Cumming so fast

dejaBlue

It will pass it happens to a lot people it seems first PE makes you come sooner and than after a while you learn better control from PE. Keep on doing your kegels!!

I am brand new to the PM world so I am hoping it will help with my size (6.5 erect length; 5.25 girth) and definitely with my staying power. I try and try, but I cannot last that long- either when masturbating or having sex with my wife. She is completely satisfied, but I’d love to be able to last longer to please her even more. Hoping you experts will be able to help me. Thanks in advance for your advice.

What do ya mean by wrong direction? :S

I’ve read alot of advise for quick cummers on techniques that would stop them from cumming so fast. I went in the opposite direction, which is what I recommend that you do. I wanted techniques that would still allow me to cum quickly, keep my erection, continue thrusting and then cum again without a break.

-Practice your kegels, you’ll need it for PE anyway. After a week or two, you should be able to squeeze it very tightly without getting a cramp or pulling a muscle directly behind your balls

-Find something that really turns you on so you are working with something very hard to begin with. A not so great starting point will effect your finish

-Right as you are cumming, contract your PC muscle as hard a possible. Some techniques have you use your hand, but a well toned PC muscle will be able to do it unassisted. You’ll orgasm but won’t ejaculate and won’t lose your hard on. It may soften a little, but should be hard enough to keep going, just wait for your orgasm to conclude first.

-Keep thrusting or jerking :) After a minute or two, you should be back to fully hard and any slight discomfort due to post-orgasm sensitivity should subside

-After a period of time, you should feel the urge build again and be read to cum . This time, ejaculate as normal. Congrats, you are now a multi-orgasmic man. This should extend your session to at least the 20-30 minute mark.

-Once you have mastered the technique, experiment to dial it in. I haven’t found anything that keeps my arousal level to cum more than 3 times. I still had a hard-on, but just couldn’t cum. You may have a higher magic number.

-My only warning is this: on occasion, I have been “greedy” and tried to cum more than twice but grew physically tired and couldn’t cum a third time. The first two felt great, but the most satisfying orgasms tend to end with ejaculation. Not ejaculating will leave you somewhat unforfilled and your dick will still be hard. Your wife may also feel bad that you didn’t end with ejaculation, which usually marks the end of the festivities. Boo hoo, not much of a downside there.

Good Luck. This, plus PE, should put you in the upper percentile of cocksman.

Thanks for the detailed technique, pimpgangster! I’ll definitely try it.today!

Yeah pimpgangster right. However am getting issues with staying hard after the urge subsided :( maybe am squeezing too hard or my dry orgasm feels that good that am exhausted to go on further. I don’t know but last time I had to thrust my gal for over an hour and to tell you it wasn’t comfortable for both of us.. Any opinnions? Thx, gery

I usually follow a couple of guidelines to help firm up the wood. I’m in my mid-30’s, and married, so it’s not exactly like I’m banging a new woman a night. As such, if I don’t set up some guidelines, it won’t happen. I have been in the “it’s been 45 minutes.are we done yet” camp before, not fun.

-The first orgasm needs to come in the first 5-10 minutes and be dry. You want to be so excited that it’s practically premature, as though, if that was it, you’d have to apologize. If you can cum from a blowjob, huge bonus.

-No jerking off the day of or day before. If you did, you already had you first one.. ALONE.

-No PE at least 4 hours before going for a double.. You’re not superman

-I change positions after the first one. I usually finish doggy. You can control the tempo better.

-No condoms, but I’m married. When I wore rubbers, I could barely finish on my own, plus you won’t have a chance to recover if you go semi-soft.

-When I first started, it physically hurt to keep going. Try your best to keep moving enough to stay hard until the discomfort subsides

-If you start to lose an erection, I use PE techniques. Kegal some blood in and then clamp it off with your hand. This should give you about 3/4 of a dick to work with. You’ll see this in some porno’s before everyone was using viagra to help get through a scene when they were losing wood.

-You need a bank of fantasies to draw from to close the deal (or have some GOOD porn on while your doing it). Some chick from high school, a secretary at work, wife’s sisters (why stop at one?) are all fair fantasy game. What did you always want to do to them? Anal, sex in public, bent over a counter at Thanksgiving, etc. Whatever you are into, the dirtier the better.

-Use lube if necessary. Some women don’t stay naturally wet for 40 minutes.

-Finally, I’ll credit the wife. She knows enough to kick the moaning (screaming) into high gear and will reach over and grab my balls or rub my ass while I’m pounding away.

Like with most things in life, a bunch of little things can add up to big results and once you KNOW you can do it, you’ll be able to do it at will.

Good Luck.

I also have become more sensitive since I started PE. A year ago, I was at about the same level, but then I started edging for extended periods of time and my sensitivity seemed to have lessened. Then, I started PE (around 2 weeks ago) and although my erection is firmer than it’s ever been due to Kegels, I tend to approach ejaculation much quicker. What I’m wondering is if it is the Kegels or the Jelqs that are causing this. What do you guys think?

I have also become more sensitive as I got bigger. I started edging and then squeezing hard when I masturbate (until my fingers got tired) to train myself to need more stimulation when I ejaculate. It seems to be working.

I had this problem too. The only thing that I found to do, is to use a condom. And one of the thick ones, so I lose a lot of sensitivity. It’s been a real issue with my girl since I was always coming first. Now is like I’m training with the condom, and yesterday she came without it.

A big problem is that she only is 20 years old and she won’t talk to much about it. I tell her that we should communicate better to understand each other. We’ve been going out for 6 months now. And it’s starting to get better. Personally I fell like shit when she doesn’t come.

Do you think jelqing is causing this? If so, maybe I should just stop doing the exercises, because, as they say, technique is more important than size, and I’d rather be able to last long than get a slight increase in girth. Kegels are important though.if they are the cause, I guess I’ll just have to learn to deal with it.

Hey! . I’ve mentioned in some of my earlier posts that I’ve started to blow much quickly ever since I started PE. I think a good PE routine tires the Penile tissues and makes it temporarily extra sensitive. Since most people PE 5 days or 2 on 1 off cycle, the sensivity in the penile tissues remains, largely throughout the PE endeavour. This extra sensitivity could be cause for early( i wont necessarily say premature) ejaculations.
A few months ago, I took a break from PE. I didn’t touch myself for 2 months in a row. Since then, Ive started to last much longer. I can hold my erections for longer periods than I could when I was on PE. My opinion is that, people could reach orgasms faster due to extra sensitivity caused by PE activity and this is definitely not an issue to be bothered about. You should start doing better after a bit of rest.
A mention about Kegels…. They have actually made me cum a lot faster than before. The prostate, which is what contracts when you have an orgasm, is connected to the pelvic floor. Kegels could be causing the whole pelvic floor to contract and hence lay some strain on the prostate thereby making you orgasm faster. A doctor friend of mine said that If you could reach you prostate with your finger(through the rectum) and tickle it for a few minutes, you could have an orgasm:)
I remember reading somewhere that kegels were actually designed to make women reach an orgasm faster. My Ex who was really good at squeezing me while I was inside her, could reach an orgasm in less than 2 minutes and she could have a series of them in a matter of 15 minutes. At that time, I wondered how it could be possible. Now, I realise that it could be because of the fact that she could really squeeze her PC muscles hard and that in someway made her cum faster.

A bit of clomipramine can help too:-)

It is good to care about your woman’s pleasure, but not good to obsess about her orgasm. Remember, many women (one third?) do not cum during intercourse, ever. And women have a different attitude about sex. They can think of it as “good” even without ending in orgasm. They enjoy the closeness and the experience overall.
I think you should communicate with your girl about how to get her off, like doing more foreplay, continuing with your mouth or hands after you cum, etc. With my wife, it usually doesn’t really matter to her. She cums sometimes, and other times she doesn’t but she is not disappointed. If I finish and she is still horny, she knows that she can be honest and tell me, so I can work on finishing her, by getting hard again or some other way. She prefers that I get hard again over using my hand or mouth, but every girl is different.

I have a theory that one of the things that causes premature ejaculation after starting PE is an irritated or slightly injured urethral tube. Once the urethra is in this condition then precum or just the pressure of an extremely hard erection causes too much sensation too easily to resist the PONR. I have experienced this at least a couple times from my bib hanger or other PE techniques. I think it heals easily and quickly when you take a break at least that is what happens for me.

PONR = Point Of NO Return and no way to stop orgasm once you get there.