How often should I ejaculate ?

How is it I’m wasting energy with PE when I’m gaining length and girth?

If there was no PE, I wouldn’t have even been here on this forum discussing, I would’ve probably been in jail or dead already, suicidal thoughts might have crept up heavier if I didn’t make these PE gains.

PE paved my way to a better EQ, even just the desire to have better EQ came from PE gains and the fact that it works, not just for me, it worked for Kingsnake too. That’s just what I was saying.

I’m not a psychologist or a doctor, but i *think* sexual desire should come innately. If you just don’t have a sex drive, that’s not because you don’t/didn’t have a girlfriend, maybe it’s the other way around: you don’t have a girlfriend because you don’t really have a drive to actively seek one.
Have you seen a urologist or a doctor in general about this? There are hormonal reasons why this could be happening. I don’t know your background, but it could be as simple as low T.

How’s your muscle mass? Do you exercise on a regular basis? How’s your life in other areas?

You could also be somewhere on the asexual spectrum naturally.

Personally, I’ve always ejaculated once or more a day unless something was specifically preventing me from doing so, or I’ve been saving it up to give my wife a nice big load and it’s always been because I felt the urge or wanted the release.

I do not want to sound like I am a smartass and sorry if I somehow offended you, I do not for any reason wish you to return to a criminal life, disgrace yourself or throw yourself in the thrash. We edify/construct how we see the world and our lives on the things we believe, morals, religion, law, state, family, philosophy and society.

You said everything in the first post > How often should I ejaculate ?

I gave some time to think about you and this, I understand you. Or at least, how you want us to understand you, even if your Ego does not, as I can feel it from this same post I am responding to you, which is fulfilled with emotions and denial.

I wont be long here in this thread, as I am on vacation (thing I do not know what it is as I have been working my ass off for 2 whole years uninterrupted). My advice will be, based in this

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open your mind, it may take time and lot of work in yourself, deep inside you, I know that you are stronger than you think you are, stronger than lots of people I know, because I read your story, I’ve been reading your posts for some time, please do not think little of yourself, know that you can change things, it is in your power to be a better person and you cannot do that without, first, opening your mind. The answer may not be here on Thundersplace, it may be in you. But this is an you that even you do not know or rejected it.

Fuck… I wished we met in real life, be on the porch drinking coffee and talking about it, man… I am going through a phase now in my life that I’ve wished I went through sooner, but I could not because of how little my mind was and I had no idea how open I thought I was.

Interesting thread guys. My opinion is you should do it as you please, or are pleased, there should be no shame.

I don’t often masturbate, I am fortunate to be in a relationship where sex is frequent enough. There are times when I still masturbate, if we are in a rut, or she is unwell, or I just feel like it. I pump and edge (which is essentially masturbation with a goal other that ejaculation). While I can control not ejaculating I can’t just ejaculate on demand. I have no problem satisfying my wife, I got over the idea that it had to happen from penetration many moons ago and am under no illusions that PE will somehow make that happen.

My wife seems to enjoy satisfying me, but isn’t so enamored by it it needs to last any longer than it has to. While we seem to think that endurance is the end all when we are young, when we get older women appreciate and can feel more sexy or wanted if they can make you finish quick. Nothing seems more disappointing for my partner than it being a chore or not being able to please me in a reasonable time. Saving it up for her ensures that it is quick and easy for her, and she feels like she’s got it.

Fwiw, I started masturbating by rubbing my dick against stuff in the house as if it was a woman in doggystyle, mattresses and any other personal object that resembled a round form with a little weight, a towel and a radiator for example, or even a hard pillow.

I remember the first time I ever did it, I was probably 4-5 yo, I was angry at the rest of my family for not changing the movie when a sex scene began, it was someone fucking a super hot tall blonde big titted white woman while in doggy. They sort of made fun of me because of the way I felt so uncomfortable during that scene so I left and went to my room to sit in anger, but after a while of thinking about that white woman I got horny and decided to try and imitate that somehow, since it’s something that humans do. I can’t remember all the details honestly, I can’t even remember how long it took for me to reach PONR, but it was quick most likely.

I continued to do this until I found out from school colegues that they were masturbating with their hands looking at porn pictures from a magazine.

I became a fan of this for many years, I rarely put my hands on any material, I was very good at remembering stuff I saw for a brief second, I was also very into hot girls at school, I’ve been in many schools, unfortunately, but there were A LOT of EXTREMELY HOT SLUTY chicks around, believe me!

I can’t remember when my masturbation habits got so wrong exactly, all I can remember for sure is that I was very anxious with watching porn, very careful that my older brother wouldn’t find any dates on those porn movies modified by someone other than him, so I was always in a hurry, and I was watching porn in a difficult way for many years because I didn’t have my own computer. I was playing them with NERO in that small preview screen in the left as if I was writing a CD and checking them out, this method wouldn’t allow the date on any movie/folder to be modified.

Actually, now that I think of it, I was always very anxious with masturbating, even before I saw any porn and was only masturbating from imagination.

It would be nice to talk like this in real words. I wish we met in real life too.
Going through a phase is probably what most people on Earth is doing now.
We both seem to have started PE around the same time, I suspect we weren’t the most lucky PEers in these times. When I look back at what was going on around 2009-2014 on this forum, I start thinking of how nice it would’ve been if I was PEing since then. Those seem like the good days judging by what is happening now with all this 1984 stuff. I think this is true because mental issues are easier to come by these days, way easier compared to 2010ish, although there was the 2001 bin laden incident and the economy crash in 2008….It’s hard to gain and maintain EQ when mental issues are easy to come by, stress is easy to feel and stuff like food scarcity sounds like a threat, war sounds like a threat, etc.
It would’ve been nice to meet somewhere in Europe, a few of us PEers maybe and spend a day to talk and do whatever, drink coffee/beer, smoke some weed.

Also, when I was 14 I had a relationship that went bad because of me having ED. Next, when I was 15, all the way to 25 yo (6 years of wich I wasn’t around), I’ve been in another sort of relationship that started the same as I stated with the first one when I was 14, only it ended worse.

That’s all I can think of now. These are basically 2 of the main memories that constantly hold me back. I’ve had ED while on Viagra with girls that look like those girls in my past as well.

I did years of therapy, with more than 5 therapists and have seen even more than these 5 while institutionalized. It doesn’t work for me, it might help me find out some interesting life hack’ish type of information, plus all those personality/IQ/memory tests that therapists provided were cool, but it doesn’t make me forget or get over any of these memories.

What really worked was PE gains though, and I mean they really, really, really worked. Too bad I wasn’t the smartest with my timing for PE, i should’ve been doing this a long time ago, but still, this stuff really keeps me going.