I can't take it any more, sex lay off for me

The woman who has not had a child will have a normal vaginal tone admitting one finger on a pelvic exam. A woman who has had a child will easily admit two fingers in the same exam.

The laxity of the vaginal wall is an individual thing and can be corrrected to a great degree by such exercises as Kegels which is one thing I would recommend. You can make a game of it: try and squeeze together when having intercourse. Some women can almost lock you in or throw you out depending on the strength of their PC muscle.

>>She did/does kegels, but I dont think she did them faithfully and only a few dozen a day.>>

I think this is the key, coupled with only one vaginal birth and her young age.

I agree. My wife had our first child at age 20. She quickly retained her size, both bodily and vaginally. With our second child at her age 26, she wasn’t so lucky. She did not and will not do kegels.

I saw an article in a magazine this week(Marie Claire magazine) at the grocery store. It said on the cover “intensify your orgasm”, so I had to look at the article(page 155 near the back ;) ) They were obviously talking about kegel exercises, and had a picture of the Kegelmaster device(mykm.com). Since the line was moving I didn’t get to read the article, but I figured out what it said anyway.

The other evening my wife and I were at the store and when we got to the line, I pointed out the article to her and the picture of the device. She has one of those but didn’t like using it because she said it felt weird. But she says she does kegel exercises when she remembers to do them.

I don’t know, maybe your wife would get something from that article?

Good luck RB!

T-Rex,

Having had 3 children vaginally and two vaginal surgeries, I was concerned about how tight I would be.

Here is the good news, I can still grip a pencil. Thank you Kegels!!!!!!! In order to keep any muscle in good shape you must exercise it. Simple concept there. Granted, if I lubricate a lot, then yes I am looser or it seems that way. I do reservse kegels as well as regular ones to stay in shape. I have yet to have a partner complain and I hope I never do!!!!!

You talk about feeling inadquate at 5.5 in girth. That isn’t shabby, congratulations. Just remember one thing, as stated here before, each female is different in vaginal tone. But, to give up sex just because the lady is looser than you would like, is a pretty rash thing to do. Not all women are going to be virginal tight, and those who are, work at it or are virgins. But consider something here please, if you feel inadquate how do you think she feels? It would crush my ego to think that I couldn’t please my partner because I was too big. Sex is a two way street here, you and her. You must do something to her for her to go a second round.

Try different positions to change the angle of the dangle so to speak, try doggie, try putting her on top, or have her close her legs in the missionary position. Experiment and find something that will work for you.

Good luck, keep doing what you need to do and try new and different things. Ask her carefully and gently if she does exercises to stay in shape there (and I mean carefully) and go from there.

>I can still grip a pencil<

But how is your writing????….
….sorry, sorry, just had to ask.

I hate replying to a thread so late in the game, but I think 5.5 in girth is an excellent size. Though it may not be ideal for others but I am certain there are plenty of women out there that would be mighty satisfied with what you have to offer.

Sunshine…I can’t get that gripping a pencil out my mind. I had all three kids by c-section and I don’t think I can grip a pencil. ;) I can put one in there and it will stay (of course) but gripping one…you go girl! :blue: Kegels are good. I have been doing them on and off for years. Not to retain size because that was hardly an issue, but it does help with some of the other factors that come into play when a woman is pregnant.

ANYWAY…I wouldn’t call it quits by a long shot. For one, women can feel inadequate too knowing that their vaginas have stretched beyond what they use to know. And sometimes kegels are hard to do “correctly”. I know that it is what you feel that matters, but don’t hang up the towel just yet. You should be extremely proud of your girth. If not, just know there are women, like myself, that are impressed with it. Okay. :)

I can’t say that I speak for everyone here, but I don’t want to have to do some weird position or stroke angle to make myself feel better. It should be good just doin’ it normal. All that other shit is just trying to compensate for something else. Resorting to new positions or angles would only prove to me that my regular sex ain’t good enough.

If I am with a woman that is 5’10” the positions and angles that work best WILL be different than if she is 5’2”… and that is just the tip of the iceberg. Cervix angle, long or short muscle belles, connection points of tendons & ligaments, size and sensitivity of her clitoris, how deep, how tight, is her vagina high or low on her, where exactly her g-spot is…. and then all this sh*t in relationship to each other. Sound like a lot? Wrong. Now throw in a million and one psychological and emotional factors and you are just starting to get the picture.

Prickle, no offense intended, but really………..deal with your anger and resentment toward women.

<Resorting to new positions or angles would only prove to me that my regular sex ain’t good enough.>

You mean that you have zero room for improvement? Trying something new would imply that you are not already perfect?

< I don’t want to have to do some weird position or stroke angle to make myself feel better.>

How about to make your partner feel better. Forget about your ego and figure out what works for the one you are with.

<It should be good just doin’ it normal.>

Like you jump on top missionary style, hump away & this magickly makes her have screaming orgasms, one after another? You just do what you do and she damn well better like it. Maybe in Playboy forum, very seldom in real life.

< All that other shit is just trying to compensate for something else.>

“All that other shit” is what separates the men from the boys.
Can’t stress that last one enough.
“All that other shit” is what separates the men from the boys.

iamaru,

>Cervix angle, long or short muscle belles, connection points of tendons & ligaments, size and sensitivity of her clitoris, how deep, how tight, is her vagina high or low on her, where exactly her g-spot is…. and then all this sh*t in relationship to each other. Sound like a lot? Wrong. Now throw in a million and one psychological and emotional factors and you are just starting to get the picture.<

Hey were supposed to be helping him with his insecurities! I get the picture myself though.

Also I might add that there are a couple of replies on this thread that I never thought I would see on these forums :)

SS4

I think you guys know what I’m trying to say, although when it comes out it sounds rather… angry?
Yeah, maybe I am too proud. To me, doing weird positions to compensate for a lacking peter just feels like “cheating” to me. I’m no puritan by any standard… I love “doin’ it” all kinds of ways, I’m not one of those missionary men, I just put pressure on myself that I should be able to knock her out without resorting to bug-fucker techniques. I don’t want to have to balance books on my head while fucking her upside down propped up on an ottoman suspended by ropes just so that my pithy cock can get the job done, while mr. bigdick can just lay back and stroke to get the same results.

You guys all know where this stems from… insecurity. Why is everyone here? If you all were satisfied with yourselves, why come here to learn? My mindset is most likely unhealthy and self-destructive, self-defeating and at times…misogynistic. But I’m getting better, I guess.

Dude, long run- Keep pe’ing so your penile disappointment becomes a thing of the past.

Short run- Keep dating until you find a girl with a small tight shallow pussy. They are out there. I almost married one when I was 5x4. I made her scream, just from missionary, she was so fricking tight and shallow. Unfortunately, she turned out to be an evil slut… :)

I had a fling with another gal, slightly tighter pussy. Same results (except the marriage and evil slut part). She came long and hard, and more importantly, often. I felt like the king of the world with a staff for a cock. Absolutely felt like I was gonna split them both in two.

I’m over 8x5.5 now, and I DON’T get that feeling with my wife. But one day soon though…