Hard sex weakens erection

Hi everyone, I wasn’t sure where to post this so I thought I’d just place it here.

My problem is maintaining a ‘strong’ erection during sex, note how I said strong, because I have no difficulty getting turned on, and can achieve erections just from kissing, and touching my girlfriend with clothes on. Whenever we engage in sex however, I don’t feel my erection is at it’s full potential, which makes me think I’m not giving my girlfriend a true representation of my size, I’ve noticed a significant difference between a standard, half-arsed erection, and a full one. I have also been a bit self-conscious about my size, until I get a full erection, and I think ‘hey, this isn’t so bad after all’.

When we have sex though, or when she gives me oral, I think the rougher, and harder it is makes it difficult for me to keep it full. It’s almost like it’s squeezing the blood back out of my penis, especially when she’s on top. It’s nothing to do with not being turned, I do feel like the tightness and roughness actually squeezes blood out of it. This problem is made worse by the fact that I find it really difficult to come during sex (I have been getting better however. I think it was a result of masturbating for years in my teens and getting used to that sensation, but with regular sex, I don’t need to masturbate anymore).

Me penis is not overly sensitive, but I think it reacts better to lighter touches, as if my potential erection needs to be ‘teased’ out. IE. I find my head gets thicker if my girlfriend licks it gently, or if I just gently stroke it with the underside of my wrist because that is a soft area of skin. It also gets full when I’m holding the base, as if to trap the blood in, but I don’t want to have to hold it all the time during oral and sex.

Has anybody else encountered similar experiences, and can offer any advice/solutions?

Regards.

There in nothing strange that your erection gets better when you squeeze your base. It partially blocks the outflow of blood through your penile veins.

From your description I may suggest that it would be helpful for you to improve blood circulation in your penis. Judging by what you have told you perhaps need slightly induce inflows of blood to your dick. I’d suggest 2 solutions.

1. Kegels. Just 10-15 minutes 5 days a week. These exercises will reinforce your erection and make easier for you to maintain it.

2. Moderate pumping. Just by a cheap pump and pump 5 days a week, short workouts at low pressures, 3 times 5-7 minutes.

I’m sure that these measures will resolve your problems in 1-2 months. Even one of them may suffice.

The same thing use to happen to me and still does, just don’t have a woman in my life currently to see if I still have this problem with PE. I would go hard and rough for awhile and then I would start to get a half ass erection and then I would go slow in her and she would be like why are you slowing down?? I would just tell her I want to feel everything about her inside and I would get hard all over again as slower would help me get all the sensation again and then start back up. If I would go to hard I would basically be to tired to continue and loose my erection all together but I think this is because I need to start running and gain stamina overall.

I’m only 10-15lbs over weight and generally pretty condition with weight training, more of powerlifting. Now to do more stamina with weight lifting and running so I can go hard and your heart will still pump not as hard and therefore you wont tire out easily and be able to maintain a good erection. Also you may be lacking in some vitamins ect so you could always look into that (supplements).

One thing though sounds like shes giving you oral already but my ex stopped for a long time and then gave me head again one day and we went at it like jack rabbits lol and I stayed hard the entire time no matter what. Haha afterward she was like I’ll have to do that more often and I was just like I forgot what getting head felt like, it felt sooo good. She apologized she hadn’t gone down on me in awhile lol. Just some food for thought, have her tease you more or maybe exercise more for stamina or combination of all 3 with supplements =)

Best luck!

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