Do I have venous leakage?

I don’t know for you. However, when I went onto HRT about 6 or 7 years ago (I’m 63), I discovered I could get it up at will, but the EQ was generally poor — just like you’ve described wotsallthisthen. My doctor described it as a “leak”. He didn’t prescribe it, but I put myself onto L-Arginine and that solved it all. He said there was no solution.

I’ve learned that L-Arginine, though, MUST be taken on an empty stomach and you must not eat for at least 10 and preferably 15 minutes afterwards for best effect. Now my EQ, including morning woodies, are fine. In short, I’m very happy with it all. I take a level teaspoon before breakfast and the evening meal.

With me I can get it up when I first get excited but then it drops. I mean if a girl gives me a hand job, it will be fairly soft and take me like an hour to finish! Its a pisstake, totally demotivates me sexually once it comes to the crunch. My initial drive is there but once I have a girl, kind of the last thing I want is for her to get my cock out for fear of the inevitable.

I’ve been looking at L-Arginine, I almost bought some yesterday, but I wanted a kind of quick fix, like viagra. But from what you have said about it really sorting things out, i’d be a fool not to try it. So thanks a lot for the advice, i’ll get myself some and see how I go.

That’s exactly where I was at — exactly. The problem with it is it’s a vicious circle. What was simply a physical problem becomes a mental one. That doubles the effect (remember that the brain is the largest sex organ). You fear you won’t be able to get it up and, because of that very fear, in part, you can’t. So, apart from L-Arginine, you have to accept the fact that you are where you’re at.

Be honest with your girl and share where you’re at. Make it a game if you like and play with it. So what if it takes an hour (I’ve taken 1.5 hours on occasion — but not recently — those days are behind me for now). I learned that if I persist, it’d turn around ok eventually. Maybe, you could concentrate on getting off solo for a while, where you don’t have to worry about what your girl might think. Just a thought. However, assuming you don’t have a reason other than leakage problems, I reckon it’ll all be OK pretty soon. Hang in there brother. And, yes, try L-Arginine. I can’t use Viagra or similar stuff ‘cause I end up with a dreadful headache.

One last thought. As you get older, your recovery period gets longer. Don’t ejaculate within a couple of days before you want to get it off with your girl. Try edging — pushing yourself to just before the PNR and stopping. After you’ve had a few success times, your confidence will return and the fear element will go away.

Hey, and please let us know how you go, eh? Talking it out here in anonomity is good therapy.

Yeah I mean i’ve had times when I can’t get it up at all with a girl, but then if I take some Viagra for a while my confidence builds up until the Viagra supply runs out, then I have to fly solo again. I might be half ok for the first time but after that i’m back to square one.

I can get off ok on my own, it doesn’t take paricularly long, but it doesn’t get particularly hard either. I think it’s a mild physical problem reinforced by a huge mental one.

Seen docs and 1 urologist, all hopeless, I guess they suck in england. Like I’ve read Avocet has a leak and Viagra works for him. The Urologist asked me if Viagra worked, when I confirmed it did, he said there is ‘nothing wrong with the physical plumbing then’. He basicly did nothing and told me even if they did tests they wouldnt be able to do anything!

I’m seeing a sex therapist now but i’m pretty sure he’s convinced it’s all in my head. I’m gonna ask for real tests now though, at least i’ll know where i’m at if I do have a leak. It’s frustrating not knowing what the problem is and so where to focus on fixing.

Yes, I was there, too. However, as I said, L-Arginine solved that one.

Well, I don’t know about that. If Arginine helps blood circulation and it solves the problem for me (and others on this site), I reckon there is a problem that takes some sort of drug/chemical to overcome. Needless to say, I also agree that it can be partly in the head.

Rick, you’re lucky that L-Arginine works so well for you! Most people say it doesn’t do anything or at most only has a slight effect.

PE causes soft head

PEing incorrectly causes soft head.*