Can't have sex, freaking out. Need Help!

Popsicle sticks and duct tape :D

Seriously, just focus on getting healthy. Eat right, get some exercise and plenty of sleep. If you’re into it, a little meditation wouldn’t hurt either. Good luck.

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I recomend 2 grams of L-argnina and 2 500m. Maca on an empty estomach before going to bed and lots of water. It will work wonders for you.

The inability to get it up is often due to things going on in your mind. Maybe with the first girl you were not into her and so you couldn’t get aroused. Possibly this inability to perform got you overthinking your problem and making you feel a little panicked about not being in control of your body for the first time. When you got with the next girl maybe you psyched yourself out. Maybe you got a little tense and panicky that you might not be able to get it up like before and the anxiety itself kept you from getting it up.

Worrying that you won’t perform often results in you not being able to perform. I went through this kind of thing for about 6 months many many years ago. Next time you get together with a girl try drinking alcohol (to keep from overthinking) and try to focus on the girl (not yourself). Don’t put pressure on yourself to perform - focus more on foreplay, going down on her, etc.. and save penetration for when you are rock hard and are feeling really confident. Brainwash yourself that it doesn’t matter if you actually penetrate her or not - if you can do this it will take the pressure off you.

BTW, have you been overdoing it with the jelqing and feeling some numbness or anything like that? Are you getting morning wood as usual? You might want the doctor to do some blood tests for things like diabetes, etc.. as sometimes it’s not psychological at all, but physical.

i never really got morning wood like i woudl think most guys do… every now and again i wake up with it, evne when i was younger i never really got morning wood either. It’s definitly not PE related as i’m a HUGE PE slacker.

It’s got to be stress and things going on in the back of my mind. It seems every day something new happens at home or at work and it just adds up. It’s really never ending and there’s always something worse than the last thing that comes along. Today i just got mentally Smacked with a wrecking ball with some personal financial and legal issues.

When i got back from my trip i made up my mind to eat healthy and exercise which i’ve been keeping great tabs on. I go to the gym 5 times a week, and eat better now. I still need more work on my diet and eating ENOUGH, but it’s a start.

I’m not a peaceful sleeper either, the first girl i slept with Commeneted that on all 3 nights i would quasi freak out in my sleep like i was having a really bad night mare. I almost never wake up remembering dreams or even dreaming. I close my eyes at bed time, and the next moment it’s time to get up. 3 days ago i woke up with morning wood and i was in a great mood when i woke up, the only thing i can think of is that I was having a good sex dream but i don’t remember it.

I did an experiment today, I remember that before i started my job, actually even after i started it but before i started picking up the extra respnsibilities (when i had a LOT of time on my hands) i used to jerk off all the time and do it consecutivly. so today i spanked it, and went to go again in 5 minutes and i juust could not get it up at all and ended up taking a nap afterwards because i felt so wasted.

Well just an update, i tried yohimbe, horny goat weed, and i even got some cialis from a buddy, I had great wood in the middle of the night, but when i was trying to get down to business essentially the same thing happened.

Wow, I thought you got married or something :)

For someone as young as you, it might be a mental thing.

If you look up e.d. one of the causes is: thinking that you might not be able to get and erection and keep it, then that snowballs and you cant relax or whatever.

A dose of Viagra, Cialus, etc, I think will help you get over it. Good luck and happy health soon.

Shadowraider, you are definitely thinking too much around sex.