ED at 25 yo, no phisycal causes found

Good morning everybody.
I write this post only to share experiences and discover if someone else had or has similar problems. Soon I’ll see another time the andrologist.

I’m 25 right now, and I think I have “a sort of” ED. I had a girlfriend till before covid (1 year and half ago), and sexual life wasn’t perfect, I lost the erection during sex sometimes and my penis often wasn’t hard at max.
I wondered and thought about the causes of all this, that led me to go to even more andrologists:

1-psychological aspect: maybe my ex gf’s “complains” like “it is not hard enough” or my bad performances created on me like a psychological problem that blocks me.

2-I had surgery for a left varicocele (20 yo), and a fixing of my right “moving” testicle, that moved up and down, (21 yo). Then, these surgeries happened before my old relationship. I started to think that they could have been a cause (like if something went wrong during the surgery).

3-it’s been years that I don’t have strong “natural” erections during the day, nor during night/when I wake up.

4-I’ve practiced PE since I was 20 yo (with many breaks, I mean like only 4-5 months par year, and some years I even skipped it). Always light exercises, newbie routines, never exaggerating. Always tried to do kegels, but maybe never understood how to do it even because never changed to me.

So I decided to go to one and later more andrologists. I even did a Dynamic Eco Color Doppler on the Penis last year and everything was ok, that’s what the doctor told me. The final answers was “maybe ur ex gf had problems, but u r ok, then find a new girl and see what happens”.

Covid didn’t help on social relationships, anyway, my erections aren’t many during the day, when it happens (or I masturbate) it’s better if I’m sit, while if I stand I lose easily the erection (I even thought that this is just because there is nobody in front of me than I can accept that this is the reason, maybe when I’ll be with some girl things will go better?).

Some day ago I definitely break my balls (I think I’m gonna cut my penis cause it doesn’t work! of course I’m joking, trying to defuse the situation), I saw a girl, she was so sexy and hot and pretty, and at the very moment of doing something I couldn’t get the erection. I mean, my testicles hurt and it was like I didn’t want to (I mean, how is that possible with such a girl?). I already experienced pain in the testicles in similar situations, as if they were blowing up (in other situations when I was with a girl all night, but for some reason I cannot have sex with her but I was excited then it was like my balls hurt, but it was never related to a missed erection, I mean erection was even stronger then). So I went back home and tried to masturbate and my penis didn’t reach a good erection (I think it was at 50% and I ejaculate but it wasn’t that pleasant and normal and it happend before the real orgasm).

I don’t smoke, I’m atheltic, practice a lot of sport and train a lot. I don’t use any drugs or medicines. Then situation starts to be very annoying at it cannot goes on in this way.

Anyone has ever experienced such situations or problems? Also similar? Thank to every single friend here who can help or can share his experience.

Hi Jino, welcome to Thunders!

A little more information on your situation would be hepful to better understand it.

Did you have your hormone level tested?

How much do you masturbate?

Do watch porn, and if so, how often?

Hi my friend,
1- I had my hormone level tested before I did ECO COLOR DOPPLER on the penis and it was ok. I mean, it was, I don’t know right now, but situation seems quite similar.

2-Last month I masturbated almost once a day, and yeah I watched porn. Sometimes, I didn’t even want to, but I wanted to force my penis to be “active” sometimes. Now I give up on watching porn, and I wanted to masturbate only when my head wanted it, without force myself to do it. Sometimes, masturbation without porn didn’t go well then I watched porn to complete it.

That’s it. Next Friday I’ll have my appointment with the andrologist. Let’s see.

Jino

Unplugging from porn can be challenging. Here’s what I did.

1. Limit to just part of 1 video per day.
After a week or so
2. Pics only. No movies.
After a few weeks
3. Erotic stories or just your imagination.

Hi Squared. Thx for the advice. I don’t think I’ve ever been addicted to porn, I mean it was because I liked it and not because I was addicted, then I think it shouldn’t be difficult to masturbate without porn. But, I appreciate ur advice and I’ll take it into consideration if I’ll discover of being really addicted :D

How often do you view porn now?

I also worry about the porn situation. The thing is, I am sure others grew up in the same generation, I grew up in that world in which internet didn’t exist. Cellphones didn’t exist. Computers were primitive. We only had Atari or Commodore to play.

Access to porn was almost impossible. If anything a wrinkled old magazine with friends, sporadically a VHS in very bad quality. That was it. Therefore, the natural libido was so high that just thinking about owning a porn movie would give me a priapism. Just a wind breeze would give me an erection.

Fast forward to today, porn has destroyed our society. Kids have access to absolutely anything. What for us were unthinkable sexual fantasies, today they are all available categorized online for everybody to watch. That situation 100% guaranteed causes a desensitization in the brain. In both men and women.

And unfortunately I think this is a problem we all deal with to a certain degree. I really respect those who have succeeded staying away completely from porn.

Right now I’m not watching any. As I said, I don’t think I’ve ever been addicted. Even for years I haven’t watched any.

Ditch the porn.

And while you’re at it ditch fantasy as well.

From just reading this it, sounds like performance anxiety. If professionals are saying you are ok, and you are constantly concerned about getting an erection, it’s like a self fulfilling prophecy. I know because I too had a hard time getting an erection when I was younger 22-24, I found that my ex’s were very emotionally damaging. I found self confidence through therapy, not suggesting any advice but I am going through the comments and you mentioned barely any porn.

So something that has helped me, was having this conversation with the person I am having sex with.

Basically telling this person, hey I really want to do well, and I think I am putting a lot of pressure on myself to perform.

I found for myself just talking about it helped. It’s embarrassing but I feel every guy has gone through it. And you might find that you relax, and can actually enjoy sex after opening up about it and she helps you relax more.

Thx man! Yeah, I hope this is problem. (and yeah, I mentioned barely porn ahah). Tomorrow I’ll see the andrologist and I’ll see.

Knowing that emotionally damaging women messed up your erections and likely your confidence and libido with it do you make different choices when it comes to relationships? Do you now have new boundaries that are lines in the sand that absolutely cannot be crossed? I know you see now its super important who we pair with, how they treat you and how they look at you.

Excellent post!

Anyone will tell you that outside of rape fantasy erotica, it is fundamental for a woman to feel safe, both physically and emotionally with you, in order for her to want, and enjoy physical intimacy, especially to reach orgasm, but rarely if ever, is it discussed for men.

I think it is just as important for us, especially in order to get and retain a good, full erection.

Feeling unsafe triggers the fight or flight response, which rushes blood away from the extremities and towards the vital organs in order to give us peak performance for running away from a predator, or fighting them. Procreation is a distant second in such cases, so evolutionarily, it makes no sense to spare blood for an erection when in this “mode”.

Communication is so important in relationships.

Communication, mutual respect, and compersion.

Make sure those exist between both parties, and you can be sure good times will be had by all :)

I agree with MagerHang. Have the woman help you. I’ve shared with friends this advise. “Tell the woman that she’s so fucking hot that you’re a little intimidated by her beauty and you’re concerned about how that will affect your performance” With the right woman it’s actually a turn on for them and they will help you.

And once you get past it, you’ll be a stud!