Can't have sex, freaking out. Need Help!

OK guys, i am in need of some help here. I’m 21, 5’10”, 170lbs, white.

I’ve never experienced any of these problems before, even with casual lays, and now i’m just kinda freaking out.

I haven’t gotten laid in over a year, had a few blow jobs but that’s it. I used to have no problems having sex I’d last well over a half usually. I’ve fucked girls and they’ve gotten sore because i took so long to finish.

I took a 6 hour road trip to see this girl that wanted to jump my bones, she’s black and i’ve never really foudn black women attractive, but eh, sex is sex and i needed it. So I headed down there and hooked up with her the first night, was hard all through out the foreplay, put on the rubber lost about 10%, usual, tried to put it in and just went soft, after many fumbeled attempts and different positions i finally got it in and she was soo fucking tight that i busted in 20 seconds. Needless to say i felt like a chump. The girl is really really tight, putting 2 fingers in her was a challenge, and i’ve got a large girth, over 6” base. 85% of the times we tried to fuck i coudln’t keep it hard enough to get it in her, and when i did i couldn’t control myself. She gave me a nice blow job though that she had to quit because her jaw was gettig sore after a half hour.

But wait guys, the store gets even better. I attributed it to me just not being really attracted to her. Her roomate is a hot white girl with a great body, i was in lust. I hooked up with her roomate after a few days, and the same thing, i put on the rubber lost a bit of hardness went to put it in and lost it. This girl was tight, but a lot loser than the first girl it was much more comfortable to finger her and i’ve been with tighter, but same deal. I coudln’t keep it up to penetrate. I finally managed to get a 75% hardon in her and i felt that familiar tingling in my balls that i was going to cum, so i just pulled out and said it was too soft.

I’ve been trying to play around jerking off with condoms, and i have no issues, but when i give my cock a good tight grip when i’m jerking it i just lose it and cum.

I was thinking maybe a condom with a desensitizing lotion would help with the cumming too soon, but what about the not being able to keep it up? Maybe viagra, cialis, or levitra?

I’m just looking for any helpful advice because i want to head back there to see them soon and i really don’t want a repeat performance.

Cialis and a pre-sex jerk-off is the way to go. Maybe a cock ring, too. Main thing, though, is to ust relax, and stop thinking about it. If you are worried it will happen again, it will.

not thinking about it easier said than done of course. I just don’t understand why i never had problems in the past. I know stress play’s a role and i’m in a really stressful job right now, but i was on vacation for 5 days when i was down there.

Stress plays a big part on anything sexual I’ve found. For me at least, if I’m suffering a lot of stress, things dont always go to plan in the bedroom. Try to relax, find ways to relax, and calm yourself.

so what are the best natural supplements to help me get a hardon? Yohimbie? Horny Goat Weed? anything else?

If you ever took any thing like paxil or prozac of any medicine for anxietey or depression it could cause this problem. Maybe you started or stopped taking some kind of medication in the period that you were not having sex, this could cause that too.

never taken any sort of anti anxiety, depressant, etc.

Yohimbe is the most effective, works similar to Viagra. But be careful, has some of the same side effects as Viagra. Don’t take it if you have a bad heart. Try to get just the yohimbe and not one of those kitchen sink herbals—less of the herb you want and lots of herbs that might give you unwanted side effects. And try it out first before you go in case it gives you a splitting headache or something.

Although you dick might be doing some thinking for you. If you don’t find these girls attractive or engaging in any way—I know sex is sex, but maybe on some level you don’t really want to be there? Feel free to tell me to go jump in a lake.

with the first girl yeah, that was my take, i wasn’t attracted and couln’t perform. She was in fine shape, had huge hooters, but i’ve just never found black girls faces attractive.

With her roomate on the otherhand, i was TOTALLY into her. I probably couldn’t perform because i was so nervous about a repeat performance of the last 2 nights.

Where can you get just straight yohimbe?

**edit** forgot to add. My sex drive has been realy wacked out since i took on added responsibilites at my job. I used to jerk off multiple times a day, now i’m lucky if i’m in the mood to do it once a day, i’m just so rarely in the mood. I know stress isn’t helping me at all either. Anyone got any tips to overcome that?

Don’t know if that will help.

Bother, won’t help. Didn’t realize yohimbine is a pharmaceutical—just concentrated yohimbe, but a pharmaceutical. Sheesh.

Here:

http://www.drug store.com/produ … BUY-PLST-0-SRCH

so you can’t get this stuff at a local GNC or some kinda vitamin store, that sucks. I doubt if i ordered it online i’d get it by the end of hte week.

**edit** nevermind, just realized what you posted were two different things.

OK, i really think my problem is just stress related, I have been thinking and my sex drive is no where near what it was before i started working. If it’s stress what can I do? And unforunatly stepping down in my job right now is not an option at all.

The last time I had a bit of black was about thirty five years ago, she was nurse and into smoking pot. Man she could fuck like a rabbit, just like stick your prick, or should I say my prick, into a bucket of maggots. Man she certainly could move her arse, she used to gyrate like a snake in a bag. Her pussy was always wet and juicy, once I had my tongue into that soft Gyrating pussy she would cross her legs around my neck and pull my head deeper into her crutch. I can still smell and taste that soft wet mold of clit. I am sure she used to pump her clit up it was hard and stuck out about 2 inches from beneath the hud.

I would fuck a black beauty anytime, they have to be the best blowers, when they get those thick black lips around your dick, they seem to suck you in right up to the balls. Then this one used to work her tongue around the gland so very softly, it was almost like rubbing ones cock on a Velvet blanket. Talk about blowing your wad, she just loved to lick my dick dry, I would shoot my load into her throat and she would swallow every drop and then start sucking for more. Yes she was the best fuck I have ever had.

Hmmm…never really connected a pussy with a bucket of maggots before. Pretty strange there Terry.