Erectile Dysfunction at 22 But Looking Forward to Overcoming This

Hello,

I recently started to improve my game. I’ve been working out, moving up in my career, feeling confident.

But when I was 18 I got my own room. It’s been 4 years. When I was 18, I would touch my penis once and get hard. Now, I secretly have to take Viagra to keep it up. But that’s just half the issue. I’m so de-sentized, I have difficulty cumming when I’m with a woman. I’m too used to my right hand. I still feel pleasure, but sex CAN be too long, and it’s embarrassing, and the girl thinks something is wrong with her, etc.

I know 3 girls who I was basically a shoe-in to fuck. One of them flat-out said “I wanna feel you inside of me.” I avoided sex discreetly (blamed school/work/false family issues) and well, pussy is not made to order, you gotta get it when it’s hot. I have a date this Friday, we’ll see how that goes.

I know for a fact that my penis’ lack of size and function is detrimental to me approaching women. I am 5.75 EL with 5” girth and a slight down-ward curve. My head is big and I’ve been complimented on it, but I don’t want to have erectile dysfunction or prolonged (or none) ejaculation.

The problem I know is my obsession with porn. I often masturbate before bed and after; everyday just about. That has made me lack excitement visually (watching naked women repeatedly will do that I suppose) and using my right hand has trained my penis to orgasm only like that. I’m tired of it and I’m going to change this.

I am going to start masturbating only on Mondays and Thursdays. And I am going to try and keep my sessions short to train my penis to orgasm from stimulation. I will use porn but will not watch suggestive images even just passing-by, I’m going to focus on the real thing.

I am also thinking of purchasing a fleshlight and use that to help, but I don’t know if that would work. I am also thinking of taking supplements to help my ED, even if it’s gradual. I’m not looking for an overnight cure because no such thing exists.

I guess I wrote this post because I had to get it out of my system, to serve as a refresher for the future if I start to stray, and for people in a similar situation to mine to say that it’s no use to cry and feel sorry for yourself, that’s not going to help. I invite anyone in a similar situation to not give up but to take this challenge directly and try to overcome it.

I’ve already set up a new PE routine and my goal is to hit 7 inches EL by the end of next year. I’m good with my girth. If anyone has any tips or suggestions they wish to share, by all means please do so. I’d love to hear them.

Thanks everyone for reading and wish me luck. Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re probably right.

And I think, and I know, that I can do this.

I’m with you man, and many, many other guys in their 20’s who grew up on internet porn are also with you. It’s not ED - it’s psychological. But also, honestly, the pills do help a little, although they are by no means the answer, and they will not cure psychological ED. Here’s some stuff I put together, and there are also some more helpful links in this thread below. Good luck!

For young guys with erection problems - Scienceguy’s method

Hey, I have decreased sensitivity due to Peyronie’s. I just posted on another thread about this, too. Pills work great for a lot of people I guess, but for me, I never felt they were good for me long-term, definitely not the hard stuff like Viagra and Cialis. Everyone’s different though.

What I will say is this: BUY THE FLESHLIGHT. If you know your hand is causing your desensitization does it make any sense to continue this behavior? I own the Stamina Training Unit, and I was always hard for my ex-gf (still am, actually!). There are other more discrete products, too. I want to try Tenga Fliphole..

Regarding the girl: unless you have massively thick fingers or a rumor going around about you, I doubt she’s gonna be discouraged by your size. If she said that she probably thinks you’re hot as shit, and she’d probably be willing to give you as many times as you need to make her come. I definitely would not avoid sex, though. In my (limited) experience so far, girls don’t seem to care if takes you forever to come as long as you reassure her it’s not something wrong with her. You can compensate for that anxiety she feels easily by pounding her as long as she wants without you blowing your load first.