Erectile Dysfunction?

Hello everyone, I’m here because a very disappointing thing happened to me yesterday. So I haven’t had actual intercourse in a little over a year now, even though I’ve had a few opportunities. And I’ve been on nofap for a month now, getting rid of my porn and masturbation addiction. Yesterday I tried to have sex with a girl and my penis went completely numb and limp. It just did not work. And I will admit that I was nervous and my whole body was literally shaking from me being nervous. When I went home, I tried to get myself hard and achieved an erection within seconds. The last few times I’ve tried to have sex with a girl, I couldn’t get an erection either, but just assumed it was because I was heavily intoxicated. I can get hard when I’m alone, but not with a girl. What’s wrong with me? Can anyone else relate to this?

Give your brain at least 2 months on no fap so that it can develop new neural pathways that replace the old neural pathways that were grown due to stimulation from porn. If you were very reliant on stimulation from porn it may take longer.

Hey Scottshot,

There are often many inter-related components so it’s sometimes difficult to resolve this one but you’re absolutely on the right track getting rid of porn & fap. I had similar issues with the wife or would start okay in bed but couldn’t finish the deed (but could do so solo which tells you my mechanics weren’t broken, rather my neural nets had become rewired to the wrong stimulus).

Sometimes if the habituation/conditioning is well established it can take quite some time to reprogram our mind and body’s response to flesh & blood. When I added PE to the area where I had anxieties already, it sure didn’t help my issues.

Following some great advice from TP members however, I stepped away completely from porn, fap & PE (for 2 months) and while it wasn’t overnite nor have things worked like I want 100% of the time, things have incrementally gotten better (and I kept my gains, no problem!).

Be easy on yourself and perhaps take a time off PE as well so your not thinking about this area of life as much and indulge in other energy-absorbing activities to help draw some of your anxieties safely out of your system and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised - I know I was.

Wishing you the best with what can be a tremendously frustrating problem,

Take care,

QL

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Thank you so much for this great reply. I’m sure it took you a while to type all of this out and I really appreciate that. And I think you’re spot on with the wires being connected to the wrong stimulus. I guess the fix to the problem is more time away from porn and masturbation. I will also most likely take some time off of PE. Thanks again for this reply, it helped a lot.

Thank you for the reply. After researching this stuff the whole day, it looks like you are spot on with the science behind it. I will continue to stay away from porn and masturbation. Thanks again for the reply!

Sorry to hear that. I feel your pain. This might be happen for the first time. Is this your first time sex with girls? I have had the same issue. I was bit nervous and didn’t know what to do! I was trying to recover myself from this bad situation. In the meantime I asked few of my friends about this matter. But nobody was able to give me good suggestion. Then I started searching and was looking for some good articles about ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION STATISTICS A片在线观看_成人综合影院_免费大片网站_夫妻性生活影片 Very helpful for the guys who is suffering from this kind of issue.

Classic performance anxiety. The fact that you can get hard rules out a physiological cause. Prior ED experience becomes self perpetuating on subsequent attempts.. next time make sure there are no distractions such as time constraints or pressure to perform. Take it easy and do not focus on penetration. Focus more on erotic touching and feeling to provide pleasure.somerime this will result in a strong erection.

I think you need more confident you could get it with practice. I recommend pay a prostitute young and pretty tell her it is your first time with a prostitute and you probably feel a Little anxiety.

That’s just the advantage that you can masturbate without sufficient erection. The size of the penis also does not matter. I am very happy about that, because at 72 years of age you have your problems. Sexual intercourse would not be possible without a sufficient erection. But that’s the way to satisfy myself. This is very important for me as a habitual Solo Masturbant. Unfortunately, I can only do it once or twice a week. The sperm quantity is also significantly reduced.

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I have found these have some very insightful information for my own journey.