How erection works on the brain: Motivation, Life Style, Dopamine and Porn.

After reading your post you just confirmed my commitment to quit Porn forever. I think that another psychological side effect is reflected on our self steem.

Just like my particular case, whenever I knew I would have sexual intercourse with a new woman I would instantly feel fear about dick size, because after all,
My brain got habituated to watch, and get excited with sexual scenes showing guys with a massive dick with girls overacting stuff and perfect camera angles, enough
To make me feel intimidated: will I fulfill her expectations? Will I be able to make her scream that loud? Will she be begging for more? Etc.

So the moment comes and guess what: flacid dick, bad experience for us both and self steem destroyed.. Whats worst than being not comfortable with your dick size?
That it doesn’t work. And guys.. Remember girls always feel attracted to confident males, and your body language speak for yourself when you are not confident, so the blow hits hard.

Now I know why all this stuff happened.. And yes. Ever since I quit Porn I got more focused, got better erections and thus better sexual experiences.
I only jerk off whenever I had a lot of sexual intercourse the day before. Though it was good but ill get rid of it.

This post should be a MUST read to anyone new, before any physical change we need a psychological change and they must be aware that porn can be that harmful if not controlled. Remember that women Don’t feel pleasure by just the coitus but how you made her feel about it (no discrimination to our gay partners I love you guys!, but all my efforts with the PE world are focused exclusively in improving experiences with women) .. So If we guys are not confident they will feel it, trust me.

I think I will work out my imagination then. Keep on the good work buddy! Ill write back in 3 months or so Ill make a report about the results it give using your mind as porn website.

The more we have quality info like this, the more we grow both, mind and penis!

Best wishes to all of you guys

Awesome post revelant to so many people.

It is really valuable post for me too. Didn’t even imagine, that my brain could get addicted to dopamine. I consider myself always as sex-addicted, because only 3-5 times per day could exhaust me. Otherwise I’m getting aroused really fast and wanna more. Also, I have watched really much porn and had sometimes that idea about my brain counting imaginable partners.

On next week I will date a girl, who has similar libido. Hope we will manage to test either - does we have dopamine addiction or our libidos just really that high :)

Way back in 2010 i had a blazing sex life. Porn wasn’t even that interesting. But even i getting all the pussy i want if i forced myself to watch even 3-5 porn movies the intensity of my real sex life would be blunted. It steals attention.

Its so hard to stop watching porn man. I have tried and failed so many times. Every time I start getting used to not watching it I manage to convince myself that I am better now and that one vid won’t do me any harm. Next thing I know ive spent two weeks watching porn and masturbating 2-4 times a day everyday. Its sad because the times I managed to stay off it for like a month I saw huge benefits. Hoping once I start working full time I will be too busy for it.

This is powerful shyt the braindrain was huge.

Hey Rush9mota,
Really inspirational thread you started here. Lately I’m more and more of the belief that porn is a ‘bit’ of a problem for me too.

Always been the ADD-type with lots of motivational (on most things) and distractibility problems, so dopamine has always been a bit of a problem.

After a lot of fighting between parents, failing school and a following depression, porn was not only nice to watch but without me knowing it a: perfect antidepressant, sleep-aid and a time killer.

I’m not yet in the ED stages, but as long as I remember I can go at it for ages in the bedroom. Have control but can be hard to cum sometimes.
In a relationship I find that I’m less motivated to do anything to worship the gf(fancy dinners) or to endure shit to get laid from time to time. Pornhub is the easier solution.

Due to anxiety problems I started researching more and more and addiction (besides the already existing ADD) could very well be a big contributor to my problems.

I found this part of your story very interesting:

I can’t seem to find good programs to block the poison. You say it is as hard as coming of a cocaine addiction, but it’s like coming of coke with your whole house covered in kilo’s and people throwing it in your face everytime you surf the web. Would really appreciate it if you can help me find the programs you use for this.

I don’t know if you still visit frequently, otherwise maybe another noble member of this great community can be of help.

Cheers,
GH