, but it’s something. Here’s what I’ve been doing.

I think my problem is, during sex I’m not aroused enough & slightly anxious. I have an erection, but the spark isn’t there, & my penis feels numb & I can’t let go. I’ve got a feeling that subconsciously I don’t want to cum & feel humiliated for going to quickly, so I end up not being able to cum at all.

What I’ve been doing is masturbating (very lightly, since I too used to use a tight death grip & have suffered from it) & getting to the point of being very close to cumming. I then enter my penis into the fleshlight. The first few times it was too much & I came right away.

Then, I realised I could stop myself by doing a few slow slow strokes in the fleshlight….& to my surprise that great, sensitive, “feels like I can make myself cum any moment” sensitivity remained…like how it feels when I masturbate….like how I imagine sex is supposed to be, because it was so good.

At this point I’ve been able to keep that sensitivity for about 2-3 minutes, then I either cum or my dick goes numb again. But at first it was only a few strokes. then 20 seconds, then a minute etc etc so it’s getting better. Problem is I always have to masturbate to the point of nearly cumming first to get my dick properly aroused..if I just have an erection & enter I’m never gonna cum, but atleast it’s improving.