I do wonder how many achieve it.

Gottagrow, I agree. I learned how to control it during masturbation before I ever tried it during sex. I need more practice holding off during sex to master the technique. Luckily, my girlfriend is really encouraging about this (obviously) and doesn’t mind me practicing with her.

Good to hear Stevie. It helps having an enthusiastic girlfriend to practise on, lol. Right, I’m off to bed, it’s 7:00 am over here. Catch ya laters.

Never tried this during sex but you could also try diverting your attention away from anything other than something stresssfull (stress is a big erection killer and should prevent more excitment).

Also, slowing your breathing could help also.

Same as when you need to create extra excitment just concentrate on something that really turns you on.

Just one thing, do you think it’s a good idea to use a bad memory to use that to stress your body for that brief period of time where you don’t want to cum?
Or will this cause a bad association of a bad thought with a good thing like sex?

Cascade,

A lot of people use disassociation, etc to increase their stamina. However, it isn’t the same thing as actually having an orgasm without ejaculation … that’s just prolonging sex by not reaching climax.

Yhea, diddn’t think too juch about the diffence betwwen the two :homer:

Well, anyway I can still fairly sucsessfully clamp with my pc to hold back the cum but it seems to go retro a bit even though this way helps me keep a stiffy after clamping.

Gotta:

Have you ever been fucking a girl thinking you’re controlling your ejaculation, when, whoops, by accident, you’ve filled the chick with cum?

Has holding it back created any negative side-effects? Do you still feel the release of stress and tension as with a normal load? Does the cum “back up” and get deposited somewhere else in your body? Like your scrotum?

>Does the cum “back up” and get deposited somewhere else in your body? Like your scrotum?

If it goes anywhere other than out it would go into the bladder (retrograde ejaculation).

Uhhhh I don’t think its so healthy to hold back semen. I think you should regularly flush your system of it and its been said that regular ejaculation is actually good for the prevention of prostate cancer. Take a look at this article to see what I am talking about.

http://health.n zoom.com/cda/pr … ,206531,00.html

I use the full BC muscle squeeze to prevent ejaculation rather than Gottagrow’s mental reconditioning method. The ejaculatory contractions can be felt and for the same duration they are during a wet ejaculation, but they are not nearly as strong because the BC is clamped down. It’s more like a 2 star orgasm than a 4 star one, but still a real good sensation and worth learning to do. The trick is all in understanding your own ejaculation timing (not as easy as it sounds) so be prepared to blow a whole lot of loads learning the technique. On the upside, though, even “failures” while doing this are a whole lot of fun.

Supersizeit brings up a very important point. Even if one gets good at this and can do it multiple times in the same session, do end the session with a wet ejaculation to avoid prostate gland congestion.

Prickle, yes there have been some occasions when I have let slip my cum in a co0ndom during sex, but this is an exception and not the norm for me. I am human, not a robot.

Holding it back has caused no negative side effects. In fact it is all benificial. I feel the same loss of sexual tension after I climax as I would if I did ejaculate. However, I don’t feel so drowsy and atrophied afterwards, which is a major plus. I can get my dick up much much quicker afterwards using this way and it often actually gives me a rush of energy after I climax this way, unlike when you ejaculate. I just don’t feel as wasted afterwards.

Now what supersizeit has some truth to it. I make sure that I cum once ever 7 days or so, because the testicals need to be refreshed with new semen and get rid of old semen that would eventually solidify and cause blockages and toxins.

However, over ejaculation drains life energy and can cause serious kidney problems later in life. It leaves you with less energy through out the week.

The key is to find the balance. Using dry climaxing as the main part of your climaxes, to preserve your testosterone levels(important in aging men especially), and preserve the amount of energy and vibrance you have in the rest of your life, whilst using ejaculation once a week or so to re-new your semen and wash away things that although far from causing any down-side, would eventually do so if you left it there for weeks or months on end.

This sounds like my first experience with masturbation when I was young (I won’t get into the age I was, but it was before I could ejaculate). I would have an intense feeling in my balls, my toes would curl and my leg would shake (depending on how long I kept it up when I was peaked. I was able to sustain that feeling for minutes on end, usually giving up because it was too intense to handle (my entire body would shake eventually).

I probably had a very strong PC muscle back then from the way I walked too. After seeing an episode of Loveline years later, though, I taught myself to stop what I later learned to be the PC muscle. I regret that decision to no end these days. I would give nearly anything for that intense feeling again.

I’m a kegel extremist too, I do it most every day and have been for longer than I can remember. I didn’t really count it as a real PE until recently though. I just wanted to stop dribbling when I first found out about it. I still dribble sometimes.. But I’ve been able to shoot about 4-9 inches sometimes lately.

I’ve mastered this technique for years now. I am even able to climax without getting an erection.

Agree with this advice, though I’ve only done it a couple of times myself, it is difficult to achieve. Dont try to do it if your tired or stressed. I stopped trying because I really think its best done with a partner and I lack one presently :-Y

Here is something I’ve discovered while reading on the Internet, I find you don’t need to clamp the pc muscles or anything like that because you stimulate in such a way as not to trigger ejaculation, it feels like a continuous orgasm. But I haven’t taken it far, I am kind of lazy and I start moaning like a female lol.

Take a lot of lube, and put it on your palm, use the inside of your palm to stimulate the top of you glans, nothing else, don’t forget to have your legs apart since that helps not to ejaculate and try to relax into it.

Try it guys, tell me what you feel, I’m curious if it’s the same for me.

That’s exactly how I feel when I do what I have posted above. I read somewhere but don’t quote me on validity of it that young males that haven’t developed yet have this type of ‘female’ orgasm. Long intense, energetic and your entire body is shaking. Afterwards you feel refreshed and awake acctually as opposed to sleepy.