I Need To Cum But Can't

I’m 23 and can’t seem to cum with a girl without jacking off before I put it back in. It’s been this way since I can remember. I used to be real nervous, but now I’m with this girl an comfortable, and she enjoys me alot, but I still can’t seem to cum just by stroking it inside her, and this is with no condom. Maybe she’s stretched out too much, she has had 4 kids. Do you think I might have injured myself and lost some sensation from on and off PE. It even takes me a while to work it up when I jack off. Here’s my mental state I used to think my dick was small because I’m black and not 9 inches. I’m like close to 7 nbp, and a little under 5 in girth. She made me feel good though, because she honestly thinks I have a big dick, and I’m sure she’s seen plenty. I hurt her once when she was riding me, and she was hesitant to do it doggy. So she is fine with it. She was trying to guess my size by some belly button method. She was like it looks like maybe 7.5 or 8. I was like yea your close. I can hit 7.5 BP by measuring from the side. Maybe my sex drive is low. Sometimes I’m real horny and other times I’m not, I feel bad if I’m not but, I still do it. I had trouble keeping it up for round 2 today. I take allergy medicine. I was taking zyrtec, now I take qdal occasionally. I have been really depressed the past few months, but like I said this has been going on a long time. I used to work put but have gotten lazy and put on about 22 extra pounds. I just started taking Nox2 and the overnight extender, and plan to join a gym this week. Will th Nox2 help with my erection strength. Is there anything else I can take to boost my drive like those pills you by at the convenient store, or something to intensify or help me orgasm without jacking off. I had been taking some anxiety medication for a couple weeks, and take a valume to help me sleep on occasion. HELP PLEASE. Do you think this is just a mental thing.

If it is a mental thing, look up ejaculatory incompetence, which is the opposite of premature ejaculation. That MAY be what you have. Nevertheless it is an interesting read, even if it isn’t your situation.

http://www.netd octor.co.uk/sex … ncompetence.htm

Take a look at my post Pumping and retarded ejaculation

You said you we’re suffering from weak erections. I would suggest a PC flex routine of sorts. That helped me in a major way. For the ejaculation problem I would suggest edging. It is supposed to help solve the problem of premature ejaculation, but edging really does teach you to control your orgasms. Learn how to please yourself and I am sure it will help your problem.

Try buying some yohimbe weed or tribulus terrestris weed. That’ll make you go really horny all the time, and it’s very good for muscle growth too.

Waytoobig, from what you write I get the impression you are occupied thinking about your size when you make love. Reserve those thoughts to your PE sessions. For me, whenever I think of technical aspects of my penis during sex, like if it really is hard enough or that she probably could take a couple of more inches, I will go limp within ten seconds and needs emergency treatment from her to come to life again. Focus on how soft and tight she feels, the lovely sounds she makes, her wonderful wetness, her exquisite fragrance when aroused, how much you love her. Try to completely forget about yourself and see if it helps.

1. Paragraphs are easier to read.

2. Very, very few men are 9”, blacks included. At 7” you are definitely not small.

3. A womens vaginal size is genetic. Having kids will only make a small difference. Kegel exercises will help tighten her up.

4. Take some time off PE. Don’t masterbate too much.

5. Intense exercise cures depression.

6. You need to stop worrying.

I was reading a thread on this site somewhere. And the topic was sensitivity while having sex. The main jest was that you can loose sensitivity if you get to rough and fast. My advice is go slow, notice how sensitive it is when you first start. Do things that promote that and don’t lose that really sensitive feeling by going to fast or to hard.

I suggest fuc**** her for hours making her see you as “the guy with amazing stamina” and then pull out and jack off over her!
I am sorry if someone has mentioned this, but do you do kegels? Do them often and daily, Try doing them in short bursts, and also try holding a kegel for a long time.

I also agree it is mainly to do with anxiety, I can’t cum if I worry myself about it and sometimes too quickly if I worry about that. I can give myself heart pains and stomach trouble just by worrying about it. The mind is a very strong thing - so just relax and know that you can last a long time and ejaculate when “you” want to :)

Good luck

I would suggest that you ask her to blow you before you stick it in. Then blow your wad just as you about to cum in mouth. If that does not work try a 69, eat her at the same time as she is blowing you. then turn fast and stick it in.