2. So you believe that she’s fooling me or herself when she communicates the need of lovemaking and not fucking? She feels that we first need to connect to “another level” and fucking will come next. At least when she’s sober.
Women often don’t know what they really want; they often say one thing and do another. And if they do know what they want, they often won’t say it - and they want YOU to figure it out. It’s sort of a game in a way. And they don’t want to talk about it either. Too much talking about it annoys them; it also annoys them if you cannot see through their words.
That’s why one should always pay attention to what a woman DOES, not what she SAYS.
They say they want romance, and flowers and whatnot - but a little goes a long way. To some extent they’ve been infected with sappy narratives via novels, movies, etc.
In vino veritas.
At a very deep level, she wants to be flirted with, she wants to be taken, she wants to be fucked.
4. Being flirty is something that I don’t do with her. Not even at the beginning. It’s her biggest problem. That I never flirted with her or make her feel wanted! I know that I’m wrong in this area but there has to be some sexuality in the air for me to flirt and there is NONE with her.“The only way you can help her be “hornier” imo is to be the man she wants you to be: super confident, aggressive, never asking but simply taking what you want, fucking her for all she’s worth.”
Very powerful sentence. I used to be like that with women. That’s why I believe they where so in to me. I would allure their senses and body and just make them mine in every way. I have never done it with my wife and I really feel I’ve missed that train.
The “sexuality” comes from YOU - YOUR flirting/advances etc. - if you wait for “sexuality” to magically appear in the air you’re headed for the Gobi desert marriage bed.
So you’ve really answered your own question: surprise herself and you by being the man you once were.
